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Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

The track is so faulty dt every day you can find something or the other to dislike.

But overall der is one thing dt constantly bothers me.

Why is der such an imbalance in love that Raghav and Pallavi hv for each other . If its a passionate love story ( as told by Siku) why do I see passion only from Raghav's end. He is the one pinning for her , he is the one making the efforts , he is the one who looks like he is abt to lose everything . Where is Pallavi's love ? Maybe its the hidden kind. Dikhna nai chahti wo. Par mujhe dekhna hai🤔

Der is also imbalance in the farz and karvatya cadre. Why is the kartavya only applicable to Mandar and D family and none towards Amma or Rao family. Not even including Raghav in this. Does Amma not deserve any of the farz ?

I agree !!

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

The track is so faulty dt every day you can find something or the other to dislike.

But overall der is one thing dt constantly bothers me.

Why is der such an imbalance in love that Raghav and Pallavi hv for each other . If its a passionate love story ( as told by Siku) why do I see passion only from Raghav's end. He is the one pinning for her , he is the one making the efforts , he is the one who looks like he is abt to lose everything . Where is Pallavi's love ? Maybe its the hidden kind. Dikhna nai chahti wo. Par mujhe dekhna hai🤔

Der is also imbalance in the farz and karvatya cadre. Why is the kartavya only applicable to Mandar and D family and none towards Amma or Rao family. Not even including Raghav in this. Does Amma not deserve any of the farz ?

Yes, as I have mentioned earlier as well, I see the love and yearning only from Raghav's side. Pallavi appears as if she is taking Raghav for granted. Like, jo bhi ho, he will come back to me only types. All married women have to balance between their sasural and maayka. In today's time and age, communication is so easy, just a call or message away. How much time does it take to call and clear up misunderstandings? Especially when Pallavi's maayka is in the same city as her sasural. She has cars and drivers at her beck and call.

Yeah I think this has started to become my biggest issue with this whole storyline and how they're depicting Pallavi.

1) The more I see Pallavi in these situations, the more it seems as though she doesn't know Raghav as well as we all thought (I thought) she did. Her understanding of him is so inconsistent. She can tell he's lying (about accident), yet couldn't see through all the lies he said when being ok with her to go help Mandar? She knows who's important to him (Amma, Keerti, Farhad), yet doesn't know how important she is to him (her telling K+A to go ahead and R would be happy to see her, to forgetting about the ceremony, to not calling him on her own, etc)? I'm like, do you even know your husband and what he wants? How can she claim to love him but not be mindful of his desires, wants, needs, what he thinks is important? Raghav had his share of faults, but in the process of making up for them, he's gotten better and knows Pallavi extremely well. I can't say the same for her right now.

2) What you said about farz & kartavya is 10000% true. I had an issue with her previous statement of pyar vs. kartavya. There is no versus because in every relationship there is pyar, there is farz & kartavya too. It is part of that relationship. So her relegating her relationship to Raghav as just pyar, as if there was no farz & kartavya between them either, I think was wrong and Kaka should have corrected her. She is caught between two of her farz (although I'll never buy that helping Mandar was an actual farz of hers).

3) Where is her worry for Raghav? Her remorse? Why is she only focusing on the fact that he didn't come get her, when she was the one who left without even telling him she would be staying? Where is her importance for her husband? We saw the hug on Mangalgauri - but where did that go the next day? Instead she got angry? We call out Raghav for his tempermental issues all the time, but Pallavi is no different at times. Where's her desperation to fix their problems? She's so secure, she's too secure. I don't even think it's registering to her that Raghav is hanging on by a thread. And before I'd partly blame it on Raghav's lack of communication, but he told her and has shown her enough where at least she has a hint. It should be more than enough for her to want to go and fix things for herself instead of waiting for him to come to her.

Unfortunately she's coming off as hypocritical because on the one hand she's all about farz & kartavya, yet to uphold one (that's not even a real one), she is neglecting the other. This is part of life - we cannot give everyone in our lives the same level of importance and qadr. However, I think when you get married, your spouse's importance in your life outweighs many others'.

Oh you forgot the imbalance of negative vs positive characters.

Pallavi's fuse only lights up when it comes to D family. I can not relate to Pallavi's behavior, it only irritates me, make me angry

i agree totally ,this track makes one feel that Raghav's love is unconditional for Pallavi , he has embraced her with all his heart he has changed himself so she accepts him , given her love , respect,and the freedom to be , but Pallavi is taking all this for granted. I hope she realises how unfair she has been to Raghav , a true LIONHEART

I had mentioned it long before .the first day when they got Mandar to the D house . The way they left ..to others it felt like Pallavi is being forced out by Raghav..From that day to today... See what Pallvi has been made into...Right now she just does baatein...and gives two hoots about Raghav's feelings..She is so insensitive and inconsiderate towards him that I want Raghav to just ignore her..BAS

Originally posted by: Kinchu

Yes, as I have mentioned earlier as well, I see the love and yearning only from Raghav's side. Pallavi appears as if she is taking Raghav for granted. Like, jo bhi ho, he will come back to me only types. All married women have to balance between their sasural and maayka. In today's time and age, communication is so easy, just a call or message away. How much time does it take to call and clear up misunderstandings? Especially when Pallavi's maayka is in the same city as her sasural. She has cars and drivers at her beck and call.

