🌈Happy Pride Month🏳️‍🌈Celebrating Diversity and Love with Pride - Page 21

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Originally posted by: BubbleTea

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I read the thread and article linked. I'm still not sure which one is true. Although both seem plausible, just need to go through more narratives.

- History is written by survivors, the earsure and alleviation of certain groups happens - all the time.

- there has been a tendency to exclude trans people and women throughout the history and this one's no exception.

Thank you for sharing this! ❤️

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Some Bisexual reccs! 💖💜💙

Love Victor S3 is out now❤️ for me, S1 was th best

Did anyone watch that one?

Two shots with LGBTQ+ characters is complete! Please do post your comment to let me know.

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Seemingly innocent transgressions are known as microaggressions and can be intentional or unintentional comments or actions directed against a person who is usually part of a marginalised group, that signal disrespect and inequality.

Microaggressions can put an LGBTQIA+ person in a position where they have to ‘come out or correct someone’ regarding their sexuality or gender identity, which can be uncomfortable. It can also be a source of anxiety if they don’t know what reception sharing this information will get.

Some real-life examples of verbal sexual orientation and gender identity related microaggressions, with an explanation of why these comments or questions can be offensive, insulting or insensitive.

Encourage an inclusive culture which is understanding and open to education. Provide support and comfort for individuals and create new positive behaviours.

• Hold yourself and others to account for any of the microaggressions highlighted above. When you notice them, you can call them out as an ally as outlined here
• Be mindful of your biases, perceptions, and stereotypes - challenge your values and heterosexist assumptions
• Challenge your view of traditional gender identities and behaviours
• Recognise there is a benefit in having different voices at the table; appreciate that a broad spectrum of people results in problem-solving skills being enhanced as there are different approaches to projects, with the diversity of thought improving the final outcome
• Ensuring there is representation and visibility from across the LGBTQIA+ community – being able to see yourself represented is important
• If you’re comfortable to, you can call out a colleague who is using the wrong pronouns about someone you work with and can say something like "Actually, this person uses these pronouns, and it’s important for us to use them as well"
• If someone speaks up against a microaggression or tells you they're hurt by what you said or did don’t argue that it didn’t happen, try and understand how your behaviour can be changed and see it as an opportunity to develop your awareness
• To minimise misgendering individuals – ask people what their pronouns are before assuming. Sharing your own pronouns invites others to share theirs too. You can ask people to include their pronouns when they introduce themselves to someone new or in workshops and meetings
• If you’re chairing a meeting, make sure you have given everyone the opportunity to contribute
• Don’t announce someone’s sexual orientation or gender identity for them – let people share what they feel comfortable with
• Instead of making assumptions, you could use neutral pronouns, i.e. they/them/their, to refer to a person’s partner instead; this prevents you from putting someone on the spot about their sexuality by asking "Is your partner a man or a woman?", or expecting them to correct you
• There are tactful ways to clarify someone’s gender identity, such as asking: "May I ask which name and pronouns you would like me to use to address you?"
• Remember that language is ever-changing, and that meanings and words can have a different significance for people; if you’re unsure it's best to ask people in an appropriate and sensitive manner
• Don’t make assumptions about people’s passions and interests based on their sexual orientation or gender identity – ask people what they’re interested in.

https://www.rpharms.com/recognition/inclusion-diversity/microaggressions/lgbtqia

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How Asexual People Feel Excluded From Queer Spaces, Complicating Their Identity

By Rohitha Naraharisetty

For better or for worse, most cultures are hypersexual. Some are better at repressing it than others. In India, sex is taboo until it isn’t: marriage is the line between chaste adoloscence and mature adulthood, a door behind which sex is a default assumption. This can, and is, dangerous to asexual people – particularly ace women, but this is hardly recognized or spoken about in any space, including queer spaces. Many have defined their experiences as aces in arranged marriages as “corrective rape.” And yet, there is little recognition – let alone solidarity – from within the queer community itself over this fact, owing to the fact that the violence is not visible in the same ways. Ace people are not likely to be visible just upon first glance by antagonistic forces, but they experience a lifelong culture of imposed sexual mores that feel violative.

Take the fact that in 2014, the Indian Supreme Court said “If a spouse does not allow the partner to have sex for a long time without a sufficient reason, it amounts to mental cruelty.” Refusing sex within a marriage can, in other words, be reasonable grounds for divorce – which in turn carries enormous cultural and patriarchal baggage, especially for women.

