Excellent decisions - Page 6

Now all I want is to Raghav get into some accident and completely forget the existence of Pallavi. Tab meri mann ki aag thoda thanda hoga … 😇

I would like vent a bit here too

1. Raghav is insecure. Pallavi has done absolutely nothing to make him feel secure. With all this drama of shifting to DH , she has only reinforced his insecurities

2. Pallavi used to mention how she dreamed about having a good life with Mandar and how good he was and how he made her feel. So why should Raghav not feel insecure ??

3.Tracking device- i don’t see anything wrong. I would have done the same thing if i feel Pallavi is going get herself in trouble especially after knowing what Mandar’s real intentions are. Raghav could have told pallavi that i want to be able to know where you are and if you are safe incase ur phone is unreachable and Pallavi would have given same trust bhashan.. when he gave the new phone, i was really hoping there would be tracking device installed in it.

4. Trust- what trust is she talking about ?? Its a two way street.. did she believe him when he told her about Mandars

Intentions? No… did she keep any of the promoses she made to Raghav? Absolutely No.. so what trust is she talking about?

5. Respect- I have seen respect for pallavi in Raghav’s eyes. When Mandar came back, he asked pallavi what she wants?? If she still loves him?? Thats respect. He asked her the other day too “tum kya chahta hai pallavi??”

Does pallavi show any respect for Raghav or Amma?? Absolutely NOT.. when it is time to show her humanity, she absolutely disregards everyones feelings. She does what ever she believes is right - thats all. She did not hear to her baba when he asked her to stop meeting Raghav in the past. She does the same now- doing what she wants and not heeding to Aayi, Raghav , Milind or anyone. She has this “white knight Complex” where she feels it is her responsibility to solve every problem and if it makes her sacrifice peace of mind of hers and ppl who care about her — she would would do that with out blinking an eye.

She didn’t find it necessary to get Raghav and Amma onboard with her plan to go live with her ex husband away from her current husband…

I have to applaud Raghav’s love and patience here .. no husband/wife (no matter how progressive or how much ever he/she trusts the spouse will ever agree to this arrangement). Its a deal breaker for anyone!!

Now i just need Raghav to step back and see where this goes.. i am going to sit and enjoy when the Shit hits the fan and pallavi will be the one to sameto

Originally posted by: dlavanya

Now all I want is to Raghav get into some accident and completely forget the existence of Pallavi. Tab meri mann ki aag thoda thanda hoga … 😇

natak kia to ta usne… tb pallavi bht royi ti because she is unable to make sense of the fact that Pallavi is no longer part of Raghav’s life…

Originally posted by: Viewpoint

Raghav has two options only, to step back or step up. No in between. If he steps back, and let things unfold without his intervention, even then, Pallavi will still be his wife, come what may because she is not on auction for someone to come and place a bid and take her away.

If he steps up and gets a grip on himself by not allowing Mandar to affect him this much, then he will slowly get over his insecurities and will be at peace and Mandar will be at a loss of what to do next because a secure man cannot be shaken that easily. Even in this option, she will still be his wife.

Mandar, who?.

A hurt and broken Raghav is such a treat to watch, albeit heartbreaking. Sai's emotional scenes are always heart wrenching 💔

Good intentions can't be justified by bad actions

Amma is watching everything silently and she speak on right time. Amma can't stop pallavi sometimes because she knows it won't be any use but she can stop her son.

Sometimes we need to let things go and we can't control each and everything. Raghav is very loving and protective of his family so his controlling nature comes instantly. Anger, impulsive, controlling, insecure and doubting all these things will destroy the relationships. Amma given the right advice, trust yourself, his love and his wife. Yes he will feel insecure but he needs to get over it because at EOD pallavi is legally wedded wife and both love each other madly, she also letting him know he don't needs to feel insecure because she'll be back to him soon. Raghav don't need to do tit tat or step low with anyone when he owns his things. He needs to stop allowing mandar to play on his heads. Glad he got Amma to hold and shield him.

Pallavi have her own obligation, responsibility and her caring nature towards d family isn't allowing her to have peaceful present. She needs to gets over with her past to live her present and future. She may consider daughter of d house but she should also think she is daughter in law of one house and she have responsibility towards Amma and Raghav. She needs to let them know before she takes the leap, because as a married woman going back to ex husband won't go well with society, Amma and Raghav needs to face the consequences. They'll handle it if may come also but it's on own her hands also. Some decisions when it's affect others she needs to let them know and also getting their concert is necessary.