She is taking him for granted. No doubts abt dt. Its like she knows how much he values her and wont ever go away. He has told it to her so many times now but I hvnt heard Pallavi say it ever.

Communication toh chod hi do. I hv given up on dt. Its like we are living in stone age or something.

Originally posted by: fria319

Yeah I think this has started to become my biggest issue with this whole storyline and how they're depicting Pallavi.

1) The more I see Pallavi in these situations, the more it seems as though she doesn't know Raghav as well as we all thought (I thought) she did. Her understanding of him is so inconsistent. She can tell he's lying (about accident), yet couldn't see through all the lies he said when being ok with her to go help Mandar? She knows who's important to him (Amma, Keerti, Farhad), yet doesn't know how important she is to him (her telling K+A to go ahead and R would be happy to see her, to forgetting about the ceremony, to not calling him on her own, etc)? I'm like, do you even know your husband and what he wants? How can she claim to love him but not be mindful of his desires, wants, needs, what he thinks is important? Raghav had his share of faults, but in the process of making up for them, he's gotten better and knows Pallavi extremely well. I can't say the same for her right now.

2) What you said about farz & kartavya is 10000% true. I had an issue with her previous statement of pyar vs. kartavya. There is no versus because in every relationship there is pyar, there is farz & kartavya too. It is part of that relationship. So her relegating her relationship to Raghav as just pyar, as if there was no farz & kartavya between them either, I think was wrong and Kaka should have corrected her. She is caught between two of her farz (although I'll never buy that helping Mandar was an actual farz of hers).

3) Where is her worry for Raghav? Her remorse? Why is she only focusing on the fact that he didn't come get her, when she was the one who left without even telling him she would be staying? Where is her importance for her husband? We saw the hug on Mangalgauri - but where did that go the next day? Instead she got angry? We call out Raghav for his tempermental issues all the time, but Pallavi is no different at times. Where's her desperation to fix their problems? She's so secure, she's too secure. I don't even think it's registering to her that Raghav is hanging on by a thread. And before I'd partly blame it on Raghav's lack of communication, but he told her and has shown her enough where at least she has a hint. It should be more than enough for her to want to go and fix things for herself instead of waiting for him to come to her.

Unfortunately she's coming off as hypocritical because on the one hand she's all about farz & kartavya, yet to uphold one (that's not even a real one), she is neglecting the other. This is part of life - we cannot give everyone in our lives the same level of importance and qadr. However, I think when you get married, your spouse's importance in your life outweighs many others'.

Totally agree wid you

1. Previously one could atleast say dt Raghav doesnt communicate or say his feelings out loud but now he has told her on multiple occasions how incomplete and lifeless he feels widout her. He ws the first person to arrive when she organised the puja. Not just dt.....on multiple occasions he has kept aside all his meetings and important business deals to be der for Pallavi. But she doesnt understand dt its her who must be waiting for at the function. What part of that was so difficult to understand exactly ?

2. Great point and absolute truth. She cant just say Mandar is her farz and responsibility. Every relationship comes wid its own share or responsibilities and one has to find a balance . You cant say claim you owe complete responsibilty to one and none to the other

3. Right. She didnt even think abt solving the issue dt happened last nyt . Didnt even try to find out the reason behind Raghav leaving and fyting. Instead she ws angry on him for leaving her.She wanted space after their fyt , she chose to leave and come back on her own accord . So why does she expect him to take her back ? So that she can blame him some more ? Blame him for not letting her help the Ds and for not being a suppportive husband.

This track has made Pallavi so unrelatable and illogical.

Originally posted by: AvantikaP

Oh you forgot the imbalance of negative vs positive characters.

Pallavi's fuse only lights up when it comes to D family. I can not relate to Pallavi's behavior, it only irritates me, make me angry

Ohhh

Let me count🤓

Positivity : Raghav , Amma, Aayi , Milind , Amruta , Farhad ,Krishna ( 7 in number)

Negativity : Sunny , Keerthi , Ved , VD, Sulo , Mandar, Ramya , Mansi , Mandar ka dost ( 9 😲😲)

Mahaan ta dukan : Pallavi. I cant put her in positivity kyun ke uske positivity se meko headache hota hai

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

The track is so faulty dt every day you can find something or the other to dislike.

But overall der is one thing dt constantly bothers me.

Why is der such an imbalance in love that Raghav and Pallavi hv for each other . If its a passionate love story ( as told by Siku) why do I see passion only from Raghav's end. He is the one pinning for her , he is the one making the efforts , he is the one who looks like he is abt to lose everything . Where is Pallavi's love ? Maybe its the hidden kind. Dikhna nai chahti wo. Par mujhe dekhna hai🤔

Der is also imbalance in the farz and karvatya cadre. Why is the kartavya only applicable to Mandar and D family and none towards Amma or Rao family. Not even including Raghav in this. Does Amma not deserve any of the farz ?

Exactly and kirti mentioned that openly we got angry but logically she was right

Pallu never has any farz on Raghu or Amma it’s always dfamily period

I feel her love for Raghu was the moment that’s it she never loved him as Raghu loves her depth is not there in her love

The day she loose Raghu she will realize till then ignorance