When Singh mentions marital rape as an ace issue, therefore, it is in recognition of the fact that compulsory, state-sanctioned sex in the form of marriage is violent. Defining sex as essential to the institution of marriage is violent. Forging solidarities around this fact would mean that asexuality can be radical – as any kind of queerness is.

“Attending to asexuality helps us broaden our understanding of love and sex… the sexual experiences of asexual people are beginning to show that we have overly narrow conceptions of attraction and enjoyment,” write Natasha McKeever and Luke Brunning

But within queer spaces, this is often invalidated – not expressing any form of sexuality is taken to be “straight-passing,” as Anandi notes. The fact that asexuality has no distinctive, visible identity markers makes it a square peg to the circular holes in queer spaces. “The people belonging to the [queer] community also don’t know what asexuality is… it is very underrepresented,” Amina adds, describing a conversation she had with her bisexual friend who didn’t understand asexuality at all. The hypersexuality within queer spaces, moreover, makes solidarities difficult to express, let alone forge. “There’s just always so much talk about sex [in queer spaces]… if you don’t feel comfortable with it – for non-homophobic reasons, mind you – you’re wrong,” says Anandi.

The exclusion isn’t deliberate, but pervasive nevertheless. Singh cites the example of pride parades, as an out and out celebration of not just diversity, but “diversity about sex.” “Asexual doesn’t mean they can’t celebrate sexuality… [but] that their form of claiming their identity is not necessarily a celebration of sex, or the different ways you can have sex, the different varieties of sexual expression… if you go to an event and find that that’s all it’s about then what does an ace person do in that situation?”

Singh’s approach to mobilizing around asexuality is different from Mehra’s in that she creates separate spaces for asexual people – noting that trying to feel included in queer and feminist spaces can get exhausting. “A lot of power was claimed as feminist by reclaiming our sexuality, by sexual liberation and owning terms that we used to shame. I will always stand for it, but we’ve left behind a large chunk of people who cannot claim power in this way… It feels like an asexual person is always left behind,” she says.

Taking asexuality seriously as an orientation does more than just validate ace people – it also holds a mirror up to society itself, and is a call to reconfigure politics around love, sexuality, relationships, and dignity.

https://theswaddle.com/how-asexual-people-feel-excluded-from-queer-spaces-complicating-their-identity/?utm_campaign=later

This article conflates two very different issues. Marital rape (and lack of recognition thereof) is a criminal matter. Recognition that keeping a spouse sex-deprived without a sufficient reason is an example of mental cruelty (a legal term used as grounds for divorce, not the same as domestic abuse) is a civil matter.

Just as sex being unwanted but obligatory is unhealthy for the asexual minority, sex being wanted but unavailable is unhealthy for the non-asexual majority. Individuals of all orientations, common or rare, should get to choose.

Isn't that all that the "mental cruelty" decision recognizes - freedom to choose? It doesn't define sex as essential to marriage; it doesn't make sex compulsory for anyone; to call freedom to divorce violent - as if it sanctions marital rape - is frivolous. All that the "mental cruelty" decision does is to allow unreasonably, perpetually sex-deprived spouses to get divorced for the sake of a healthy sex life without being guilty of adultery.

Asexual individuals should have support to come out and live in the way that is healthy for them. They should have the right to contract marriages for purposes agreeable to both spouses. However, not wanting to be labelled "divorced" is not a sufficient reason for an asexual person to trap a non-asexual person in a sexless marriage.

An asexual person's absolute right to refuse consent to sex should not negate any other person's right to have a sex life with dignity.

"Coming out is no big deal"

There is an enormous difference between "I don't care that you're queer, I love you just the same" and "I don't care that you're queer, can we talk about something else”.

Homophobia and Transphobia are incredibly powerful forces that shape the way queer people grow up. pretending they don't exist for the sake of looking "progressive" not only invalidates the struggles of queer people, but also prevents you from seeing the ways you contribute to them.

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If you think kids are too young to learn about LGBTQ people, it's because you only view LGBTQ identity through the lens of sex. You view queerness not as a complex part of someone's identity from the time they're born, but as a series of sexual acts exclusively for adults. This is wrong.

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