No excitement for wedding - Page 2

Mujhe ab poore serial mein koi exctiment nahi reh gaya pehle to itna drana jhagada dikhayenhe itna jhagda dikhayenge phir ek dum. Se subko acha bana na denge

Cvs are fluctuating the character which irrtate me lot

Agar koi improve hua agar usme good change aaya hai to uske peeche koi story to honi chahiye

Seems like cvs are very lazy in changing settings isliye sub ko ek saath ek hi jagah pur dikha dete hai

Agar shsh house aur anuj ka ghar roj roj dikhana, pace to makers ko roj roj setting change karni padegi jo makers ko lazy ki वजह से, karna nahi chahte. Isliye woh baar ek hi ghar dikhate hai that is shsh house

Originally posted by: strancho

I too did not have much excitement because in my honest opinion they rushed the marriage. But I will agree they still have that charm because of which I am still sticking inspite of cribbing everyday.

1. You have already answered your question.

2. This one am interested as well. But we both know that other man will bow down everytime, so nothing new we are gonna see.

3. Her priorities are already set: Bapuji, Baa, her 3 kids, 3 kid's partners, her kid's father, Dolly and her family, Shah house and it's surroundings. Then Anuj and his family

I would have preferred to see that romance and marriage as something that happens while her life moves forward towards betterment. Unlike how it is now shown as the holy grail of life. That is a wrong message. Marriage is not the holy grail. A girl irrespective of her age must have her own footing in this world. If love and marriage happens along the way, it's a bonus. But, like you said, agree about charm and hanging in.

ROFL at the order of priorities you have listed🤣

Originally posted by: SmithaRam

I would have preferred to see that romance and marriage as something that happens while her life moves forward towards betterment. Unlike how it is now shown as the holy grail of life. That is a wrong message. Marriage is not the holy grail. A girl irrespective of her age must have her own footing in this world. If love and marriage happens along the way, it's a bonus. But, like you said, agree about charm and hanging in.

ROFL at the order of priorities you have listed🤣

Honestly I would have preferred Anuj being her friend and guide her towards light. That was the main reason for their charm. I would have been okay if his love remained unrequited forever. But as I said in one of my earlier post, since the hero of the story was not getting any attention they threw Anuj's character development from Burj Khalifa to ground floor. His character nowadays is like a patient's heartbeat who is on the verge of dying but occasionally we see some spikes in that sine/cosine wave.

Originally posted by: myviewprem

Honestly as i observed till 2005 or 2010 or so hardly men helped in kitchen even in big city like mumbai or delhi etc also its only the new gen below 35 who really help wives or mothers in kitchen nowadays. At most they would help kids in study and play with them thats all nothing more actually. Anuj kind of men are 5% in india and 30% in USA may be. Even in USA tough to get anuj kind of men who cook actually at home. But they definitely help by clearing snow, washing clothes etc such jobs at most. Kitchen work is mostly womens job like wife or mom or daughters thats what even USA men think (at most they will wash vessels and sweep mop may be but cooking is still not thought as men job in full world)

And as far as our previous generations(mothers) was there they would work twice more than this gen in house

Now last 10 years people order from online or hotel like USA/UK but before 2010 this culture of eating outside orders was not there actually

No matter what food was cooked at home mostly

Only in last 10 to 15 years eating out or ordering out frequently increased in india

Joint family if women are there like mother in law sister in law help is there. But if majority are men its tough at home like 90% male and only 10% women or girls are smaller like a pakhi than all responsibility fall on one woman the married lady like anupama only

I do not agree anupama did not get help so was late to work so lost job. Our moms or auntys would wake up 4am or 5am and cook, leave kids to school or college and run to office on time doing everything that anupama did actually for full family. Anupama never truly trioed hard like our moms to put effor forjob and be independent. She requires push and hand holding from samar, anuj etc unlike many other women who love to work and be independent despite many issues. Even today many professional woman get up 5am cook do everything and than run to office actually 70% do that in cities only(after wedding). Before wedding mothers do the house work so daughters get up in leisure and go to work. But after marriage its not same as before wedding. Anuj kind of husband is hardly 5% in india even lesser actually even today. Do brothers help in kitchen work no they study or play in school and college. But daughter expected to help in house work even today by parents in cities. Only 10% may not expect that from a daughter just like they do not want son to do it. Its in society and culture issue. So next 4-5 gens also changing much is doubt they will be like vanraj than anuj kapadia only. Anuj is way he is as hes brought up in USA for 27 years thats culture there to expect men to do house work unlike india. India if hubby does house work they mock or in laws object. If anuj mom was alive today i doubt he would have learnt cooking or house work just like a vanraj. Bec he lost mom at young age and mukku too little to work in kitchen he learnt.