That's why we need to handle our freedom carefully. Raghav lost the chance of letting her know on first place about the challenge so she should know on practical about mandar intentions. Taking responsibility and finishing up is important part. She took the responsibility of mandar but it's suffocating her each minute pass by, she feels uncomfortable when Mandar touches her and all these things piling up and she will burst out soon .

She will know what mistake she is done and she is one can fix it. Raghav and Amma bursting her??? Yes as a husband when he reaches his saturation point he can sure blast at pallavi and she needs to hear him but will he do it??? No because he loves her and Know she is innocent so he never do that.

She got into this mess and she is the one needs to come out. Marriage is never a bed of roses, loving each other isn't enough. Love and trust will always be tested and everyone needs to give that test, face the demons to be with each other. Strong emotional bond will be formed and more the love will be increased.

Both are breaking and both not hiding it's with each other. Both will bounce back hard and become stronger than before.

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

Agreed

You dont take major life decisions widout consulting the people who will be affected by your decisions. Arent Raghav and Amma also her family too ?? Fine I will take it she was angry on Raghav but wht abt Amma ? Was it not even important to once ask her if she was okay wid this ?

Dts what I dont like. She treats her old in laws as her parents but she doesnt even treat Amma like a MIL. She was standing just der but Pallavi didnt even look at her for approval.

Imagine If Raghav had an ex and he decided to do the same as Pallavi . Will she be okay wid it ? Wo chodo she isnt ever even okay wid Raghav taking any minor decision widout consulting her but she has every ryt to take all major decisions widout even telling him

I hope she utilises her time in D house for pondering over her decisions too and not spend all of it doing Mandar seva.

It’s bc Pallavi has always had a sense of self righteousness. It’s actually one of her flaws. She thinks she’s right in this situation , and raghav is wrong so she’s going to ignore all of his concerns and do what she thinks is right because somewhere deep down she feels her moral compass is better than everyone else’s or that she knows better than everyone else. She has done this countless times. Whether it’s with Raghav, D fam, etc., she constantly overrules other people’s objections to do what only she sees as right. You rarely ever see her change her mind post counsel from others.

Disclaimer for those who may need it: I’m not bashing her but I’m calling a spade a spade. This is just part of her characterization. None of these characters are perfect and their flaws are often times what gets them into bad situations.

Originally posted by: Viewpoint

Raghav has two options only, to step back or step up. No in between. If he steps back, and let things unfold without his intervention, even then, Pallavi will still be his wife, come what may because she is not on auction for someone to come and place a bid and take her away.

If he steps up and gets a grip on himself by not allowing Mandar to affect him this much, then he will slowly get over his insecurities and will be at peace and Mandar will be at a loss of what to do next because a secure man cannot be shaken that easily. Even in this option, she will still be his wife.

Mandar, who?.

A hurt and broken Raghav is such a treat to watch, albeit heartbreaking. Sai's emotional scenes are always heart wrenching 💔

we are talking about a person who is don … not habitual to take no for an answer.. and want everything at any cost…. and for his family he is super possessive, do you remember he married Pallavi for his Amma whom he hated a lot at that time… we are talking about someone who is extremely dear to him… love of his life.. his support system.. he himself has said the way she loves him nobody else has loved him that much (not even his own family) …letting go of such a person who means the world to him is very difficult for a person of his stature and on top of that when another person keeps on provoking him…I would say he is still behaving pretty balanced for him…. he is impulsive but extremely smart person (atleast the way it is shown in the show so far before that stupid phone changing move)… had it not been Mandar he would have got the guy thrown out of hyderabad…he is helpless because in some way this guy matters to his wife… and that is why could not take extreme steps… he has no option but to keep calm and suffer in silence. why? because he choose to love someone for whom her ex family matters more than her current family

Originally posted by: Viewpoint

Raghav has two options only, to step back or step up. No in between. If he steps back, and let things unfold without his intervention, even then, Pallavi will still be his wife, come what may because she is not on auction for someone to come and place a bid and take her away.

If he steps up and gets a grip on himself by not allowing Mandar to affect him this much, then he will slowly get over his insecurities and will be at peace and Mandar will be at a loss of what to do next because a secure man cannot be shaken that easily. Even in this option, she will still be his wife.

Mandar, who?.

