Aik Sitam Aur (ARY Digital); Anmol Baloch, Usama Khan, Maria Wasti - Page 108

I rewatched the first ep, and I think Ushna was flattered by his praise and gift. She probably had good feelings for him since he's always been nice to her, and they're cousins. Maybe she was thinking who knows what the future holds, but he's a sweet guy that she'd be okay with. This is a dumb example, but it's kinda like, it would be nice to eat fries for dinner tonight, but if I don't, it's not a big deal either. Those are the kinda vibes I get that Ushna feels for Sufiyan.

I feel like she's kinda indirect because that's what she really feels. Like you said, she doesn't really care who she married in the end, as long as it's Zainab's choice. I think when her feelings for Shehroz gets stronger, she'll have a more firm rejection for Sufiyan (even if he'll never listen to her).

I don't think she'll be able to have the same bond that she shares with Shehroz. Even if she made an effort with Sufiyan, his family will never be satisfied, and Sufiyan will always make her back down to cater to his family. It would have been a miserable life and marriage living with toxic people. Sufiyan doesn't have what it takes to make a marriage work, he's too immature and self-centered. He would just blame Ushna for causing unrest in the family, which Ushna would never tolerate.

A reason why Shehroz and Ushna gets so well along and has a good marriage life so far is because of their wonderful in-laws. People that praise them, that encourage them to look into their hearts, that are patient with them, that sorts problems out instead of pointing fingers and taking sides. Ushna looked so relaxed before Raeesa barged in to yell at her, she would never be at peace if she got married to Sufiyan.

I agree with you that Ushna does not love Shehroz yet, she is starting to like and care for him. I think after he got hurt, her feelings for him will gradually grow deeper. Shehroz has a lot of good qualities that she sees, she knows he's trying hard to be a good husband to her, and I think eventually it'll come together to reach her heart.

Also, despite what she felt for Sufiyan in ep 1, it pretty much all died down by the time they lived under the same roof. Ushna can't love someone that stands by to watch her get belittled and have no respect everyday. She only thought about taking his proposal because she didn't want Shehroz, it probably seemed like a lesser of two evils kinda deal. Didn't Ushna tell Zainab that she'd rather marry anyone than Shehroz? Yeah, that was how much she felt for Sufiyan. 🤣

Tbh everyone's development has been sidetracked to make way for Sufiyan.

(After reading youtube comments, I finally realized why they showed Sufiyan leaving a plate of daal untouched and walked off, it's to show that he didn't like daal. I can't even. 😒)

Why is having ambitions and wanting to be financially secure such a bad thing? What sin did Zainab and Ushna commit that they have to keep getting yelled at, humiliated, threatened, harassed, and disrespected on a daily basis by Sufiyan and his family? Isn't money what Sufiyan's family wanted when they proposed for Ushna? If Zainab and Ushna were still dirt poor, Raeesa will have put up a greater performance herself when Sufiyan was threatening them with self harm.

So what if she chose Shehroz for money and status? Shehroz gives her respect in society and she'll never have to slave away at home with endless list of chores and nags and complaints from the whole household. So what if Sufiyan loves her and he's dying from pain or whatever? She doesn't owe him anything. The way Sufiyan and his family acts, it's like Zainab and Ushna plotted and schemed and stole Shehroz away from Sadaf while engaged to Sufiyan or something. Too ridiculous. 🤣

Originally posted by: Renee.Clare

Guys, one thing is really bothering me about the drama is Ushna's feellings has not been explored properly. I want to know your perspective on this , I am tagging few but anyone can express what they feel on this.

I do not know how many of you remember the first episode when Sufiyan brings gifts for Ushna, she smiles and blushes thinking about them. If she was not romantically attracted towards him, and it was just affection, then what was the need of the scene in the starting of the episode. I feel the director has not done a good job with Ushna's feelings unexplored, director was more into how to fit Sufiyan as the second lead. Also, Ushna never told Sufiyan clearly that she never loved him , she mostly is indirect in her words when she says the same thing very clearly to Sadaf and Shehroz. Even after her marriage , when Sufiyan stops her , she says she never committed to him.

Then , with Shehroz, one day back , she was like you are not that close to my heart that I should share something with you and next day, she is smiling , blushing with him.

