Word sexual harassment and Extra Marital Affair

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Hey everyone

from past two days these two are things are being talked about a lot, but to be honest these two words have really boarder meaning,


It’s just my perception which I want to share with all of you and it’s just a perception, kindly no bashing,


Extra marital affair

Yesterday so many were in view that ninad was giving Pakhi a thumbs up for go ahead with Virat, but exactly is Extra marital affair, these words itself carry lot of weightage, three lives and further associated ppl get affected with it, why does a man or woman needs to hve one. lot of emotions are attached to these words and whole bag of trust in a relationship

In my career and in my personal life I have come across many married friends and I just want to share that


when either of the spouse is busy and despite trying hard to get attention and some of their spouse and they fail they tend to find out love outside marriage,

When there is a constant trouble in marriage and both the partners are frustrated and at that point of time these ppl tend to find peace outside marriage, in most of the cases they find someone who understands and talk to them or best they divert their attention of the troubling affairs


my married friends often complain that their wife doesn’t have time coz they are always busy with children

these examples are of the ppl who are emotionally low and tend to find pleasure outside,

Then there is set of ppl who are chronicle cheaters, they cheat when they are in relationship and they cheat when they have a wife even though how happy they are in their marriage, for them it’s not emotional low moment for them it’s only S*X

That’s my understanding a very small part of Having Extra marital affairs

Based on that I don’t see neither ninad nor Virat crossing the line ever, yesterday Ninad just said he sees his vahini in Pakhi, the way she has handled and took care of the family members and not some ill intentions of go head and be with Virat,

Yes I condemn they giving extra liberty to Pakhi when it is Sai but that’s coz they are using her foe their benefits,

Whatever is the case Kaku knows one thing sai stands for the correct and she never lies, why so much of hate, one coz sai is from a middle class family and importantly why Sairat married, tell me something if they had accepted sai ir if sai was kaku’s choice wouldn’t the table have turned around and that time we all might be praise kaku.

There are lot of questions unanswered as to why CN ppl have given such a place to kaku, we all love Mohit for his constant support to sai, may be Ninad and Omkar has got that support from kaku, May be there was some life changing incidents where kaku earned that place, the same place sai has earned with regards to Mohit

So tomorrow if sai does something and Mohit blindly follows her should we say this a bhabhi devar has some relationship (EMA), we won’t why coz she is sai,


Yes kaku is mean, she dint cared foe her own daughter how can we compare her with Sai, but tell me something even after having only daughter she never differentiated between Mohit Virat and Samrat. Still I would say how ever funny these ppl are to stay in a joint family and loving all kids equally is good thing, I have seen families where they take benefits/cry and crib coz they only have daughters, any ways I am not going there it’s a different topic all together.

Ninad is man he could had divorced ashwani but he dint, however the marriage is he stick to it, he never cheated, and he will not expect his son to cheat his wife which he may not accept as Daughter in Law, but no one can deny and they themselves never deny that sai is indeed Virat’s wife, and that’s gonna be one the reasons in future timid they show shruti track they will choose sai and not Virat,


Coming to Sexual harassment


Please this itself has broader meaning,


When U touch someone with out her/his permission, when u impose on a person and try to make a relationship with that person forcefully, when that person is constantly touching u and making u uncomfortable

And today Pakhi dint do anything and when virat moved back she wasn’t trying to make him uncomfortable rather Virat held pakhi’s hand he was unconscious and hallucinating his wife, he himself was shocked, a man was fainting so she just made him lie down, there was no advances, Infact if I am not mistaken Virat himself denied help later on, how was there a sexual harassment plz explain,


yes time and again Virat is saying her explaining her that she needs to stop, but Pakhi is not stopping why is it only fault of Pakhi isn’t it too late and this is done by Virat himself, I am sure he must be regretting of giving Pakhi such liberty to intervene in his relationship, Pakhi kept on defaming sai, what has Virat done to stop her one or twice nothing, how ever mad u are at ur wife u dont let anyone say that she is a gold digger.

The choice of words impacts one plz use it carefully








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Posted: 4 years ago
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Absolutely agreed!!


I also faltered at this in the morning but when I go back to the scene and that particular scene she was just helping him....

