Didi and her aggressiveness!! - Page 3

Originally posted by: MuguetDScorpion

I think you are not understanding my point or not reading what you don't want to read. You are just reading that I said Sai brings Pakhi everywhere. 😆 That's not the only thing I said.

I already mentioned Virat is definitely at fault and it's time he actually bans Pakhi from entering their room and life. And if there is something urgent at least teach her to knock and take permission to enter. He is damn irritating when he keeps mum. That's probably why the entire forum enjoys when he does Didi's epic beizzati. Done dusted about Virat's mistakes.

Sai being insecure is also normal and as I said it's fine to bring her when needed. Like she used to do earlier. Her reaction is justified.

The only part where she goes wrong is when she brings her unnecessarily. As I mentioned she can take her name even while she is going out on an ice cream date. That's when things get irritating. There is no excuse about how she ruining her own peaceful moments. Soon she will be reading her study books and take Pakhi's name. If that happens whose fault will it be ? Hers only. That's my point. Someone can invade in your life and mind but you have the power to cut them off when you can.

In short 90% times she is right but 10% times she overdoes it. That's all I had to say. 😳

Its not like I am not reading your answers, because you mentioned how Ajinkya and Aniket rant by Virat lasted for a week.. I answered how and why they lasted for a week. I dont think you can assume on my part on what I am reading.

Even I said Sai mentions Pakhi only when there is a recent incident or Pakhi's presence that has not been answered by Virat. I had pointed out when I feel she was unnecessarily mentioned, especially during Virat's hospital track. After the whole poolside conversation, I have usually not found her rant excessive, since none of her questions were clearly answered. As a partner, some scenes, some conversations, some instances and some anecdotes are stuck in her mind and they have not been answered. It has just been called past. It does not work that way.

Right now the equation between him and Pakhi is not clear after what all she has seen and observed. So for her date itself wont be normal. She brings Pakhi only when its related to Virat, because her existence in his life is not clear to her, even her own existence is not clear at the moment. There is certainly and excuse for her bringing her up in her peaceful moments, because she has no answers to so many questions.That is my point.

Power to cut them off can be exercised when the whole Kaaynat is not against your power to cut them off. Here its not the case.

Originally posted by: MuguetDScorpion

I am not saying she has to. In fact it's pretty much normal. For example I can talk about that taunting mocking colleague but I won't let that guy ruin my whole day. If I am eating my lunch, I won't take his name. If I am shitting after that, I won't bring his name. Sai is right but sometimes she overdoes it.

BUt when one is shitting and the same person would stand outside the same bathroom knocking the door, knowing that there are other available, mood while shitting will surely go off 😆

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

BUt when one is shitting and the same person would stand outside the same bathroom knocking the door, knowing that there are other available, mood while shitting will surely go off 😆

That time yes but for example today why did Sai take her name first. I would have understood if she had after Pakhi entered. But just before, Pakhi was nowhere related to the convo. I am talking about those moments.

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Its not like I am not reading your answers, because you mentioned how Ajinkya and Aniket rant by Virat lasted for a week.. I answered how and why they lasted for a week. I dont think you can assume on my part on what I am reading.

Even I said Sai mentions Pakhi only when there is a recent incident or Pakhi's presence that has not been answered by Virat. I had pointed out when I feel she was unnecessarily mentioned, especially during Virat's hospital track. After the whole poolside conversation, I have usually not found her rant excessive, since none of her questions were clearly answered. As a partner, some scenes, some conversations, some instances and some anecdotes are stuck in her mind and they have not been answered. It has just been called past. It does not work that way.

Right now the equation between him and Pakhi is not clear after what all she has seen and observed. So for her date itself wont be normal. She brings Pakhi only when its related to Virat, because her existence in his life is not clear to her, even her own existence is not clear at the moment. There is certainly and excuse for her bringing her up in her peaceful moments, because she has no answers to so many questions.That is my point.

Power to cut them off can be exercised when the whole Kaaynat is not against your power to cut them off. Here its not the case.

I didn't mention them. You did that's why I said Ajinkya and Aniket don't last so that's why we don't get irritated easily. TBH Ajinkya's mention by both Sai and Virat used to piss me. Aniket I actually like him. 🤣 So I don't care if both mention him.

