Originally posted by: myviewprem
OK iknow divorced women in india and abroad too who have married another man or living single
None of them go to divorced husband house ever may be for some wedding thats all
Not even for festival celebration any divorced woman or her second husband goes to first hubby house
Only if their kids are marrying may be ex hubby and ex wife get together that too they take their current hubby or wife along and be with them. If unmarried they take their parents or sibling and go to ex hubby house never alone.
Even in most modern USA its very rare that 2nd hubby goes to 1st hubby house and celebrates christmas and new year with his wife ex spouse and his parents etc
Now i come to kids of divorced hubby and wife - If there are children involved mostly i have seen most kids go with mother they visit father on weekend or holidays and do not stay with fathers second wife
90% of time kids go with mother only whether its india or USA. Whether in USA or india life is tough for divorced woman so kids will go with mom to support her in life. Even 6 year old kids knows mother is unsafe and alone and needs kids company to protect her, a ftaher is male they are not targeted by society after divorce a woman is. Hence majority kids accompany mother after divorce and support her in life.
Here all 3 kids are staying with father which is unique situation actually
I have not seen whether in india any kid staying with father permanently like Shah kids after mother left home. Usually if kid is 5 years or 15 years or 25 years old they go with mother more like 80% of time whether india or USA. They are more close to mother whether daughter or son after father divorces mother. When anupama divorced vanraj, ideally atleast samar should have left with anupam than leaving her alone Because Toshu and pakh love vanraj more. Yet i have sween kids more close to father also leaving with mother if father cheats their mom.Only in Shah case the kids are still with father which is unique situation.
What happens is husband second wife is usually insecure unlike kavya even in usa or UK and its rare a kid will get treated nicely at fathers home after he marries again. The second wife gets scared about her position and her future kids position and will not easily allow first wife kids to stay permanent with her husband unless the first wife may be dead. Even than kids go to mothers parents house and live there not with step mother. Shah kids are behaving uniquely than how usually kids all over the world when parent divorces. Especially when father cheated their mother
In 2017, 83.9 percent of children living with one parent live with their mothers, compared to 86.0 percent in 2012 and 87.5 percent in 2007. (This is USA data)
All those justifyig that anupama is mother and cannot forget her kids should remember all 3 kids never chose their mother after divorce and left her alone in that devastated state to survive alone. If malvika and anuj had not come what would anupama be doing? Cooking in school job or teaching UKG kids getting 5k- 10 k salary given her education and ability. Every divorced mother have children and have responsibility but no one goes to ex hubby house even in USA every week or other day over silly issues. If kids had so much love they should have left with anupam afater divorce and not stayed with vanraj. Than its jjustified if anupama takes care of them. If kids want mother first they must acknowledge the abuse she faced and choose her over vanraj and her in laws.
If anupama was not married to millionaire anuj kapadiya would her 3 kids come to her or want her never. They did not visit her in apartment before she married anuj, so why they want her now? When she was alone batlling this crul society why they never support her? Why should anupam abother about those useless kids who never questioned her abuse and left with her after divorce? Just because shes married a millionaire her 3 kids found love for mother and coming to meet her at kapadiyas shameless creatures.Today suddenly they fell in love with anupama because she has millionaire husband? Where was this love for last 27 years? Is this love for mother or love for mothers millionaire husband money?
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