Why she needs pakhi to attend - Page 3

Originally posted by: tptwi

Paapi started the tamasha by going up to her room and crying instead of being an adult and sucking it up for the sake of the family. She is a family member, so she should partake in the family function instead of doing these antics. Sai wanted her to feel included, and hence went to call her. Despite knowing that Paapi hates her, Sai always extends a hand towards her. She even thanked her in her college fest speech with the rest of the family. It is in Sai's nature to include and love everyone. TriMurthi is always telling Sai she has to do things for the sake of the family, and they live in a joint family, always saying that everyone must do things for each other, think about the family, etc. etc. So then why does Paapi not have to abide by those same rules? A part of Sai's actions can be attributed to her stubbornness, but her intentions are pure. I am not one to defend Sai regardless of her actions, so I am not trying to come across as someone who cannot see her faults. It's just that in this moment, I don't think she did anything wrong.

My topic isn’t about what pakhi should do and i am not saying pakhi doing right thing by not attending.. Joint family rules aren’t always right and not necessary to follow by everybody.. No matter who it is..so if pakhi isn’t following family rules doesn’t mean sai needs to force her to follow.. If rules are forced by chavans we bash them don't we?? Sai herself when doesn’t follow their rules we praise her that she has guts but when she force someone to do something on the name of family then she is right? She isn’t wrong in her intention i agree with that totally but she is definitely wrong in her action to force someone who said no to her..

Originally posted by: ltelidevara

Exactly Niraja. While Sai showed her maturity by being courteous,Pakhi proved how immature she is by dramatising the issue.

Patralekha is and was always mean,jealous and drama queen no one have doubt on that..here i even not saying pakhi's action is right..she is wrong but doesn’t mean if she is wrong sai has to prove her maturity by forcing her to do something which she clearly not willing to do..here my topics was on sai's forcing her decision on someone but u guys are bringing pakhis faults to make sai's faults as right i don’t get it why..

Originally posted by: Momrin

But everyone not sai joshi right..she doesn’t hold grudges its a very positive and plus point of her character and thats why she is likeable.. But pakhi isn’t like her as an individual pakhi have her own thoughts..she always fume and feel jealous whatever Virat do for sai then will it not be hypocrisy if she pretend to attend happily in someone's birthday who she clearly hate..exactly its sai's character trait but not all the trait her character is right.. She can be wrong and that's my point that forcing someone who is clearly hating to attend in her happiness isn't something right in my point of view..

I do see what you are trying to say. It can look very annoying or as if she is being too pushy. I think it is in her nature to not be able to enjoy leaving out one person in a house. You are right if you think one shouldn’t force anyone to attend but if we think that Sai cannot enjoy or celebrate leaving out one person in the house who is unhappy about it, we can understand the need for her to call Pakhi. I personally wouldn’t want to do it either. I am not saying one has to force Pakhi but it is times like this when Sai acts childish or tries to take liberty even if it is with Pakhi. She doesn’t hold grudges as Itelidevara pointed out and as we all know, hence she is able to do that kind of a zid acting like a child even with Pakhi. See, if it was anyone else, they would have refused to cut the cake saying if Pakhi didi doesn’t want to attend I don’t want to cut the cake and sit in a corner sulking. Sai has been waiting like a child to be wished by Virat at midnight too. She wants to enjoy her birthday and she would have become very excited when they had planned a surprise for her. She is not a kill joy, instead of sulking and acting like a victim saying she won’t cut cake because Pakhi is unhappy, she would like to make it lively for everyone including herself by trying to make Pakhi join them or force Pakhi to join them. It is a way to not ruin other’s moods and other’s efforts too that they have put to make it a surprise for her. She wants to enjoy it but can’t if one person is unhappy about it. She also can’t say that she won’t celebrate without that person because that would be like hurting the sentiments of others who have put so much efforts in arranging the party and also killing their excitement. Hence, she chose to try to call Pakhi like how she would have called anyone else.

Originally posted by: Momrin

My topic isn’t about what pakhi should do and i am not saying pakhi doing right thing by not attending.. Joint family rules aren’t always right and not necessary to follow by everybody.. No matter who it is..so if pakhi isn’t following family rules doesn’t mean sai needs to force her to follow.. If rules are forced by chavans we bash them don't we?? Sai herself when doesn’t follow their rules we praise her that she has guts but when she force someone to do something on the name of family then she is right? She isn’t wrong in her intention i agree with that totally but she is definitely wrong in her action to force someone who said no to her..

I don't think she is trying to force Paapi to follow the joint family rules. I was just pointing out that there are double standards when it comes to Sai and what she needs to do for the sake of the family. I was also trying to say that it is Paapi who created the tamasha to begin with.