Honestly, it's not even about whether men help or not. Moms, stay at home or not, usually do not keep bragging at the drop of a hat about being noble and keep glorifying their work. They just don't. What Anupama does is OTT.

My day also begins pretty early, somewhat similar to what you have described in your posts. If I keep dishing out lectures like her, I'll be taken to a nearby mental hospital

What this show has done is glorify stay at home moms and very subtly put down those who work outside home as well.

Show has also gone overboard in glorifying women to the extent that they are goddesses if the slog at home. Unrealistic fluff to show that the other side isn't good. That's my view. Others opinion on this may vary.

I don't know where cvs has disgrace working women. If rakhi and kavya were crictise it is only because of their personal nature not because both are working women

I don't see anywhere saying ki rakhi kya kaam karti है kaam to anupama karti hai. Maine to aaj tuk kahin nahi suna kisi episode mein jisne rakhi ko ghar kaam na karne aur working women ke naate kise ne taunt kiya ho

Kisi ne bhi rakhi or kavya ko as working women taunt hi nahi kiya hai

To pata nahi kahan se baat aa ragi hai ki yeh working women ko disgrace karte hai

Yes working women like rakhi do disgrace anupama just because anupama was house wife not much padhi likhi to is wajah se rakhi ka crictise hota hai . Agar rakhi anupama ki uncessary insult karegi of course she will be cricrise whether she is working women or not

If we want appreciation of house wife whose wishes curb by her husband to isme working women ko disgrace karna, kaise ho gaya samajh nahi aaya,

When I was in college a girl was married at 18 and she was very frustrated that his husband did not wiork at home and told us wk baar mehmaan aaye main kaaam karke itna tired hogi maine chai ki tray guest ke saamne jor se rakh duya

Bahut si ladies frustrated hui hai if they work continusly but woh apna frustrated कहीं दिख नही पति thi आखिर unki sungega kaun

Agar woh ladies are work holic agar woh moooh se khuch nahi bol rahi koi complain iska matlab yeh nahi unhe koi dukh nahi hai

Lot of ladies keep quite because unke pass doosra optiion nahi hai

J

Yes most of men don't help his wife because it was said he is men to yeh samasya purani और almost har jagah to isiliye is baat ko लेकर leena Ganguly apne writing ke medium. Se show kiya hai ki ki yeh mentaliy kitni galat hai ki wife ko ghar ki naukrani ki tarah treat karo और हसबैंड को किंग की tarah

You have company. 🤗I have no interest in the events either. I find them rather silly/OTT.

let's shake hands.😊

However, I am curious to know what's in store after that.

- Does she build an identity(astitva) of her own? Or will she remain what she is now, mother to her kids, and someone's wife?

It seems the ultimate goal of life is marriage; everything is secondary.

For AK, he has attained the path of salvation; what else does he need now??

- How does she work out parenting while being married to another man, who is not her kids' father ?

Her kids have grown up but they can not take care of themselves; Nobody is as knowledgeable as Anupama Di. Kinjal also needs her every time. It seems RD has downloaded Kinju baby from the Internet. She knows nothing about preg; even doctors are fools, Kinju baby visits DR. just to say hello /Hi.

I am upset bcoz makers have made fun of pregnancy, maa..... How can kinju forget that she has got values from her family; not from Shah's family. Instead of giving respect to her mom, she sings praises of Anupama every time.

- How will she balance priorities after her 2nd marriage?

