Motherhood is a Choice! - Page 3

Originally posted by: hedwig_potter

I can't tell you how much I agree!👏👏👍🏼

Topic kind off hits home so not going to say much, but I just wanted to take the time and tell you how much I love your posts, this one and all others in general❤️🤗

PS. Are you a psych student?

Thank you for the appreciation 🤗

It's okay, if you aren't comfortable sharing any details. I respect the sensitivity of the topic and your space.

P.S- I am not a student. A working woman with a long career in communication & strategy 😆

I was a student once upon a time, and that was fairly long ago 🤪

Originally posted by: Swetha-Sai

Excellent post by you, dear! 👏⭐️

As Indian society is a patriarchal society since the very beginning, a woman's role has been largely been viewed as a housewife and a baby-making machine.

No matter who much our society and mindset has progressed, career oriented woman is supposed to handle / balance her professional life as well as household duties as well as child rearing.

Most Indians are so much inquisitive people who can't stomach the fact that a young couple can stay married for a longtime without having kids. Instead, they start giving out suggestions OR ideas to the couple to procreate and create a family lineage. 😡

Swetha 🤗

So nice to finally see you here!

@bold, so true . I think Indian societies are highly intrusive and voyeuristic and have no scope for privacy, something that I have had major issues with throughout my life. The bedroom discussions, obstetric histories are dinner table conversations while we maintain Maryada otherwise.

Anyway, that's the sad state of the life that's glorified on ITV

Originally posted by: ValleyOfPeace

I never said she did right in taunting her. I said that was human. In pain and anger people say stuff. N that is human. And about accommodating newer gens, true she should but she won’t. Because age is not just a number. It brings with it notions (good and bad) that do not change so easily. Suman is wrong, Dhara is wrong. But where Suman’s harsh words come across as human nature, Dhara’s leap way out of it’s limits.

Suman’s words did damage Dhara already. She attacked Dhara where it hurt because Dhara attacked Suman (unwantingly) where Suman would feel max pain, her children. But neither will have lasting repercussions (because ITV). In reality though, both would have regretted. One for hitting men so cruelly and the other for taunting a woman about motherhood when all she had been is a mother to her own kids.

Hey, this is well explained 🤗

Originally posted by: ValleyOfPeace

Every character has that in this drama. You know we should start a pro con character thread where we make the list for each character. And what improvements we would want to see.

That's a great idea. I have a reasonably busy week, but I may get time to do a thread like this over the weekend!

Originally posted by: Transference

Thank you for the appreciation 🤗

It's okay, if you aren't comfortable sharing any details. I respect the sensitivity of the topic and your space.

P.S- I am not a student. A working woman with a long career in communication & strategy 😆

I was a student once upon a time, and that was fairly long ago 🤪

Oh, I was just wondering because of username tbh, and your posts are so well analyzed, so just thought I'll ask😆

Communication & strategy huh, well that explains the well articulated posts, clear and beautiful expressions of thoughts! You seriously have a way with words❤️🤗

Originally posted by: Transference

@bold, I am glad to read such excellent thoughts.

We should respect choices, and anything that remotely challenges conventional beliefs shouldn't be dissed off!

Happy to have read through your questions and your wonderful post! Thank you 😃

Beautiful post as always. First off hats off to you for sticking to your decision and keeping strong with what you may have heard.

I think everyone has summed up alot of my feelings about that scene. I know how difficult it is for someone to fall pregnant, keep the pregnancy and raise children and also for some to go through the whole thing to never have any, so aI always respected Dhara in that even though she could have kids, she chose not to.

For Suman who has previously been emphatic towards that particular situation, whatever their equation is, a thought like that even in anger, shows the bitterness she holds for Dhara. It maybe because her sons love her as much if not more than they do Suman(I find Suman to be a very complex character who contradicts herself quite a bit - she'd be a gold point of discussion).

As someone pointed out two wrongs don't make a right and violence both physical and emotional is never justified even in anger. What has happened needs to be resolved to minimise the mental trauma it has caused to all of them involved. (This would be so good for ITV if they did)

Thank you for the post. people are enjoying the fact that dhara is getting insulted. i hated suman's dialogues today..🤢sick. and what the hell,always calling her baghodi ki beti? her name is dhara,for god sake😡. i am not able to like suman at all.

Originally posted by: Miss.M

Beautiful post as always. First off hats off to you for sticking to your decision and keeping strong with what you may have heard.

I think everyone has summed up alot of my feelings about that scene. I know how difficult it is for someone to fall pregnant, keep the pregnancy and raise children and also for some to go through the whole thing to never have any, so aI always respected Dhara in that even though she could have kids, she chose not to.

For Suman who has previously been emphatic towards that particular situation, whatever their equation is, a thought like that even in anger, shows the bitterness she holds for Dhara. It maybe because her sons love her as much if not more than they do Suman(I find Suman to be a very complex character who contradicts herself quite a bit - she'd be a gold point of discussion).

As someone pointed out two wrongs don't make a right and violence both physical and emotional is never justified even in anger. What has happened needs to be resolved to minimise the mental trauma it has caused to all of them involved. (This would be so good for ITV if they did)

i raised this point in another thread,but no use. again people blamed dhara as it was her choice for not having kids.

Originally posted by: Transference

Hey, I do get where Suman might be coming from, and I would be willing to understand her viewpoints. But, time and again, Suman has been extremely acidic towards Dhara with her sexist remarks and questioning her body autonomy. She might be belonging to a different generation, but a part of my heart was craving that perhaps this show might take an unusual storyline. This seems a distant formality now.

Bhagodi ki Beti

Petticoat Cheap

Calling Rishita’s clothes bad

Throwing money

So many things are principally wrong with this woman.

But, nonetheless, Suman also has some great qualities.

suman reminds me of my saas..they are so harsh and never regret for the words uttered.

what does petticoat cheap means?