Excellent decisions - Page 9

Originally posted by: inlieu

Totally agree. She expects a lot from him but when it comes to the Ds the rules don't seem to apply to herself.

Raghav won't lash out because he's too afraid to upset the apple cart. He will continue to put up with all this while it eats away at his insides. There's an imbalance in the relationship as Raghav feels he stands to lose far more than she does. The day she feels insecure too, if ever, then she'll have a different attitude to this.

@ bold : Truth !!!! Raghav has always considered himself unworthy of Pallavi. He says she "accepted " him . Says a lot abt wht Pallavi's worth in his eyes. He is insecure bcz at the end of the day he feels Pallavi has nothing to lose....bcz he doesnt give himself dt much self worth.

I wish dt day comes too when Pallavi feels the same way abt him.

You know after tracker incident if Pallavi felt like Raghav doesn’t trust her then by declaring that she will stay at D house till Mandar is well, she has invited all this criticism…

for a third eye it looks like that she ensured that she keeps meeting Mandar and even went to the extent of leaving her husband behind…because post tracker incident if she had gone to meet mandar, it would have looked bad…

I am sorry but this statement “jb tk Mandar theek ni ho jata mai whi rhungi” is unjustifiable for me…then why doesn’t she admit that she wants to stay with Mandar only and he is most important to her..

you know it looks like she enjoys all this attention and would have been heart broken if Mandar refused to recognize her…

I am no way bashing her… I liked the character very much in the past but these are questions that needed to be thought about before taking such a major step… I know some of you don’t like the points I have raised.. its not character assassination but this is also one side of the coin…but at the end of the day she is a fictional character and the only person who can argue over these points is her family and in-laws if they don’t have any problem then why are we bothered?

Originally posted by: gayatherry88

Pallavi never hold anything she always say each and everything out especially to raghav but he have everything on his mind. Even though he said he don't say everything outside, pallavi isn't in that phase to understand his underlying emotions. They need to travel some more to understand that emotions.

I completely Everytime she is going on their own private time but Everytime she is asking him and he is saying to go so she thinks raghav trust and love her so he is allowing to go but she don't the volcano erupting inside him. He did voiced his concern but he should have been more communicate and clear what he is feeling. She thought raghav is fine with everything until tracker issue came out on his own mouth and she shattered so even though raghav shouts about mandar its not getting register in her mind because she feels her own husband trust her when she said everything to him . Raghav done it for her own safety but still she is wife , even though his intentions is good but it's was a bad action. Pallavi will learn hard way and Amma knows it well that's why she is asking him to be patience and have faith on his love and pallavi. Even she falls down Amma and Raghav is hold her.

I will tell sonething personal. My sister is an introvert . She will keep everything inside.....all her tensions ,every pain , every thought , every turmoil. It been years we hv been telling her that she should communicate . We even ask her often whats bothering her . But she doesnt say it easily. She likes dealing it on her own . But we can alwys figure out if she is having some trouble.......you just can.....you can see it , feel it.

Dts how Raghav is. Not everyone is good at communicating. Some people like keeping it inside and like dealing it in their own way. So you need to hear what they arent saying , see what they are hiding inside , you need to learn to read them. For all of that to happen Pallavi needs to trust Raghav as much as she wishes him to trust her. She needs to give him the benefit of doubt . He doesnt lie.....dts one thing Raghav never does. Pallavi should get dt.....if he said something....der has to be truth to it.

Like someone here pointed out......Trust is a two way street , if Pallavi expects Raghav to trust her , she needs to trust him too. She needed to trust that he would never question her intention . But instead she questioned his trust. She doesnt trust him but expects him to trust her ( which btw he does)

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

Well easier said than done!!!!!

Neither of the optns you gave will be actually feasible for Raghav. Yes noone can tk away his wife bt his wife is easily emotionally manipulated by people. Its not easy to just sit bck and watch all dt and for how long ???

Giving up your insecurities ? Is dt even an optn. Just saying in general. A lot of us must also be hving some or the other insecurity widin us. People must hv adviced us against it . We ourselves must hv known its baseless . We must hv tried to rise above it too. But its not easy to just rise above it fully. Takes a lot of time , takes a lot of assurance and belief. Here Raghav has none.

Sai is really good at emotional scenes. Cannot help but feel for Raghav . Sai is doing an excellent job.

Spot on! He has all trauma and ptsd to deal with, his pain is as raw as it was 10 years ago and he has a long way to go before he can learn to deal with. Heck, he hasn't even started on that path.

Also it's not just about her being taken away. She could be harmed and he's worried about her safety too.

Completely agree with you.This turn of Pallavi's character is completely unacceptable. I cannot accept this double standard hypocrite Pallavi thats why I stopped watching mhrw till the time Pallavi is getting some brain I wont be back.i am just reading this forum and watching clips on insta and YouTube. But this track is unbearable. This could be executed in much more logical and acceptable way.I am really interested to know how TRP aunties will react to this tadka wala deal.They are destroying Preeta's character in real bad way.this is utter nonsense.

Originally posted by: fria319

It’s bc Pallavi has always had a sense of self righteousness. It’s actually one of her flaws. She thinks she’s right in this situation , and raghav is wrong so she’s going to ignore all of his concerns and do what she thinks is right because somewhere deep down she feels her moral compass is better than everyone else’s or that she knows better than everyone else. She has done this countless times. Whether it’s with Raghav, D fam, etc., she constantly overrules other people’s objections to do what only she sees as right. You rarely ever see her change her mind post counsel from others.

Disclaimer for those who may need it: I’m not bashing her but I’m calling a spade a spade. This is just part of her characterization. None of these characters are perfect and their flaws are often times what gets them into bad situations.

Biggest example was when she ignored her brother's advice and warnings about d fam.

Her savior complex always make her do this. Even Ayi knows this about her but failed to stop her because she didn't listen.

Originally posted by: nikkiGarg

we are talking about a person who is don … not habitual to take no for an answer.. and want everything at any cost…. and for his family he is super possessive, do you remember he married Pallavi for his Amma whom he hated a lot at that time… we are talking about someone who is extremely dear to him… love of his life.. his support system.. he himself has said the way she loves him nobody else has loved him that much (not even his own family) …letting go of such a person who means the world to him is very difficult for a person of his stature and on top of that when another person keeps on provoking him…I would say he is still behaving pretty balanced for him…. he is impulsive but extremely smart person (atleast the way it is shown in the show so far before that stupid phone changing move)… had it not been Mandar he would have got the guy thrown out of hyderabad…he is helpless because in some way this guy matters to his wife… and that is why could not take extreme steps… he has no option but to keep calm and suffer in silence. why? because he choose to love someone for whom her ex family matters more than her current family

@bold, you hit the nail on the head.

Originally posted by: fria319

These are good ideas in theory but he needs real therapy to get over his insecurities. These are deep rooted, stemming from his abandonment issues from when he was a teen and his mother left him alone. The show won’t address this though bc it’s too complex of an issue for them to want to bother with IMO. ITV is not good at show casing real mental struggle.

Absolutely. Perhaps they will ignore it completely and show her love transforming him completely so he becomes 'better'.

Raghav will play tt , do swimming , etc.. relax n will have time for himself n business n will over come his insecurities n fears . will learn about trust , love n will become even more stronger 😆

Originally posted by: inlieu

Spot on! He has all trauma and ptsd to deal with, his pain is as raw as it was 10 years ago and he has a long way to go before he can learn to deal with. Heck, he hasn't even started on that path.

Also it's not just about her being taken away. She could be harmed and he's worried about her safety too.

Yes he is worried abt her safety but then she doesnt understand it either