PS|EDT 48|Dhoom Machale,Ration Thoosti Hui Kagdi & Chips for Selfence - Page 36

Originally posted by: funny_fubar

Definitely and I am seeing him change- there is not much of a bite to his scoldings. His manhandling has reduced. And I think we should be patient to see how he stands by her in future troubles.

If he just says Sorry for the heck of it, but continues doing the same nonsense (*cough*like Dev*cough*) then it makes sense to be mad at him. Even then it is still a work in progress. It takes years for people to change their ingrained behaviors 🤷‍♀️

Yes, exactly I also see the change and that is good. Baby steps. You can not change the way you behaved for 10 years overnight. So I think he will make some little mistakes but thats only human. Soo I like how the story is going for now 😃

Do not apologize when you don’t mean it or want to change the behavior that caused you to apologize. Cause when you apologize for the same thing over and over, your apology means nothing.

You’re spreading your love for Dev 🤣

Originally posted by: funny_fubar

Hey guys just a small request, let’s try to refrain from going into this PS vs MHRW comparison. It might be a lovely show and the characters might be great, but there is an entire separate forum for it.

I think we did a good enough job of keeping things real here- we bash any character that does stupid things even if we love them.

This post is not meant to target anyone or hurt anyone’s feelings 🙈 It’s just that in the middle of meaningful discussions, my entire happy mood and energy goes down when reading some of the tangential discussions.

Also, I am not in any way saying that we should not share our views- in fact more varying views the better. I have renewed love for different characters based on the discussions here. ❤️

We have not had any problems with the Mods as it is a pretty easy forum to handle and haven’t had problems with any of the members, threads and topics. I do not want EDT to be closed based on comparison with other shows (has happened several times in IPK forum) and many of us have nowhere to go. I would strictly keep this EDT for PS and not compare it with any current show.

If there are references from a past show, many don’t mind that, neither will the Mods.

Originally posted by: mpks1

We have not had any problems with the Mods as it is a pretty easy forum to handle and haven’t had problems with any of the members, threads and topics. I do not want EDT to be closed based on comparison with other shows (has happened several times in IPK forum) and many of us have nowhere to go. I would strictly keep this EDT for PS and not compare it with any current show.

If there are references from a past show, many don’t mind that neither will the Mods.

Ohh wow did not know they would close down EDTs 😔 Then we should double down just to make sure that if there are comparison posts then they should take up more than 1 page or so.

I love the EDTs- don’t want them to close any time soon 🤗

Ok MSM squad: don’t stab me for treason 🙈

I vehemently hate Maami and wish she gets major comeuppance for all her evilness and misdeeds

But I can’t help but admiring one thing in her- she never treats Anita and Raavi as a burden. This might seem as trivial and something that is to be expected. But believe me, a lot of very good people fall in the trap of “how will we deal with society” or “I know it’s bad, but please adjust, it will get better”

Not going into specifics, I have seen innumerable examples of this in real life. It takes a different strength to say “get lost, my girls are not a burden on me, walk away if you have to, I’ll take care of them.” I begrudgingly salute her here. A lot of girls fear sharing their miseries or go on leading terrible lives because they just cannot go back. In fact, in the OG Pandian Stores, Mullai(Raavi) has this conversation with Meena(Rishitha) where she says her father told her he cannot have her sitting at home after he married her off. She cannot go back and has to make this marriages work.

I love PS in this sense. While it showed us a somewhat realistic reaction from Mausapa- he wanted to marry off his daughter on the same day because the “humiliation” would not allow her to get remarried(bs, if you ask me. But unfortunately people do think like him, without consideration for the boy or girl involved ), it also shows us Maami standing rock solid for her girls. That is how real life is, good people do terrible things and evil people sometimes have the most progressive views.

Other than this, Maami can rot in hell for all I care 😈

Originally posted by: funny_fubar

Hey folks, seeing the discussion on apologies, I am pretty curious. Do people within your family and maybe close relatives actually apologize a lot? I am just curious because I have grown up in a family where no one apologizes and the whole “elders don’t really apologize” was the norm. Even if there were fights between members, we just move on and it is kind of swept under the rug. Somehow, the lack of apology in PS does not seem as mind boggling to me, because I have grown up seeing this not only in my family but even in families around me( as I’m friends, neighbors)

Even with my husband, the sorry does not come naturally- I have to tell him “say sorry” when I am really hurt. In most cases, like Shiva Raavi, there is an understanding that the other party has realized their mistake and we just move forward from there.

Just saying that what they are showing might not be ideal, but is not really outside the realm of possibility. In fact, it might be more common and normalized than you think. 🤷‍♀️

interesting point...

Just like to show love you don't have to have to say 'i love you', There are umpteen different ways people express love, affection, pride to their loved ones. Be it their parents/ spouse/ friends/ children.

Just like that to show your guilt & to show you are sorry or ashamed & regretting- there are umpteen different ways people react. Sometimes mend the part the whole hurt was about (like how Shiva consciously pulls his hands when Raavi show discomfort)

Sometimes by mending situation that was the issue in the first place, sometimes by just hanging together, sometimes through hurt person's favorite things... there are SO many ways this feeling gets shared.

The more natural, more organic expression - the better & genuine!

Unfortunately, in current times- we live in this global world: where everything is getting standardized.

All MacDonalds & starbucks everywhere! Branding- generalizing- herd mentality.

Values are changing the meanings. divide between Needs & wants is deminishing.

From I love yous to proposed on bent knee to Sorry to Photo ops to Social media 'bestlife' announcements to pretty much everything is supposed to be certain way! Only differences are : settings/ backdrops/ outfits/ craziness/ oneupmanships.