Like I said before, it is in Sai's nature to want to include everyone and extend her love to even those who do not like her. So, I guess we can at least agree that her intentions were pure. And yes, she did come across as pushy. I will just leave it at that. I respect your opinion 😊

I would understand this if Pakhi was really going to enjoy the cake cutting, when the person isn't happy why force them? Who are you doing it for? You have so many people around you who love you, why force people when you never liked being forced? Pakhi wasn't happy in her college function, she had a miserable day. It is good thing to not be in a place which makes you miserable. Family member and blah blah traditions aren't always right. She is not doing it for Pakhi's happiness and she is not a child, I don't know how other 19 years old work but when you are considered an adult, It doesn't mean you don't know anything especially when you are known for fighting against these particular joint family rules

Originally posted by: Momrin

Sometimes i really get irritated by sai's actions.. Why she needs pakhi to attend her cake cutting ceremony.. Pakhi is an adult if she doesn’t feel like to attend certain incident of house why can't she get the freedom not to attend.. I am not saying Pakhi doing right.. She was mean but she clearly hate sai and don’t like to see virat sai's sweet moments so It's better for her mental peace keep distance from their matter..sai forcing her to attend isn’t something acceptable.. She should not decide for others whether someone will attend or will not attend..she should not interfere..

My pov clearly....❤️

But that is Sai. At the end of the day, she believes in hum, she believes in us, we all. Yes, her steps are extreme sometimes, and sometimes she even might seem childish and immature, but she firmly believes all deserve to happy at the end of the day. She is not selfish to expect happiness for just herself, but she also loves to share her happiness.

But, in her enthusiasm, and her purity of heart, she doesn't contemplate whether the person at the opposite end deseves to be a part of her happiness, deserves the happiness which she is offering.

Originally posted by: Momrin

Exactly if pakhi id happy for her but can't attend for some other reason like she is gloomy for husband then it can be understable but here she clearly not happy to see sai's happiness.. When we hate something It's natural we avoid them here pakhi is doing same..though It's mean and mannerless not to attend family members birthday just because of jealousy but still she has full right on her own choice sai is no one to force her..in modern era people even point out parents forcing their choice on children her we aren’t even allowed to point out sai for forcing someone forcing her decision to pakhi attend her birthday?

People can argue whatever they want but the fact is Sai agreed to attend Pakhi’s anniversary the moment Virat announced he is going with wife . Sai didn’t protest and willingly got ready though she said she doesn’t want to but we saw when Virat jokingly left her and pretended to go alone she was upset . Sai didn’t do anything against her will . We all know what happened when Virat tried stopping her during Pulkit drama

Originally posted by: Momrin

Patralekha is and was always mean,jealous and drama queen no one have doubt on that..here i even not saying pakhi's action is right..she is wrong but doesn’t mean if she is wrong sai has to prove her maturity by forcing her to do something which she clearly not willing to do..here my topics was on sai's forcing her decision on someone but u guys are bringing pakhis faults to make sai's faults as right i don’t get it why..

This argument itself is faulty in case of Pakhi who claims herself to be the best Bahu who cares for family. So her choice won’t matter here.

Now if Sai calling her to be a part of the family party looks like a fault to you so be it.I have nothing more to say on behalf of Sai since it is futile to argue further.

Honestly I dont understand the requirement of Pakhi being there or Sai insisting on her coming. That certainly does not mean I feel for Patralekha or feel for her oh so discomfort while she is in a particular situation. Right now the way she makes other uncomfortable, I dont really care about her much.

Coming back to Sai, I always relate to the Sai who while getting gifts for people in the house, clearly said she has got it only for the ones she loves and she did not get it for Kaku , because she loved Kaku as much Kaku loves her back. However I also have to see what made her go there to get her. Knowing Sai if anyone of the members be it Mansi Bua as well is unhappy or want Patralekha there in the party of the house they belong to, she will definitely go to call her. Since the time Virat has told her to make efforts to be the part of the family and to adjust, she has been doing that. She has been trying to do that. She probably thinks Patralekha is extremely important to ghar ke bade but Virat as well. And she also knows , she would be taunted during and after her celebrations, for hurting Patralekha for whatsoever reasons..

And yet even after understanding this part of hers, I am not okay with her going to call Patralekha for the party. Not needed.

BTW was this hand holding scene between Pakhi and Virat and Sai going after Pakhi in the originals??

I watched the pre cap once more. Sai says ..neeche sirf mera intezaar nahi ho raha hai, aapka bhi jo raha hai.

Maybe the family makes comments about Pakhi not being there?? After all, Pakhi is their favourite DIL. Sai anyway feels noone likes her. Maybe she calls her just to keep peace on her birthday?

They are celebrating Sai's birthday only because Virat forced them to.

Plus, Pakhi was so rude .."Mujhe nahi aana tumhari stupid cake cutting mein". I mean, what was that??!! Pakhi's reaction is not part of your post, sorry I had to put it out there.