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Getting married just for the sake of motherhood would be a mistake. She is marrying the man, not the child. There has to be some common ground, some mutual respect and appreciation to make it work. She is not mentally ready to be a wife to someone other than Arnav right now.

Khushi was always under pressure from parents and society for having children. She could have handled that if she did not want kids herself. It was harder because she did want them. Being labeled incapable of having children now hurts even more because its like rubbing salt on the wound.

In a village, she will never have respect as a single woman. That is driving her parents. But hopefully she will not choose to marry out of that pressure. Will she start to question the choices and decisions that are about to be made? Will she make her own decisions?

Shyam changing for the better comes as the biggest surprise. That look of adoration directed towards his daughter can not be easily faked. Is he still a bully to others? We have yet to see. If he has really changed and is genuinely sorry for what he did to Khushi and buaji, he deserves a chance.

I am yet to feel sympathy for Arnav... He is the dominating, decision making and guiding partner in this relationship all these years and Khushi has been ok about it.. But he refused her fundamental desire as a woman especially knowing how traditional she is, his decisions have been his way or highway..

Khushi did attend important parties if not all. But his way to handle things was to avoid family gatherings, meeting parents and visiting native place.. Then why blame Khushi alone for not attending the parties in the fake world! Arnav expects Khushi to not only give up desire to have kids but also isolate her from the family members simply because they bring up the topic of having kids. So self centered! He should have set records straight by tealling family that he was the one who did not want kids! They never set some give and take rules, maybe Khushi started resenting to go with him and obey his demands when he wanted her to compromise so much!

He handled the divorce proceedings so badly making her feel unloved, worthless, not required in his life indicating he has moved on, cheating not out in open yet but the list goes on..., Now when Khushi has walked out with her head held high, wants to handle things that suits her family and her talking about being mother to some other man's daughter, hope he is realizing his own mistakes led to the crumbling world within him! It was him who first chose to look for solutions outside his marriage by cheating as well as applying fo the divorce!

You made a valid point Swatstar_arshi. She did not attend the fancy parties and he did not attend the family occasions like a puja. The end result is the same. Both avoided what they did not like. He can not blame her alone. Sometimes you do things for people who are important to you, even if you don't like to. She went sometimes. Looks like he never did.

I believe the way Khushi is handling this mess shows how strong Khushi is at the core. As has been discussed previously, despite loving Arnav and wanting children badly she decided against bringing a child into a troubled marriage. His stance on the subject and the half hearted attempts would probably have added to the mess. And the physical part of their relationship is not good which is not surprising. I wonder why he agreed to it in the first place. Also, how will he feel when he finds out that Khushi never went off the pill. And, perhaps, Khushi knows more about Lavenya than he thinks.

Khushi leaves and has no contact with Arnav because it may be the only way she can handle her heartbreak. Cold turkey. Plus the way he treated her prior to the divorce, not wanting to be in the same room as her and how he handled the divorce is her acquiescing to what she thinks he wants.

I don’t agree that Khushi not earning money during the marriage is a sign of weakness and dependence. She took stock of her skills and resources and was smart enough to think of opening a daba service, take Arnav’s help and she did bring in a profit when it was needed for her to help financially. Then she started a successful NGO so she didn’t remain aimless during their ten year marriage. It is not uncommon for wealthy society people to not accept renumeration for their charitable work.

It is sad that a marriage that had love and I believe understanding reached this place. But it never really was an equal partnership. Due to Khushi’s gentle nature, traditional upbringing and yes, her being in awe of him, Arnav became the dominant partner. He always valued his responsibilities and I agree he also had a very protective nature. But this fit into his need for control. A double edged sword and it didn’t leave a lot of room for growth in the relationship.

Despite the love and the understanding of what made each other tick I’m not sure they ever took a deep dive into their feelings and relationship. Perhaps, Arnav came closer to that than Khushi. For the reasons mentioned she made him the center of her world. Surely, not all of her needs were being met; certainly not the need for children. Yet, she never seems to have spoken out passionately about her needs. I’m not sure he can be faulted for that. I am not talking about the physical passion in their marriage as they seemed to have that earlier. However, he seems to be the one who gave up first and really did behave abominably about the whole thing. But as is said, it’s never only one person’s fault that lead them to here. She just behaved with more dignity than he did. But then she knows she still loves him while he doesn’t believe he still loves her.

This story really stirs up emotions when delving into the complications of a marriage and relationships. There are some really good insights presented in the story and ensuing discussions.

Originally posted by: kizh72

I agree that she lets him make decisions. I feel she was always star struck by him, has felt that she wasn’t the person he should’ve been with. I wonder if that’s why she let him lead in many ways, plus the ideas that she imbued from her circumstances. He did get her to think, that question to her dad was that. Like you said looks like she genuinely likes kids, plus a very empathetic soul. Somehow you want her to catch a break.

You are right she does look upto him. Which is not a problem..if one admires qualities of a person. Like you pointed out her talk with her dad about kids is influenced by Arnav's thinking.

But issues that affect both there needs to there is dialogue between the two.

There was open communication,conversation early in their marriage. Her tiffin service,her spending their savings to make their home livable...his thought why she should draw a salary from NGO..