Anyways no point writing the same thing again and again. 😆 You believe in letting the problem in and I believe in letting the problem out as much as possible.

Originally posted by: MuguetDScorpion

That time yes but for example today why did Sai take her name first. I would have understood if she had after Pakhi entered. But just before, Pakhi was nowhere related to the convo. I am talking about those moments.

For this reason

She said how his bf told they share no husband wife relationship She is indirectly telling how his ex comments about their relationship everytime & he never asked her to stop poking her nose in their relationship matters. And virat didn't say anything to pakhi when she is talking about his relationship with sai infront of everyone but getting irritated if sai says what his bf told. When the wife is constantly ridiculed by the husband's ex for being with her husband & the husband doesn't say anything to the ex. Then it's hard to ignore. It's unfair to say she shouldn't bring up that name just because it spoils husband's situational good mood. Everyone can't react according to his mood. He too needs to understand how much his wife is going through because of his past & he is doing nothing to secure her.

Had virat made pakhi shut when she was telling how sairat are not husband & wife because of different rooms & by which right sai will live in CN. Then sai wouldn't have brought the matter that ur bf told this about our relationship. That's why most of the talks of her about pakhi are not unnecessary. It was her hurt & disappointment at virat speaking.

Originally posted by: MuguetDScorpion

That time yes but for example today why did Sai take her name first. I would have understood if she had after Pakhi entered. But just before, Pakhi was nowhere related to the convo. I am talking about those moments.

Because she was the one who was freely commenting on their relationship few minutes back, on their sleeping arrangements, revealing shamelessly to the family. She was the one who commented on their relationship when everyone else were just fine with what was decided for them. Who gave her the right? How did she reach here, to pass such comments?Was it not insulting for her?She was indirectly telling him how his best friends has always been freely commenting on their relationship, in their room and infront of the family as well.

Originally posted by: MuguetDScorpion

I didn't mention them. You did that's why I said Ajinkya and Aniket don't last so that's why we don't get irritated easily. TBH Ajinkya's mention by both Sai and Virat used to piss me. Aniket I actually like him. 🤣 So I don't care if both mention him.

Anyways no point writing the same thing again and again. 😆 You believe in letting the problem in and I believe in letting the problem out as much as possible.

I did not say you mentioned Ajinkya and aniket the first time.I did for sure. .I said you mentioned about how their rant by Virat did not last wrong.I am talking about you saying how it was just for a week and presented my views on why t lasted for a week in comparison to Sai's forever rant, I brought them up to talk about how insecurity works... Virat went on and on with Ajinkya Jaap just after the performance. Ajinkya and Pakhi were not same.

@bold Again you are assuming on my part. I am not assuming on your part though. That would be extremely personal if one says I believe in letting the problem in. I am simply saying, here the problem is always in constantly 24*7. Going about my personal life, I dont let anyone walk over me or my loved ones, not even my close ones. So there is no question of letting a problem "in".

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Because she was the one who was freely commenting on their relationship , on their sleeping arrangements. She was the one who commented on their relationship when everyone else were just fine with what was decided for them. Who gave her the right? How did she reach here, to pass such comments?Was it not insulting for her?

Originally posted by: Kumuda-123

And virat the husband not once asked that lady to shut up when she was talking about their relationship & their private matter. But gets irritated if his wife says what his bf said. How a wife supposed to be okay with such comments by husband's ex & husband allowing the ex to make such comments. She legit said in what right sai will stay in the house as they are not husband & wife now & the husband listened all her nonsense silently.

I dont get this aspect of Virat anymore... How hurtful and insulting it is when your sleeping arrangements are discussed by your husband's ex infront of the family, your relationship is discussed, with the husband all silent, while the same husbands reaches peak of anger, when you go wrong.

I agreed with u. Initial days sai askd her nt to interfere b/n them. But virat took pakhi side and askd sai not to cross the limits. And pyaaricheez, biggest mistake of accepting post in gadchiroli., virat and sunny phone convo when pakhi left house, virat accusations on sai and restlessness when pakhi left home. After pakhi came back shd never askd pakhi to dnt come to their room. She was kept quiet while pakhi trying to feed virat with her hands. And she used to leave the reave for their privacy many times where virat and pakhi are chatting .