Finally she said it aloud !! - Page 5

Originally posted by: christobelle

I was also disappointed with the scene.

but then her confrontation with Mansi pretty much explained that she wasn't thinking of accusing them as she feels them as a family. She turned blind eye to them

I think last night's incident was a major eye opener, but more and more things will go wrong and she will see most of the Deshmukhs repeatedly abandoning her. Then she will realize that it's not really Raghav at fault, rather their fickle nature.

Originally posted by: Ruhi.007

That is where she is going wrong. Pallu is still barking up the wrong tree. I would have expected her to get angry on her baba. After all where there is love there would be expectations and anger when trust is broken. She could have been shown angry for some time, at least till she had heard about him being admitted to hospital.

Instead she has taken her woes in a different tangent of men vs women.

@ bold agree, and I'm so glad many people have picked up on this, though I don't know about TRP aunties. I am actually quite impressed with the writers for adding this in.

Originally posted by: xxMATSxx

I agree with you but again i read that entire scene differently. Pallavis point was raghav came and said whatevrr and because shes a girl, he can come in and say whatever about her character and society wont think twice in believing it. Yes it happens to men also not denying that, but i think t was mainly her rationalizing it because she doesnt want to believe her pyara baba doesnt trust her. Pallavis arguement was technically invalid for the situation but its not a totally invalid arguement overall so any chance to make a point to an audience that still exists in blaming women .. theres nothing wrong in it either. Idk.i somewhere felt writers were using it as a teaching moment.

It was a teaching moment indeed, regardless of how the audience interprets it. For some it will be about women being wronged, for others they will see that Pallavi is using it to justify her father's behavior because it's less painful than accepting the bitter truth of his hypocrisy.

Also, the main point here is that you are the only one who is responsible for your honor and dignity. Don't let others measure it, judge it, or hold you accountable for it. It's none of their business. She's given the Deshmukhs way more emotional power over her than she should have and as a result most of them didn't care to fight for her dignity, forget as a bahu, not even as a woman. It's all good, because at least she's starting to ask questions and thinking about it more, very much needed for her character growth.

Originally posted by: Ruhi.007

True True..

Pallu is rationalizing it as a woman's issue is just her burying her head in sand.

My biggest problem is with the underlined words, the writers using this misdirected issue as a feminist issue. When the larger audience of this show is female and of the country with serious women problems, imo it is a low blow from the writers to use a non issue to trigger women.

They need it for eyeballs. It often works.

Originally posted by: christobelle

She is dumb in love for family love

But when she will receive far more love and affection from another family.

She will realize that this love of Trahsmukhs were just trash like them. She will look into herself more.

Thats what the growth we r looking for from Pallavi

It will take time, But hope it will be good!!

I want to see her comparing various situations Deshmukhs vs. Raos, it's inevitable. She will receive love, respect, warmth and full trust and will know that what she had before was a nightmare and this is the fairytale (well eventually).

Originally posted by: christobelle

I didn't feel the connect in that scene as like Mansi- Pallavi confrontation.

No going white after marriage plz. I want a royal wardrobe for her. Let her be spoiled please.

I don't think she will go white coz amma n keerthi will be staying Rao mansion too.

She would respect them !!

It'll be even more painful for Raghav if she outwardly has all the signs and dress of a married woman but in her spirit and conversations with him she shows him she is Mandaar's widow and off-limits, parayi for him as he is paraya for her. No one else will know of his suffering because on the outside things would seem normal. He will feel suffocated and can't even complain to Amma or Keerti because they will be on Pallavi's side and he won't want to do anything to upset them or make them leave.

Originally posted by: inlieu

I completely agree with this. While it can be true in many cases, it wasn't in this situation, but it's something Pallavi needs to realize later. Raghav just found the chink in the armor and attacked there because the family let him. He knew since ages that Rambo didn't really trust his own daughter (smart boy) and that he wouldn't have to work too hard to make them fall for his deception. He never once thought to attack her because of her gender or underestimate her because she's a woman. Thanks for calling this out, I'm glad you mentioned it.

Raghav never thought of gender stuff in regards to Pallavi. He just wanted to attack her weak point that is her family.

If he wanted to attack her gender related stuff , he would have degraded her more publicly like what happened with her sister. He would have merely repeated that. But no!! he didn't do it

This should be the time where she should have cried to aayi, y didn't baba trust me aayi? how could he believe Raghav but not me? That was the confrontation i wanted but it fell short

Originally posted by: inlieu

I think last night's incident was a major eye opener, but more and more things will go wrong and she will see most of the Deshmukhs repeatedly abandoning her. Then she will realize that it's not really Raghav at fault, rather their fickle nature.

Thats what i wanr Pallavi to witness that the family she loved isn't worthy for her love

Coz they can't even stand up against the society for u. They can't even place their trust on u.

they would let u go coz of a mere stranger

Originally posted by: inlieu

I want to see her comparing various situations Deshmukhs vs. Raos, it's inevitable. She will receive love, respect, warmth and full trust and will know that what she had before was a nightmare and this is the fairytale (well eventually).

It will be a eye opener for her. If she goes to a family who would stay strong with her then trashmukhs

they will show the new meaning of how sasural can be real heaven too!!

Originally posted by: inlieu

It'll be even more painful for Raghav if she outwardly has all the signs and dress of a married woman but in her spirit and conversations with him she shows him she is Mandaar's widow and off-limits, parayi for him as he is paraya for her. No one else will know of his suffering because on the outside things would seem normal. He will feel suffocated and can't even complain to Amma or Keerti because they will be on Pallavi's side and he won't want to do anything to upset them or make them leave.

He should feel that pain

She is so near yet so far from him that kind of feel