No anger No hurt, Mr. IPS !! - Page 4

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

I understand his frustrations , his feelings, his hurt, his desolation but not this..

No amount of anger..NO amount of Hurt..No amount of disappointment , No Amount of desperation to run away from the "love of his life".. I REPEAT no amount of anything he is feeling right now...gives him the right to behave this way.. Virat Chavhan needs to keep a check on his anger/irritation when it comes to Sai.. Today Sai is being not like by many for becoming "Sai Virat Chavhan" and not remaining the Sai Joshi we fell in love with....when she is in love with Virat Chavhan..

What has she become in love for this man , is seen in just this 2 seconds video...Sai Joshi would have given back and really bad, if this treatment was given to her a year back..

And I am sorry makers, since this was not in original and your creativity, I would make and earnest plea DO NOT turn this man, the man who is also IPS officer into an abuser, every time he is not able to deal with his emotions ONLY w.r.t. Sai.. This is border-line abusive..

Yet again IF brilliant rules made me do this..The behaviour I am quoting is posted in SM thread, because of the video being from other site.. Please open it for reference!

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/post/158549274

Did u remember hot tea spilling on virat's hand, acha baad mein paani dal diya to sab theek ho 👏gaya , I know d answer she don't do deliberately , he was irritating her blah blah blah endless excuse to defend sai .

Sai needs to grow spine & have guts to leave virat jo ki unke bas ki baat nhi hai vo sirf rant kar sakti hai.

Sai aapko pehle wali isiliye nhi lag rahi kyunki usko mehnat karni pad rahi apne punching bag ko vapas laane ke liye & she is craving for his attention which he is not giving her

Originally posted by: Rdigest

Yes his anger is justified but not this behavior. Like he once told Pakhi he would never insult Sai if she doesn't accept his love, I would have preferred if he just ignored her.

I agree with Ramya and the list she pointed out. He has always been this way show his rage and then cry for forgiveness. I was saying something similar to Pooja too, he will cry buckets when he realizes what his indifference and anger have done to Sai.

Yup, she should let him be and stay away or better really tell him what she thinks and leave for good. At this point she is unable to control her emotions for him, so she is trying to take care of him inspite of all the insults. Virat think Sai doesn't understand his actions and he doesn't understand Sais actions. Is it me or Sai has never said he doesn't under my actions cause most of the time she blurts out what is in her mind I guess🤔.

What a sad state of affairs. I am just waiting for Virat to hurt her more in cafe after she sees him holding Pakhis hand which would be the last nail in the coffin😭

@bold 1: I guess she just realised that the day she has been scared about is supposed to be today, its almost here, she is not able to deal with it all and on top of that he is sick as well..

@bold 2 : Dont even get me there, Someone who reacted that way when it came to Sai and Ajinkya, goes on to allow this with the woman who has been so open in her advanced towards him.. I am waiting for the episode..to see how and what that hand holding scene comes out to be...

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

Perfect example of why SaiRat shouldn't be together. The burden of this complicated relationship, the burden of bearing Virat's emotional baggage has made Sai lose the autonomy to set boundaries. She has no one to fall back on, no one to give her power and strength - to maintain her free will.

I understand where Virat is coming from. I still do not think he is acting out of ego or anger (atleast until now) or attempting to punish her. Has he truly accepted, in his heart, that Sai doesn't love him - not really. He is not able to take it - definitely not because his ego is hurt but because his emotional needs are huge and he has come to rely too much on her for it. He has completely collapsed. He is not handling it well at all - he is simply running away from it (literally!), running from his emotions. He is desperately trying to keep her at bay. The closer she tries to reach, the more jittery he is becoming. (Not justifying his actions at all).

I might still have given it the benefit of doubt under the circumstances - taken it as a bad phase in the realtionship, the toxic phase. That is if Sai was not in such a helpless situation and she was in a position to excercise her will, set her boundary. Additionally one cannot deny that he does have issues with keeping his emotions in check anyways.

Sai and Virat are best left alone apart.

I just hope makers don't take this any further. This is the limit of what I can bear to watch.

Virat is hurt at the way she refused to acknowledge the marriage as real and not a deal one.

He is hurt by her rudeness more than her rejection.

He is hurt for being called a two timer .

He is hurt for making his heartfelt attempt to celebrate the anniversary as some ghatiya plan.

He is hurt to hear that he is actually feeling bad for Samrat’s return.

He is hurt to face the allegation that only he is responsible for the mess .on the whole

It is Sai’s way of showing her disapproval that hurt him so bad..and not her rejection.

That is my understanding Ofcourse you may differ.

Originally posted by: Fruitcustard_9

Did u remember hot tea spilling on virat's hand, acha baad mein paani dal diya to sab theek ho 👏gaya , I know d answer she don't do deliberately , he was irritating her blah blah blah endless excuse to defend sai .