This same applies in most Tv shows... Repeat/ recycled 'tracks' Nothing new. no situational upgrades.

Pandya store , thankfully has stood apart so far. Have kept things natural 7 simple per setting of the story, and thats what makes it good watch!

Standard 'I love you' 'I am sorry' works for routine couple like Dev-Rishita.

Not for Shiva-Raavi.

For Dhara - she needs conversation with Shiva & Krish, a few times. For, character of Dhara1.0 - her 2.0 avtaar left many scars.

For Dev- he needs extra efforts in daily happenings/ situations & needs good candid conversations with Shiva-Raavi both- to redeem his deeds.

Keep it real, keep it basic, keep it natural. That's the essence.

Originally posted by: GrilledCheese

Let me know which all abbreviations you guys want to see on Page 1, and I'll add them!

Ok remember some:

Cigarette + Krish = CigKrish ( I still remember this every time I hear Gerua 🤣)

Shiva + Krish = ShiSh

Shiva + Dhara = ShiRa

Shiva + Rishitha = ShiTha

Shiva + Lota= ? (Forgot this)

Raavi + Krish = ? (Forgot this)

Shiva + Raavi + Krish = ShiViSh

Shiva + Anita = ShiNitha

Originally posted by: funny_fubar

Ok MSM squad: don’t stab me for treason 🙈

I vehemently hate Maami and wish she gets major comeuppance for all her evilness and misdeeds

But I can’t help but admiring one thing in her- she never treats Anita and Raavi as a burden. This might seem as trivial and something that is to be expected. But believe me, a lot of very good people fall in the trap of “how will we deal with society” or “I know it’s bad, but please adjust, it will get better”

Not going into specifics, I have seen innumerable examples of this in real life. It takes a different strength to say “get lost, my girls are not a burden on me, walk away if you have to, I’ll take care of them.” I begrudgingly salute her here. A lot of girls fear sharing their miseries or go on leading terrible lives because they just cannot go back. In fact, in the OG Pandian Stores, Mullai(Raavi) has this conversation with Meena(Rishitha) where she says her father told her he cannot have her sitting at home after he married her off. She cannot go back and has to make this marriages work.

I love PS in this sense. While it showed us a somewhat realistic reaction from Mausapa- he wanted to marry off his daughter on the same day because the “humiliation” would not allow her to get remarried(bs, if you ask me. But unfortunately people do think like him, without consideration for the boy or girl involved ), it also shows us Maami standing rock solid for her girls. That is how real life is, good people do terrible things and evil people sometimes have the most progressive views.

Other than this, Maami can rot in hell for all I care 😈

What does Mami want for Raavi though, that she leave Shiva for good and move back with her? We have seen Raavi repeatedly say that she will find her own path and doesn’t like it when Mami brings up the divorce topic. Just like Anita said, he is your SIL now, if not as a person, give respect to the relationship. We have also seen how Raavi is being loved by everyone in Pandya Niwas, but he doesn’t deserve even a little bit of respect.

We all know Shiva can handle her but the constant problems that arises due to her interference is more of a nuisance when there are other pressing issues that need to be taken care of. She doesn’t like him but wants to own the piece of land that belongs to him😕

Originally posted by: funny_fubar

Ok remember some:

Cigarette + Krish = CigKrish ( I still remember this every time I hear Gerua 🤣)

Shiva + Krish = ShiSh

Shiva + Dhara = ShiRa

Shiva + Rishitha = ShiTha

Shiva + Lota= ? (Forgot this)

Raavi + Krish = ? (Forgot this)

Shiva + Raavi + Krish = ShiViSh

Shiva + Anita = ShiNitha

@ bold - Aren’t they called ShRi? That’s what I was told by Aaliya😃

Shiva + Lota = ShTa

I don’t know Raavi + Krish either, would like to know as well😆

Originally posted by: mpks1

What does Mami want for Raavi though, that she leave Shiva for good and move back with her? We have seen Raavi repeatedly say that she will find her own path and doesn’t like it when Mami brings up the divorce topic. Just like Anita said, he is your SIL now, if not as a person, give respect to the relationship. We have also seen how Raavi is being loved by everyone in Pandya Niwas, but he doesn’t deserve even a little bit of respect.

We all know Shiva can handle her but the constant problems that arises due to her interference is more of a nuisance when there are other pressing issues that need to be taken care of. She doesn’t like him but wants to own the piece of land that belongs to him😕

Ohh yes definitely, in all these aspects Maami is an absolute devil. I wish she would just disappear in these times.

I guess my point is, despite her interference, I like that she at least gives Raavi a way out. It’s not like, now you are married, just deal with. Raavi is free to choose that she wants to stay in Pandya house- it’s not a “I don’t have any other option situation”

As to what Maami wants- I think she feels she can get Raavi divorced, and get her re-married. According to her, (I think)Anita could have gotten married much earlier, if she had just relaxed her conditions on age and looks. She might have thought she can convince Raavi to marry another divorcee(more common now, than in Anita’s time)

Maami is definitely a dark grey, almost close to black character. Raavi should not believe in her or, more importantly, give her information about the Pandya household. Maami will always try to poke and prod, but Raavi will probably be strong against those efforts.

Originally posted by: mpks1

@ bold - Aren’t they called ShRi? That’s what I was told by Aaliya😃

Shiva + Lota = ShTa

I don’t know Raavi + Krish either, would like to know as well😆

Ya there are so many variations that I am not sure too. Others, please do pitch in if there are mistakes 😆