And we can see why Akshara was afraid… - Page 3

Originally posted by: R.G.C

Haan parr Goenkas dealt with those twins jinka naam main bhul gayi well, not sure if you know about that track but they showed that the twins of AG misbehaving with a girl and Karthik himself taking stand for that girl and the rest of the Goenkas too upon knowing the truth punish the twins, so yeah I think its not like they have not done anything right ever. Even in the current scenario I know that Abhim will not be that kind of a guy to just accept Shivu’s behaviour towards Abhir, and I am not questioning their parenting based on my assumptions of the future rather the past. Birlas are dysfunctional and if you think they are getting too much hate, I think its the opposite instead. Just look at my post itself, there are comments defending Birlas by normalising Abhir’s behaviour. Whereas I see almost everybody hating the Goenkas, lol. I too completely dislike the Goenkas, but I see the Birlas equally or sometimes even a bit more worse (that maybe because I have not watched s2 vehemently, otherwise I would have hated them more😆). As for Sharmas, personally they were wholesome as a family, and a breath of fresh air to me in contrast to Goenkas and Birlas, so I liked watching them

Hey so the thing is I am talking about Gen3 only.

Sorry never watched the show before.

Hope you get my point considering that.

Yaar maybe Goenkas get more hate cause of their doglapan. You didn't bother to check why your daughter is not coming home but now you act jaise kitni protective family ho.

Similarly I hate Mahima.

Moreover, personally I say things against the characters i have umeed from. Like at the moment Akshara, or AbhiM. Maybe if things and characteristics changes for Nav so him too.

Manju, Mahima toh mera fun element hain

I want them to fight 🤣

U r right m These days no one is ready for joint family system which includes me too in that . But as of now Abhir is a single child. I hope u understand what i mean to say is irrespective of what kind of family we r in, children these days are too sensitive and they r not mentally strong to handle a real life situation. This in BH is an example. Parenting is not easy these days . Schooling has become even more difficult. It is walking on a thin rope . First of all she did a mistake of putting Abhir in mental stress by using the term financial instability. And secondly leave away FD please , don't u agree to the fact that the child has kept serious issues from his parents .

Me being a mother of two is unable to fathom out the child being so close to his mother but disclose it to a stranger docman. For me that incident would have been an eye opener and I would have sat with him and cleared it out . That is one reason he is not sharing his trauma even to his dadda now . Or mother or papa ...whoe ever ...

Originally posted by: chaipaani

Usko Anxiety share krna nahi kehte hain behen 😆

Roadside bhaji wali ki Tarah ladna hi sahi, birlas se phir bhi upar hai😎 Jaise ko taisa. Arre ye dekhne ke liye toh aankhe taras gayi

That can both make or break a person though, so I don’t think he should be facing such situations then. I know people who went into depression because of this type of bullying and still till this date have confidence issues, while I have seen kids growing up confident despite staying in nuclear families. Its more situational and dependent on the personality the child inherits from his parents. As they grow, that personality grows too. So I don’t really think there is a direct correlation between having a joint family or a nuclear family, it can vary for everyone.

I am not talking about these days ....when a mother was shown talking about papa to her son when he was angry , why could she not handle a situation like custody in the best way possible. That was a beautiful mother and betu scene .

This anxiety is something caused by herself firstly she hid him and secondly she thought he will take away her son ...again we r repeating and rinsing same points ...u know already about them ..

Abhir 's case is different. There r many instances where he failed to share things with the parents whom he love so much . He used the word privacy . He was out in this situation by his own parent .

May be . It is either way as u say . U get to meet more people when u r in a group and u tend to hear many discussions either your way or against you and your brain learns to process both a yes and no . The depression bullying I said I agree but that is in severe case and the problem there too is not sharing .... I think now a days topic is mental health and there are numbers asking people to speak with your near and dear ones . I personally feel someone should be der to lend their ears to u . It can be any one a friend or a family.

Anyways thanks a ton. It was genuinely a good discussion.

