What's the best age to get married? - Page 13

Originally posted by: pathaka

That’s awesome to hear that things worked out for u in the end ..…god bless and wishing u lots more happiness😊

Thank you! And wishing you the same. May God bless you in abundance. 💝✨

I would say whenever you have found the right person, and feel emotionally, as well as financially ready for it. Same goes for having children, which is actually an even bigger step.

I'm in my 20s myself but young guys around my age group who get married and bring their wife to their parents house to both be dependant on his parents annoy me to no end, and it's even worse with young people who have children before either parent is able to provide for the child properly and they expect the grandparents to fulfill that responsibility...

Anyway just sticking to the subject of marriage here, I'd say regardless of the calendar age of the two people, it's always best to have a long relationship (1-2 years or more) and get to know each other properly, whilst also preparing yourselves mentally, emotionally, financially for it all within this time before moving to the next step (i.e. getting married).

Originally posted by: Kamala05

I got married because I don't have any other option to a male chaunist and loneliness was the worst thing happened to me in those three years. When I come out of it, I lost the desire to live, I was not sure why I should live. I was always a person with lack of self confidence and low self esteem and the failed marriage made the situation worse .

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Originally posted by: pathaka

“no one Will marry u”…”after 30 no one will marry u they will want younger girls ..”…” u don’t have the qualities for a love marriage arranged is the only way “ ..” u have to compromise” ..”ur chances of conception are less “ …”it’s not necessary to be attracted to the guy u marry …oh but we want kids soon coz time is running out ..”….fine lemme go sleep with a guy I don’t like 😕

and all sorts of nonsense that just made me sick and uncomfortable

Heard it all …have been humiliated enough in family events …

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Originally posted by: Dirdam

Here people get married around 32 and have the kids at 35 or even 40.., i think the perfect age is between 25-28.

Are kids born at 35 to 40 normal? I have heard that most of them have some major physical or mental conditions at birth.

Also being pregnant at 35 to 40 isn't that risky to life or takes a toll on the body?

Originally posted by: Phenyl

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mujhe karni hai.. mujhe karni hai.. mujhe karni hai..

Originally posted by: Almirah

Are kids born at 35 to 40 normal? I have heard that most of them have some major physical or mental conditions at birth.

Also being pregnant at 35 to 40 isn't that risky to life or takes a toll on the body?

Well no such issues. Pregnancy isnt risky..but some people may find it difficult to conceive after 40..lots of hormonal changes. Plus, u don't have the energy to run errands and patience to put with kids' teenage tantrums in ur 50s😆

As for baby's well being..there r multiple scans n tests done throughout pregnancy..if something is amiss docs would inform.

Won't suggest anyone marry really young (If marriage is in their life plan). I also want them to have financial independence before and after marriage. I have personally dealt with people, mainly women stuck in loveless, unhealthy, abusive marriages mostly because of lack of financial freedom.

In my case, I happily married to the man of my choice, and we don't want any children. It's hard for many people to understand childfree marriage. I have been known for my no-filter-sharp-tongue in my family; the elders don't have the guts to confront me, so my mother and sister were soft targets. Since it's been 10 years, they have learned to give appropriate responses to others' unwarranted questions about me.

There is no right "age" to get married. Marriage requires maturity that doesn't depend on age. Some people get there fast, some people never get there.

You should marry if

- You are financially, emotionally, and socially independent and do not become codependent on other people.

- You love yourself as a whole person and do not need someone to validate or complete you.

- You find a compatible person who isn't going to try and change you and you're on the same page with things such as kids, careers, household task distribution, etc. Most importantly be on the same page about what constitutes infidelity.

Originally posted by: Almirah

par kyon 💔

mujhe karni hai.. mujhe karni hai.. mujhe karni hai..

Originally posted by: Almirah

Are kids born at 35 to 40 normal? I have heard that most of them have some major physical or mental conditions at birth.

Also being pregnant at 35 to 40 isn't that risky to life or takes a toll on the body?

Women have many problems reason why this country is full of fertility clinics, many families pay up to more than 30.000€ for inseminations after many abortions and problems to get pregnants, it's a big issue that no one wants to talk about it.