The truth is the family isn’t pushing for an ema but it is pakhis character who is twisting things to her favour that’s what she does....

her main motive is to get Virat and kakus main motive is to suppress Sai.... they join hands because one goal is attached to the other... I mentioned this on Monday as well if kaku had spoken to pakhi the way aai did pakhi would have reacted in a similar manner...

The dynamics of the family are weird but there are a lot of things yet to be unfolded in this situation....



I am against the actor constantly calling fans names but as fans we also have to draw the line.... I think we also cross it sometimes, I have as well.

Let’s just concentrate on the show and sairat and forget the offscreen mess


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Posted: 4 years ago
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Originally posted by: Svt611

Absolutely agreed!!


I also faltered at this in the morning but when I go back to the scene and that particular scene she was just helping him....

The truth is the family isn’t pushing for an ema but it is pakhis character who is twisting things to her favour that’s what she does....

her main motive is to get Virat and kakus main motive is to suppress Sai.... they join hands because one goal is attached to the other... I mentioned this on Monday as well if kaku had spoken to pakhi the way aai did pakhi would have reacted in a similar manner...

The dynamics of the family are weird but there are a lot of things yet to be unfolded in this situation....



I am against the actor constantly calling fans names but as fans we also have to draw the line.... I think we also cross it sometimes, I have as well.

Let’s just concentrate on the show and sairat and forget the offscreen mess


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Siya whatever you are saying I agree, but here I will add something, Pakhi’s behavior would be same as it’s with sai to any woman entering Virat’s life, if Sairat hadn’t married and family had married them she would be same as she is now

The problem is that she is in that situation herself, she accuses Virat for the situation and vada, but being practical, sensible (being claimed) and well educated who marry another guy based on a vada from a person u hardly know.
the problem is that she is fighting for the guy after the dynamics have changed to an extent where u can’t go back, I would have supported Pakhi if she had done such fight before marriage where she failed, it’s her own doing she can’t blame anyone

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Originally posted by: maahi11

Siya whatever you are saying I agree, but here I will add something, Pakhi’s behavior would be same as it’s with sai to any woman entering Virat’s life, if Sairat hadn’t married and family had married them she would be same as she is now

The problem is that she is in that situation herself, she accuses Virat for the situation and vada, but being practical, sensible (being claimed) and well educated who marry another guy based on a vada from a person u hardly know.
the problem is that she is fighting for the guy after the dynamics have changed to an extent where u can’t go back, I would have supported Pakhi if she had done such fight before marriage where she failed, it’s her own doing she can’t blame anyone


True she can’t bear any women in his life

We see how she treats his mother also speaks a lot about this....


it is her own doing for sure! I was just pointing out kakus motives of supporting her and it’s not because of an ema or that she is insinuating one it’s more that kaku dislikes Sai... the day she warms up to Sai kaku will flip 180 degrees


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Posted: 4 years ago
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I agree in EMA one. Because c gang just want to get rid of sai and they love samrat. So noway they will push pakhi to ema.

But sexual harassment can't be neglected. That aspect came because the feeling in pakhi's mind which she openly admitted. She want sai's position in virat life.. Which is his wife. She is constantly asking if sai can feed you why can't i.. If sai can take care of you why can't i..? So i her mind she have those romantic wifey feelings for him which makes her slightest touches creepy and harassment. And today she tried to touch him again and again even after his first refusal though she stopped before actually touching him..

So word is surfaced as a summery...

I remember rishiraj singh ips saying in a college function that if a person touched you private part accidentally its not sexual abuse.. But if a person even looked you with wrong creepy intention and make you feel uncomfortable its sexual abuse..

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Genuine question..


Reverse the situation... We have a Jija in love with his sali .. Jija's wife is MIA.. The Sali has clearly told she is not interested in him and asked him to stay away.. Circumstances land her into hospital after she has had a fight with her husband ... Jija does not let the husband enter.. stays with sali in the ICU in the name of taking care of her...touches her forehead with love, while she is unconscious and does not know she is being touched by someone who she has asked to keep a distance.. Next day Jija helps her lie down and does not leave her hand... tries to touch it with other hand and the lady aggressively removes her hand.. and asks him to not be present in the room when her husband is not there.. Tells him its not right and that she would like to see her husband.. The Jeeja after a lot of denying and berating her for not seeing his concern for her... goes out but saying he will do what he finds right and yet again decided to stay back.. and yet again stops the husband to take care of his own wife..