Originally posted by: Avanti30

U r right m These days no one is ready for joint family system which includes me too in that . But as of now Abhir is a single child. I hope u understand what i mean to say is irrespective of what kind of family we r in, children these days are too sensitive and they r not mentally strong to handle a real life situation. This in BH is an example. Parenting is not easy these days . Schooling has become even more difficult. It is walking on a thin rope . First of all she did a mistake of putting Abhir in mental stress by using the term financial instability. And secondly leave away FD please , don't u agree to the fact that the child has kept serious issues from his parents .

Me being a mother of two is unable to fathom out the child being so close to his mother but disclose it to a stranger docman. For me that incident would have been an eye opener and I would have sat with him and cleared it out . That is one reason he is not sharing his trauma even to his dadda now . Or mother or papa ...whoe ever ...

Financial instability used as an excuse for sending abhir is terrible , I agree..but other issues like abhir keeping his health frm them and financial issues back then can be seen in a lot of ways.

Firstly , if the parents don't let the child realize that they're under duress and keep sacrificing themselves for the child to provide him everything , after a point it becomes too burdensome coz therez no limit to spending money on comforts and luxuries.

If they make the child see , he will def become sensitive to a lot of things but he also learns the value of money and his parents sacrifice . A sensitive child would automatically sense it . I have done it a lot of times and clear cut told my kids that this is what we're doing for you, this is what we plan to do and beyond that if u want something, start earning yourself.

For the child hiding his health issues it's very normal. Abhir is just 6. If he's feeling tired he doesn't know why . The reason cud be anything ranging from "I don't want to see a doctor take medicines take injections" to a simple thing like " I want to play with my friends , I can't miss the tournament " ..

I'll give my example. My 13 yr old daughter was diagnosed with anemia last week ..inspite of knowing the cause I just assumed she would be fine , her iron levels will stabilize on its own ,may be she's feeling tired bec she skipped a meal or she's dehydrated . When the same Incident happened 4 times , she felt dizzy n abt to faint , I got the hb levels checked . Therez always a thought that I was careless ..but with health issues one can never know correctly unless diagnosed medically , which most of the ppl keep delaying till she serious symptoms show up.

Originally posted by: hari15

Angry on abhinav for not getting a personal room.

Hitting abhi with dirty ball.

Writing on abhi mirror in kasauli hotel.

Thought abhi nuisance until returned money. Which as a kid he shouldn't have interfered in elders business.

What sort of influence did he have then in kasauli to be angry and do all these. Fact is abhir has abhi ka traits which can't go away with giving him in nav hands and making nav father. It's as parents abhira responsibility to set kid and make him understand it's effects and consequences. Hiding him in a no problem place won't change anything.

If not for birlas his school, work place anything would affect him one day and get his og traits out any day.

Leave about the kids ,even pets pick up the habits n values from their owners why will kids not do that , and Birla environment is not at all safe for Abhir as they always keep fighting ,screaming n shouting in the house !

Abhir had anger issues earlier but never looked sad like now.His parents used to make him understand what is right and what is wrong after listening to him. But here his dada want him to say sorry first before even asking whose mistake it is...Also, his gyaan for a kid is so boring...he is crying infront of Abhir, is that how he gonna make Abhir understand? Already the kid is sad and his rona dhona didn't even had any effect on Abhir. Only Akshara name brought a smile on Abhir

In camp, he was bullied but the way he dealt is what Akshnav's parenting....Can say it's just 5 days in BH, but in 5 days only he had to face a vile lady who scolds his mom, two grannies fighting always for what's so ever reason and the so called bully elder brother....

The BH environment is so toxic for anyone.Akshara escaped from it but Abhir was forced to keep there

Originally posted by: Krinya

Roadside bhaji wali ki Tarah ladna hi sahi, birlas se phir bhi upar hai😎 Jaise ko taisa. Arre ye dekhne ke liye toh aankhe taras gayi

Sach toh yeh hai Krinya k sab ke sab everybody pagal hain

Aur unse bade humlog jo yahan ladai danga mchate hain 🤣