Is it her character very inconsistent, or she would have behaved the same way with Sufian too if she had married him ( I think so) . At this point of time , I do not want Ushna to suddenly fall in love with Shehroz ( I am assuming , she has not yet). I

feel, she is not attracted to any of them but it is the respect and love which she gets from them is making her feel like that way. She has accepted Shahroz as her husband more as a compromise like in any other arranged marriage and she is happy with that, because she only wanted respect and love from her husband which she is getting from him. She never cared who she is getting married to.

The few differences which I have noticed in Ushna's behaviour with Sufiyan and Shehroz are:

• When she heard about Sufiyan committing Suicide and Shehroz hitting Sufiyan , she was only bothered for him out of humane concerns but with Shehroz being in hospital , she is going berserk with this extent that when her mother asks about her , she is more worried about Shehroz as if she does not want to lose him at any cost . While she did not care about Sufiyan leaving the country for a second.
• Secondly, when Sufiyan confessed his love for her, she always gave very lame reactions , when Shehroz did that, she felt happy, may be because Shehroz is her husband , it makes valid for her to recipricate his feelings now. Also, she was more intesrested in knowing what Shehroz wanted to share with her , while with Sufiyan , we never saw that excitement.

Nonethelesss, after seeing Sufiyan's real face and Shehroz's caring and sensitive side, I guess, she started to melt for Shehroz and started to realise , she never loved Sufiyan actually, it was more of a affection for him. I really wish, director has focussed more on Ushna's developing feelings for Shehroz, may be discussing something with Zainab how she started to feel for him, not only as a wife but also as how different she feels around Shehroz just like we saw Shehroz's side of story.

As a character Ushna can be as confusing as she can get .

For me , the affection for sehroz came from the fact that - he is her mother's choice . So , even if she doesn't admit , but ushna also started accepting him in her heart- the time their marriage was fixed .

And also there's another theory -

You see , there is something amazing in the fact when you become lovers from enemies .

Coz you have already seen each other's worse side .Not to forget , it gives a fuzzy feeling in the heart that THE ONE WHO IS GENERALLY NOT THAT , SOFT TO ANYBODY- shows you his affection , love and care .

It just make you feel that you are special in every way . And for a person like Ushna who was mistreated and was not wanted by her previous family - wouldn't it be something precious , to feel loved not only by your husband but also your In laws ! ( Wahab and Naima are amazing)

And as for Sufiyan , she must have felt some attraction . As a young girl , anybody would ! That's why the blushing and all .

Certainly , he was soft with her previously , and in her eyes was a good person . So his intrest surely flattered her . But the spark was not there , which she found with Sehroz ....

So , it may be the reason .........❣️

Originally posted by: Renee.Clare

Ye kaun se fans hai, kahan se aate hai 🤣🤣

OTHERWISE NOONE in their Sane mind will write this .

But you never know , it may be a sarcasm . The fan wanted to write SUFIYAN DIDN'T DESERVE JAIL , INSTEAD HE DESERVED DEATH.....!

renee -- about ushna, I see the confusion due to several factors including cultural dynamics. like araya said, initially she might have flattered by sufiyan because she is young woman. plus there is the cultural dynamics of cousins marrying each other. so even if nothing has been said explicitly, there would be that idea running behind a girl's head when he would pay extra attention to her.

she was not in love with him but there might have been a what if because of the cultural dynamics. now, when she moved into their house, all of that went through the window and she turned him down explicitly. she point blank said there is no love without self-respect. she was not disappointed but downright mad at him and his family.

now that is significant -- if you love someone and they didn't stand up for you, then you would be hurt, disappointed, crying. instead, ushna was only spitting mad at the blatant lack of respect and was telling him off. you would be like that with someone who may be your friend. if she had seen him as her love, the metldown would have been very different.

to basically get back into her good books, then sufiyan decides to support zainab by trying to get a lawyer. so it was a tactic on sufiyan's part when he saw that ushna was ignoring him.

even when sufiyan left the house the first time, she is mad at being labelled that she is the cause. she tells zainab that she has not encouraged him or done anything. now, why would she be mad? if she liked him, then she would be worried for him. instead, she is upset for herself and sees the accusation as unfair. you would only feel that upset if you didn't see him in the romantic light.

then when raeesa and mehnaz came with the rishtha, it threw her into a lake of confusion. like others she assumed that zainab would likely choose sufiyan over huzaifa -- why? because sufiyan is the oldest son of the oldest brother and so he may have a leg up culturally. if huzaifa was more established, he might have had a chance as well. now no one considered the googly that zainab will reject kinship ties.

