Originally posted by: esprit_00
I was close friends with someone who had major depression - initially I didn't know but over time he confided in me of his thoughts etc ... I tried earnestly for him to seek help or at least to let his family know. Very nice guy but going through personal crisis with life, love etc. I remember being there for that person for quite a long time in that relationship but eventually realized it was bringing me down too. And I was also stuck in a sad downward spiral - which was very new to me and I didn't like that. I remember parting ways saying you need help and if you don't contact a professional, I will let your family / parents know that you need some help. I told him i would be there via text message (maybe not as much) but not in person at all - not anymore. It was very hard to walk away but it was the right thing to do ... i remember I had genuine fears at the time whether he will commit suicide or completely become a sadist on me when i walk away. Because mental illness can be so bizarre and unpredictable. I had some faith that he is a nice person so it will get better. I am not friends with him anymore but we have had some contact maybe once or twice in a year where I can sense he is ok.
Sometimes people like Sonu need to be on their own to face the music because they make you drown as well in their fears / issues. And such people don't learn so easily - they need proper therapy. Hence you should never involve yourself personally in resolving issues like Ishqi did for Sonu. There are processes and legal proceedings for a reason. The only way these people understand is by ultimatum sadly either you seek professional help or i am spilling the beans on you.