The recent recollection about kids and gala attendance is no more a conversation but a dicta of one to another. The two doing their own stuff after the argument....is a sure sign of communication breakdown

Not sure if she always thought she is not worthy of him. He is not happy with me..her comment to Aman..to me is based on last year happenings. Will have to wait for the revelation. Her interaction with Arnav and Payal post divorce is of a mature heart broken person..not the kind Arnav had imagine that she will cry and wail

She represents a certain section of society..so will not be surprised if she never gets a break.😮‍💨

The other thing I observed was that Arnav is not close to his family like he was 10 years ago. He married Khushi as his mother liked Khushi remember.

And Arnav used to feel very responsible towards his parents, he was saving up money for his father's treatment right.

But now Khushi visits his parents every other month, spends time with them and comes back. He says he visited few months ago and that's enough.

He mocks Khushi for not attending these fake parties and not developing rapport with these people, but he has distanced from people who actually matter the most.

He is lost in this fake artificial world and has forgotten the real people that matter.

Apart from Akash and Payal, I did not see anyone close to him.

Also when he says now that he will go and bring Khushi back home (I am guessing he meant Penthouse). But for Khushi home is where her loved ones live and not a building. Since Arnav cut ties with her, Mumbai is not her home anymore. These little things Arnav either has forgotten about Khushi or he does not care anymore.

Originally posted by: Pujakrishna

Continuing the discussion-

In the show we have seen the journey of ASR becoming khushi's Arnavji, but may be here the journey was from khushi's Arnavji to ASR. May be there was this sudden flow of money, success and everything which resulted to this, where he turned into ASR but khushi remained the same sweet simple khushi and probably so the difference. Arnav anyways come from a rich background, it was just the family going through a phase.

(Though absolutely nothing can convince me on the infidelity, I still cannot wrap my head around it.)

On another note- the other day while reading one of the updates, I was thinking probably, khushi and arnav would be a far cry in a real life scenario. Two people who are so starkly different from each cannot be a possibility in real life probably, and even if they do, then may be it will end just like how it did in this story.

P.s- I am an extremely ardent ARSHI fan just like you all, this is just an observation w.r.t real life. Would love to know what you all think.

All said and done, I feel, this what I said (the bolded lines) after the 1st chapter of khushi's pov seems to me is probably the basic core reason atleast for now. The last chapter made my belief more stronger.

Nothing much to say as I think everything is already being said by all the brilliant people here, who are commenting. I wait to read each one of your comments as they are as much interesting as the story, it almost feels like reading the extended version of each chapter.

And dear writerji I know i have also gone MIA on the story (just like arnav on lavanya 😝)(may be you have not even noticed with your hectic schedule)...but i am reading it all, i was/am just taking a little break from the story in terms of engaging in full blown conversations as I have realised the story has affected me emotionally much more than what I thought initially. There were instances where I have suddenly teared up during some serious situations in my real life because of this story. (It stays in my head 24*7, trust me when I say this, I am not exaggerating), and it is not a very healthy thing mentally, so I decided on the break, and i guess it had helped also to some extent... but again couldn't hold it for long.

Lastly, take a bow. You are FANTASTIC.

The way you brought back raju from the initial chapters to stir our emotions.🙏

P.s- I want to go on to dissect each and every line but I am holding the urge.

It's been a while since I've read a gripping Arshi FF. And the author of this one should take a bow!

I'm so glad I came across this story. Read all the chapters in a go. And through most of those, I was just tearing up. The amount of angst and love in this story is brought forth in such a beautiful manner. And Khushi, my heart goes out to her. She is definitely been pushed to the edge of the cliff by one blow after another. Why do I feel like the truth about Arnav and Lavanya would just push her into that pit. She is for now just functioning on autopilot mode clearly because 'the men in her life' have disappointed her. Probably this is what she's thinking Shyam would also do if she goes ahead with the marriage. But then probably the only solace she thinks she'll have then would be his daughter. In short, Khushi is just lost.

Arnav on the other hand is just bearing the brunt of his careless actions. He says he cares for her (it definitely is a twisted way of caring for your loved ones) but has pushed her this far that it has made her numb. I'm now waiting for Arnav's Interlude, if there'll be one. This boy was complex earlier but the man he has become is much more complex. Initially, he would always evaluate his actions and it's impact. But now it feels like he does what he does without thinking of the repercussions.

Waiting for the next chapter eagerly!

Continue soon.

😊

Originally posted by: coderlady

She did not like the parties and he wanted her there by his side. Another bone of contention. She was uncomfortable at these parties because she felt she did not fit in. Was it because people said things or disrespected her in any way? It was not wrong of Arnav to want her presence. You want to share your life and the successes with your partner. Over time her absence would have driven a wedge between them.

It she didn't agree with the values these people embodied, she had to be able to at least tolerate that difference. Like drinking for example. She did not have to drink but she had to be able to be around people who did.

For them to move past this, either he has to give up on that side of his life, or she has to come to terms with it enough that she can accept it.

An absolutely brilliant point. I was honestly a little tired of all the stories, shows and movies that simply tell you that if you’re a cultured person like this, you are always right to berate your partner/friends about an alternate lifestyle. Khushi doesn’t need to compromise on her individuality to become a more accepting person. But just like Arnav, she will get a chance to put forward what went through her mind all this time. :)