A hurt and broken Raghav is such a treat to watch, albeit heartbreaking. Sai's emotional scenes are always heart wrenching 💔

These are good ideas in theory but he needs real therapy to get over his insecurities. These are deep rooted, stemming from his abandonment issues from when he was a teen and his mother left him alone. The show won’t address this though bc it’s too complex of an issue for them to want to bother with IMO. ITV is not good at show casing real mental struggle.

I would like vent a bit here too

1. Raghav is insecure. Pallavi has done absolutely nothing to make him feel secure. With all this drama of shifting to DH , she has only reinforced his insecurities

2. Pallavi used to mention how she dreamed about having a good life with Mandar and how good he was and how he made her feel. So why should Raghav not feel insecure ??

3.Tracking device- i don’t see anything wrong. I would have done the same thing if i feel Pallavi is going get herself in trouble especially after knowing what Mandar’s real intentions are. Raghav could have told pallavi that i want to be able to know where you are and if you are safe incase ur phone is unreachable and Pallavi would have given same trust bhashan.. when he gave the new phone, i was really hoping there would be tracking device installed in it.

4. Trust- what trust is she talking about ?? Its a two way street.. did she believe him when he told her about Mandars

Intentions? No… did she keep any of the promoses she made to Raghav? Absolutely No.. so what trust is she talking about?

5. Respect- I have seen respect for pallavi in Raghav’s eyes. When Mandar came back, he asked pallavi what she wants?? If she still loves him?? Thats respect. He asked her the other day too “tum kya chahta hai pallavi??”

Does pallavi show any respect for Raghav or Amma?? Absolutely NOT.. when it is time to show her humanity, she absolutely disregards everyones feelings. She does what ever she believes is right - thats all. She did not hear to her baba when he asked her to stop meeting Raghav in the past. She does the same now- doing what she wants and not heeding to Aayi, Raghav , Milind or anyone. She has this “white knight Complex” where she feels it is her responsibility to solve every problem and if it makes her sacrifice peace of mind of hers and ppl who care about her — she would would do that with out blinking an eye.

She didn’t find it necessary to get Raghav and Amma onboard with her plan to go live with her ex husband away from her current husband…

I have to applaud Raghav’s love and patience here .. no husband/wife (no matter how progressive or how much ever he/she trusts the spouse will ever agree to this arrangement). Its a deal breaker for anyone!!

Now i just need Raghav to step back and see where this goes.. i am going to sit and enjoy when the Shit hits the fan and pallavi will be the one to sameto

Can Raghav really sit back, wait and watch? if Mandar was genuine and has no bad intentions of snatching pallavi or making her his- then i can understand and agree that Raghav should show patience, trust pallavi to Make right decisions and sitout and watch..

But in this case, he knows Mandar’s intentions and he is very worried for pallavi’s safety.

What if (listing possibilities in the order of impact)

1. Mandar keeps pallavi hostage by emotionally blackmailing her

2. Mandar drugs pallavi and makes her sleep with him in his bedroom, fakes accidental intimacy and ofcourse pallavi will believe what ever comes out of Mandar’s mouth. Pallavi will believe that she slept with him and tries to divorce Raghav

3. Mandar abducts Pallavi and takes her away for ever or finds that pallavi only loves Raghav and tries to kill as he doesn’t want Raghav to get her back. We have seen phsyco tendencies

Can Raghav just stay back and watch what happens ???

Originally posted by: Viewpoint

Raghav has two options only, to step back or step up. No in between. If he steps back, and let things unfold without his intervention, even then, Pallavi will still be his wife, come what may because she is not on auction for someone to come and place a bid and take her away.

If he steps up and gets a grip on himself by not allowing Mandar to affect him this much, then he will slowly get over his insecurities and will be at peace and Mandar will be at a loss of what to do next because a secure man cannot be shaken that easily. Even in this option, she will still be his wife.

Mandar, who?.

A hurt and broken Raghav is such a treat to watch, albeit heartbreaking. Sai's emotional scenes are always heart wrenching 💔

He has been misunderstood so often that he had somewhere started to believe other people's version of him being a Rakshas. Pallavi accepting him has restored his faith in himself.

When a 17 year old boy's mother abandons him and calls him murderer every other day , wishes she had killed him in womb , curses him every day for 10 long years how do you expect him to be all sorted out ?

We all want RR to behave rationally but it isn't easy for him. He is losing one person who accepted him, forgave him and even loved him.

Absolutely loved each of your points! Very valid ones. Which husband will tolerate when his wife goes to live with her first husband? None in the world. If Raghav has patched up with Pallavi he is indeed a great insaan!!