Originally posted by: surabhi01

When I was in college a girl was married at 18 and she was very frustrated that his husband did not wiork at home and told us wk baar mehmaan aaye main kaaam karke itna tired hogi maine chai ki tray guest ke saamne jor se rakh duya

Bahut si ladies frustrated hui hai if they work continusly but woh apna frustrated कहीं दिख नही पति thi आखिर unki sungega kaun

Agar woh ladies are work holic agar woh moooh se khuch nahi bol rahi koi complain iska matlab yeh nahi unhe koi dukh nahi hai

Lot of ladies keep quite because unke pass doosra optiion nahi hai

J

Yes most of men don't help his wife because it was said he is men to yeh samasya purani और almost har jagah to isiliye is baat ko लेकर leena Ganguly apne writing ke medium. Se show kiya hai ki ki yeh mentaliy kitni galat hai ki wife ko ghar ki naukrani ki tarah treat karo और हसबैंड को किंग की tarah

forget husbands do brothers help mom and sister at home nooo

Does samar and toshu work in kitchen no

than in this serial anupama herself failed to teach her sons any equality n house work first

why only kinjal and anupama should work in kitchen plese because they are daughter in laws and girls?

Why cannot vanraj saamra and toshu do anything in kitchen

why only tanas to kavya for not doing kitchen work

samar and toshu are jobbless atleast help in kitchen

Only reason anuj is doing kitchen work as his mom was dead when mukku was too young at her death to do any home work and he was unmarried so far and also he had guilt of making mukku orphan so may be he did all house work

Otherwise too women before wedding do very less work at home its their grandmom, mom, babhi who actually do work

Even if woman goes home on holiday they rest at mom house not do house work actually - papa ki pari

Like Mukku is anuj ki pari hes like her parent toh baby daughter never do work they enjoy life and are fed food even at 35 and called bacchi by dads and brothers

Sisters and daughters have special priviliges over a wife and mom in any mans eyes in world

They remain papa ki baby brother ki bacchi all life

But wife and mother(or bhabhi) are not seen as pari and baby by any man actually

I have heard many time in mayka I have heard ki sasural jaaogi tub pata chalega.

Even mother those who have 6, 7 children unki elder sister ko younger sister brother ko sambhale ke liye de diya jaata hai

To aisa nahi mayke wale har time supportive hote

There was marriage in my neibhoour house and his father was telling daughter sasura chahe jaisi ho tumko sasural mein nibhana hoga tum apme sasural walaon se lad jhagad ke mut aana, nahi yahan mayke pe aame ko nahi milega

Bahut se video aaye jahan pur wife ko bachon ke saath ghar se niksl diya hai aur mayyko walon ne daughter ko apne saaTh rakhne ko mana, kar diya hai

Originally posted by: shubhK2308

I agree to you to a good extent...but regarding Kinjal telling her mom not being there for her,is not something new to witness.

Yes,there are many parents who go to work leaving their kids at home with a nanny,but every child is different,and trust me when you are an only child,and your parents are away for long hours you tend to become reserved and lonely. That's why many parents leave the child with their grandparents who can give them the care and emotional support in their absence...so that's a debatable topic,this in now way disregards working women or homemakers.

Everything cannot be perfect,people tend to compromise on something or the other...especially women.

Working women have to compromise on not being able to spend much time with their kids,and housewives tend to compromise on their dreams and ambitions.

Well said

I totally agree with each and every point

I feel in present scenario when inflation is rising, women are not just working for their dreams or ambition only, they are working to give better life to kids, paying EMIs. Today, when even a glass of water does not come free, it is not easy to give all comfort to kids; leave comfort, education has also become so expensive. To make kids capable to face this competitive world, activities other than education are also imp. for everything; dance, painting to sports, pick, drop; everything needs money.

At the end of the day, either working women, or housewives; both are doing everything for kids.

Sorry, I am going off-topic but why do we forget about men; they are also traveling 3-4 hr daily, giving 24x7 support to the office; even after that, they don't complain. They try to help at home in the best possible manner. I have many friends who teach their kids after coming from the office; help in the kitchen also.

they are also working for their family. May be, percentage is less. but we should also appreciate men also.

Ultimately the aim of each parent is to do the best for his/her child.