it seems like every other PK drama has them marrying cousins and when it is not, it is often mentioned that this is not the usual choice. so ushna might have expected zainab to choose family despite the drama because of cultural dynamics. hence, she considered sufiyan more. however, she was willing to abide by zainab's choice because for her, it was just arranged marriage.

we also had clashes over the dynamics -- sufiyan was approaching this like a love-cum-arranged marriage. however, for ushna, it was purely arranged marriage. this means her answer was worded along with arranged marriage protocols. in the arrange marriage setup, generally there is no direct answer to a boy or girl. instead, it is always the polite, "my parents will get back to yours" -- so the conversation is between the parents where the answer will be relayed. so it is super ambigious but also polite and safe. that is what ushna was repeatedly doing -- she was following arranged marriage protocol. however, sufiyan interpreted it as ushna being under some compulsion under zainab. he couldn't accept that she didn't feel the same way as him and was very ambivalent.

* breaking up the post to talk about her feels for shehroze -- this post is already an essay! 🤣

had this long post typed in regards to ushna's feelings for shehroze but then we lost power. hope I remember what I had typed earlier. 😆

so I don't see ushna being in the honeymoon phase as sudden. we have to take into account the whole relationship from the beginning. both of them have been hyper aware of each other -- the moment they are in each other's presence, there is sizzle and frizzle because they are physically aware. then there is the banter and clashes -- they literally cannot avoid or ignore each other when they are next to each other. there is a distinct push and pull physically as well as emotionally.

when zainab proposed shehroze as rishta, she is confused and annoyed. however, through the confusion over the rishtas, she sleeps! I found that hilarious -- if she had been in love with sufiyan and was being forced to marry shehroze, she would be crying and losing sleep. instead, her life goes on as normal and she sleeps. one sleeps well when they are contented and not worried. so heart of hearts, she was fine with shehroze as proposal even if she had concerns. she took zero steps to breaks it off other than ask shehroze to call it off. when he refused, she just eye rolled and went along with it. now these are characters that fight, why didn't she? the answer was always obvious - she was fine with shehroze because there was a kind of chemistry between them. she wasn't averse to him.

her problem was that she saw him as kharoos, arrogant and annoying -- she could not see the pluses that zainab was seeing. have mentioned it before but the cemetery and the hospital scenes with zainab were key for both in realizing the people underneath the masks. this means that they were able to see each other -- at the same time, they are still themselves.

when zainab tells her about the proposal, zainab says the rishta of shehroze offers ushna respect and protection. when it comes to protection, it isn't just material wealth but also emotional well-being. ushna really realizes that when she finds out she was adopted. both naima and wahab knew but they never treated her as less. even shehroze knew but never used that as a card to put her down. when she was vulnerable and crying in the cemetery, he looks out for her in his own brusque way. he was protecting her.

ushna's concern about the proposal was if respect and protection enough for marriage and she asks what about love. now that is a strange question unless someone is yearning for love isn't it? her concern was that she would be stuck in a loveless marriage her whole life. that was her issue with shehroze. if she was marrying him, she wanted to be loved by him.

like naima said, ushna has come to terms with her adoption but there is a kind of emptiness and lack of rootedness. that is why naima said that she needs love and attention -- to feel the sense of belonging and feeling ties and kinship.

I liked that shehroze struggled with his ego and his fears of being rejected. for someone with pride, there is a sense of fear -- if he confesses how he feels, then ushna holds a sense of power over him because of his feelings. so by lettting her know openly that he likes her just as she is, it immediately brings down both their walls where they can now acknowledge what was underneath. she then immediately blossoms and is excited. she can now feel like she belongs to him without fear or needing to protect herself.

ushna is also a very affectionate type person once she accepts someone as her own. she needed that sense of belonging with shehroze especially after feeling lost about the adoption. so that is why she is reciprocating now with stuff like cooking breakfast -- she is not afraid to show how she feels and how happy she is. there is no fear of rejection or the need to protect one's heart.

however, even with the honeymoon phase, they are still themselves which means they are still having their usual banter and not giving cheesy movie dialogues -- the difference is that they are both amused by the banter and having fun because they know they like each other and the feelings are mutual. ❤️

Originally posted by: Araya

I rewatched the first ep, and I think Ushna was flattered by his praise and gift. She probably had good feelings for him since he's always been nice to her, and they're cousins..........

Yes, now, I am seeing it from other perspective. She was little attracted towards him but not that she loved him. I think, the director wanted to set this narrative from the start to end that how Shehroz is a better one for Ushna and Zainab's decision for her daughter was right.