Sai needs to grow spine & have guts to leave virat jo ki unke bas ki baat nhi hai vo sirf rant kar sakti hai.

Sai aapko pehle wali isiliye nhi lag rahi kyunki usko mehnat karni pad rahi apne punching bag ko vapas laane ke liye & she is craving for his attention which he is not giving her

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Sai ke karnamo pe koi finger point kare to usko yahi answer milega coz virat saas bhi le to usme problem hoti hai lekin sai ko sab maaf kyunki 👏👏

Originally posted by: ltelidevara

bold..I think that is not the case.

Virat is hurt at the way she refused to acknowledge the marriage as real and not a deal one.

He is hurt by her rudeness more than her rejection.

He is hurt for being called a two timer .

He is hurt for making his heartfelt attempt to celebrate the anniversary as some ghatiya plan.

He is hurt to hear that he is actually feeling bad for Samrat’s return.

He is hurt to face the allegation that only he is responsible for the mess .on the whole

It is Sai’s way of showing her disapproval that hurt him so bad..and not her rejection.

That is my understanding Ofcourse you may differ.

Yes yes this also....he is definitely hurt. I felt in addition he is also feeling the pain of unreciprocated love - because he cannot live without Sai. I will think about it again.

When I said he cannot "accept" that Sai doesn't love him back, I'm mean it in the sense of "acceptance" - the ability to accept misfortunes that come our way. Definitely not meaning that his ego is hurt by the rejection or that he is unwilling to let Sai go. He has decided to set her free already.

Originally posted by: Fruitcustard_9

Sai ke karnamo pe koi finger point kare to usko yahi answer milega coz virat saas bhi le to usme problem hoti hai lekin sai ko sab maaf kyunki 👏👏

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

Yes yes this also....he is definitely hurt. I felt in addition he is also feeling the pain of unreciprocated love - because he cannot live without Sai. I will think about it again.

When I said he cannot "accept" that Sai doesn't love him back, I'm mean it in the sense of "acceptance" - the ability to accept misfortunes that come our way. Definitely not meaning that his ego is hurt by the rejection or that he is unwilling to let Sai go. He has decided to set her free already.

I agree. He is hurt for not getting reciprocation and that anyway will pain him the most but Sai’s way of rejection broke him a lot. That made his pain of rejection multiply by leaps and bounds.

Today he threw the food away not by intent but more by his desperation to protect himself by keeping his walls strong. He knew Sai’s proximity will make him weak in his resolution to stay indifferent. Yesterday itself it was proven when he ended up praising her quality to speak facts in any situation. Neil ‘s amazing expressions conveyed us his embarrassment there for not being firm in his resolve.

Again if we observe Neil’s eyes immediately after he threw the food away,we see regret..

Same way Sai also split Chai on his hand and shirt after Ladak fight.

Sairat never bothered about these things done in a spur of moment or in the heat of situation. They rather pondered about the reason behind that act which is an amazing trait to keep them united even when they have misunderstandings.

Today also Sai thought more about his anger and the reason behind it but not about the action resulted from that.

Something I read in another post has triggered me. May be we are looking at it too much from the angle of Sai and Virat's current relationship. May be Virat's reaction was a culmination of a lot of things. He is under tremendous pressure - with Samrat misunderstanding him, his brother's marriage at stake, tough decisions to be taken etc. And he is very ill and emotionally drained. So it may have been an outburst - something similar to DIG incident.

I may be among the minority who didn't find his DIG outburst toxic. He was stressed out about his career - he wanted some space. She was insistent - he lashed out. But Sai didn't keep quite - she gave back as good as she got. 😎Baat khatam. It does happen to normal people too sometimes. Purely my POV.

Only difference is Sai is extremely subdued - because she is breaking inside. 😒

What do you all think?

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

Something I read in another post has triggered me. May be we are looking at it too much from the angle of Sai and Virat's current relationship. May be Virat's reaction was a culmination of a lot of things. He is under tremendous pressure - with Samrat misunderstanding him, his brother's marriage at stake, tough decisions to be taken etc. And he is very ill and emotionally drained. So it may have been an outburst - something similar to DIG incident.

I may be among the minority who didn't find his DIG outburst toxic. He was stressed out about his career - he wanted some space. She was insistent - he lashed out. But Sai didn't keep quite - she gave back as good as she got. 😎Baat khatam. It does happen to normal people too sometimes. Purely my POV.

Only difference is Sai is extremely subdued - because she is breaking inside. 😒

What do you all think?

Yes Even I did ..Back then I thought she was not letting him be.. What followed was not right...But till Pakhi entered, his outbursts were justified..This situation is different and right now he is also in love.. But then that Sai did not take it, this one did.. So There is whole lot of change when it comes Sai Joshi and Sai Virat Chavhan!!