What do we call it Harassment? Help? Concern? Humanity? Its not just the scene in particular but considering what has happened in the last two days.. Where do we put Pakhi's behaviour..

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Everyone is jumping to conclusions.... And EMA and harassment is becoming Favourite word of the week


Ninad, I thought did not mean EMA, it was the basic care that an elder gives to the younger ones in the family... It is emotional attachment and care... Nthin else....


Pakhi helping virat, only that much part is care, but her overall behaviour is weird...


I loved your content thought.... If we keep the show aside, wat u are saying is obvious practical life.... We are getting quite keen to speak ill of one person and not see the larger picture of basic purpose in any action... She has become a punching bag of sorts.....

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Originally posted by: maahi11

Siya whatever you are saying I agree, but here I will add something, Pakhi’s behavior would be same as it’s with sai to any woman entering Virat’s life, if Sairat hadn’t married and family had married them she would be same as she is now

The problem is that she is in that situation herself, she accuses Virat for the situation and vada, but being practical, sensible (being claimed) and well educated who marry another guy based on a vada from a person u hardly know.
the problem is that she is fighting for the guy after the dynamics have changed to an extent where u can’t go back, I would have supported Pakhi if she had done such fight before marriage where she failed, it’s her own doing she can’t blame anyone


She craves his attention more than anything. She has to be important for him. She not only has a problem with Sai but also with his mother.

Also had she been around Samrat things would have been different, at the moment that woman is lonely and she sees the main who gave her this pain is moving ahead in life. Hence she blames Sai. As rightly said by you it could have been any woman than Sai.

Currently with the situation she is in and the way she is behaving she is only giving herself the pain.


Even i didnt feel anything wrong in the scene which was presented, but the dialogue in the end was the problem. Which said i could go at any lengths for what i want.

Otherwise her concerns for Virat are genuine, probably the only person she genuinely cares about.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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I completely agree with ninad Kaku part , yes they are not pointing towards EMA but ninad want to make pakhi as Kaku in virat's life....

But while coming to sexual harassment thing...

Yes she is helping virat , no denail in that front but she is mentally harassing him, just imagine a girl in virat's place with her ex in the room behaving the same... If you are not comfortable even touching shoulder is inappropriate.... If we only consider pakhi helping scene , it seems like helping but nothing else, but if we see the whole situation then don't you think it is bad, stopping a mother ( ignoring her kind of not stopping aai)and a wife from coming to him and then staying in his room when she clearly know he is uncomfortable with this act and trying to caressing his hair....

I agree for her it's love but according to me if the person is not comfortable with our touch , it's wrong, don't you think so, it might not completely come under sexual harassment but it do come under harassment.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Originally posted by: nimitha12

I agree in EMA one. Because c gang just want to get rid of sai and they love samrat. So noway they will push pakhi to ema.

But sexual harassment can't be neglected. That aspect came because the feeling in pakhi's mind which she openly admitted. She want sai's position in virat life.. Which is his wife. She is constantly asking if sai can feed you why can't i.. If sai can take care of you why can't i..? So i her mind she have those romantic wifey feelings for him which makes her slightest touches creepy and harassment. And today she tried to touch him again and again even after his first refusal though she stopped before actually touching him..

So word is surfaced as a summery...

I remember rishiraj singh ips saying in a college function that if a person touched you private part accidentally its not sexual abuse.. But if a person even looked you with wrong creepy intention and make you feel uncomfortable its sexual abuse..

At 1st instance she helping Virat lie down, 2nd the second Virat took his hand off from her she stopped and if she had forcefully took Virat’s hand I would have agreed to you,

The next time to she was trying to help him which obviously he denied, regarding what’s going in her mind or what she feels she had told Virat’s not ones but many times, if Virat has ignored and had not cleared at the very instant it is not entirely pakhis fault.

I am not a Pakhi fan, but my problem starts that you have given such a liberty to a woman to whom u never stopped, this is not 1st instance there had been lot of instances where Virat did not clear, a week or two back was 1st time ever he said about the relationship that never existed, dosti ki bhi limit hoti when u are married, as I mentioned today if Pakhi is at this stage she cannot be blamed alone, the mixed reaction says a lot,

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