I think when her feelings for Shehroz gets stronger, she'll have a more firm rejection for Sufiyan (even if he'll never listen to her).

This!! Yeah, at present, it is more like her mother's decision. Once she accepts Shehroz as her own completetly, she will be more firm in telling Sufian to back off.

I don't think she'll be able to have the same bond that she shares with Shehroz. .......

Agreed, family environment is one the major reasons in seeing Sufiyan as a bad choice.

I agree with you that Ushna does not love Shehroz yet, she is starting to like and care for him. I think after he got hurt, her feelings for him will gradually grow deeper.

Yes, she has already started becoming fond of him, after seeing his soft side hiding behind the rude , arrogant Shehroz.

Didn't Ushna tell Zainab that she'd rather marry anyone than Shehroz? Yeah, that was how much she felt for Sufiyan. 🤣

Haha , I loved this one by her 🤣

Sorry, I selected few portions from.your text for the reference, so it does become too long.

Thanks for your perspective , I loved reading it.❤️

Originally posted by: Madhuilove

For me , the affection for sehroz came from the fact that - he is her mother's choice . So , even if she doesn't admit , but ushna also started accepting him in her heart- the time their marriage was fixed .

Oh yes, that is the beauty of them, isn't it.? How they started to accept each other for their parents.

Coz you have already seen each other's worse side .Not to forget , it gives a fuzzy feeling in the heart that THE ONE WHO IS GENERALLY NOT THAT , SOFT TO ANYBODY- shows you his affection , love and care .

I completetly agree with this, it does happen, as human beings we are more bothered by why someone is ignoring us or not nice to us and when that person starts to behave nicely, you do get certain kind of attraction towards that person. When someone says , be it Naima or Saira that how Ushna turned Shehroz into a softer one, she cannot stop blushing and smiling. It does tell , how strongly, Shehroz has started to affect her.

It just make you feel that you are special in every way . And for a person like Ushna who was mistreated and was not wanted by her previous family - wouldn't it be something precious , to feel loved not only by your husband but also your In laws ! ( Wahab and Naima are amazing)

True, Ushna wanting love and attention just like she used to get from her father who treated her like a princess despite his finacial issue, is very much comes from after her father's death.

And as for Sufiyan , she must have felt some attraction . As a young girl , anybody would ! That's why the blushing and all .

Lol, so true. If men treat you nicely and give you that respect , then it is quite natural. So , that happened to her.

Certainly , he was soft with her previously , and in her eyes was a good person . So his intrest surely flattered her . But the spark was not there , which she found with Sehroz ....

Yes, there was no spark , mainly because Sufiyan was not a strong man with spine. Giving respect is not enough but fighting and standing with your women when she needs you the most also matters.

Loved , loved to read every bit of it. Thank you!!♥

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

cultural dynamics. so even if nothing has been said explicitly, there would be that idea running behind a girl's head when he would pay extra attention to her.

Yes, I agree to this. She is a kind of girl like you said before too, she would have accepted anyone her mother chooses, at that point may be Sufiyan was the most obvious choice considering he was liked by her parents and he was the eldest cousin too.

she point blank said there is no love without self-respect. she was not disappointed but downright mad at him and his family.

She started to see the reality behind all the fairy tale thingy which Sufiyan was trying to show her before her father's death.

now that is significant -- if you love someone and they didn't stand up for you,the metldown would have been very different.

This is so right. Him not standing up her made her whatever small feelings she had for him dead.

to basically get back into her good books, then sufiyan decides to support zainab by trying to get a lawyer. How clever this guy was? His motives were always selfish. Glad , I never liked him.

if she liked him, then she would be worried for him. instead, she is upset for herself and sees the accusation as unfair. you would only feel that upset if you didn't see him in the romantic light.

This!! She never was bothered for him in the whole drama.

* breaking up the post to talk about her feels for shehroze -- this post is already an essay! 🤣

Haha 😂😂😂 I understand.

Wow, loved reading it girl. ❤️ Now, I am understanding Ushna in a better way. So, I guess writer has done a good job, it just that I was not able to gauge these pointers especially the cultural dynamics part. Thanks yaar ♥

@mango.falooda , your post on Shehroze one is giving me butterflies to watch their scenes once again. 🤣 I will reply to that soon, it is so good and beautiful, when I see them in the light you wrote. Lol.

Also , Araya and Madhu's posts too. They are all making me more obsesssed with Ushna and Shehroz.🤣