Sai should Reunite pakhi n virat - Page 2

Yes, it can be reduced. Age teaches one to respect the feelings of another person. She can learn too and needs to do that for her character to grow.

Definitely, don’t hold back in the zillat arena. But be softer and less bratty towards those who love her 😊

Originally posted by: AnjuRish

Some what agree with you ...

But can the brashness be reduced not really when it is u r defence mechanism ..

She has grown up in a democratic and open nuclear house hold . So to combat the toxicity she is brash . Believe me I have been Der ..I come from a big and often accused of brash and Rebel behaviour. But I believe in arguing my point . It does not matter I get permission or not but I need the freedom to have my say . And if it's imp have the freedom to justify and argue with facts. It's a personality trait over time u can temper it.

Infact with outsiders I can appear civil sometimes cold but with my close circle I am.still a fire brand . I don't hold back and I hope they accept it

If I have to hide from my close ones too what's the point

Now this is my perspective and my coping mechanisms .

Thai is me

Originally posted by: gurl-enchanted

Yes, it can be reduced. Age teaches one to respect the feelings of another person. She can learn too and needs to do that for her character to grow.

Definitely, don’t hold back in the zillat arena. But be softer and less bratty towards those who love her 😊

She is a teenager who is being forced to act like an adult too soon due to the circumstances of her life. But this is the age, we lash out at loved ones too (even our own mothers, the one who loves us the most), there’s significant temperament/hormones at play, it’s biological and all of us have gone through it. I will not hold this against Sai.

That’s exactly what I said. This behaviour is her age talking 🤷‍♀️ Not holding it against her, but she does need to grow up in certain aspects over time.

Originally posted by: idkwhattoput

She is a teenager who is being forced to act like an adult too soon due to the circumstances of her life. But this is the age, we lash out at loved ones too (even our own mothers, the one who loves us the most), there’s significant temperament/hormones at play, it’s biological and all of us have gone through it. I will not hold this against Sai.

Originally posted by: msin

I do feel virat will ruin Sai’s life her confidence and happiness.. for her own sanity and self reliance.. she should cut her loss abd break up with virat ..

Pakhi n virat are both selfish characters.. abd they both are well matched in Chavan niwas .. they will do exactly as Kaku ninad and omi want ..abd be happy when samrat comes back he will find a girl for himself .. he certainly deserves better than pakhi

Ashwini will adjust .. for mental peace in the house

Sai should never enter CN again .. file for annulment and finish her studies .. life is very long .. she may get a more suitable partner later on in life

I understand how you are feeling.

If I was a friend of SaiRat and if I came to know of all that happened between them, below are the things that I would do.

Blast Virat and ask him to meet a therpaist/counsellor who would help him with his anger issues.

Reprimand Sai for all her misbehavior, give her a chance to change her behavior and attitude to some extent, to act reasonable. Warn her to not take decisions on her own and never to hide things from Virat.

I would also ask Virat to not hide anything from Sai. He should also involve Sai while taking decisions.

Both have to be transparent to each other.

If there is no change in either of them, send them for counselling.

Virat is losing it when he gets angry and is not right at all. But the guy has a lot of good qualities that one cannot ignore. He has good will for the girl, but has to change himself in many ways. I would only say that he can be given a chance by asking him to get his main problem addressed.

Sai might be a victim in this and during many cases in the past too. She had to face the wrath of Virat. I think it has got to do with their age, the fact that she is his responsibility and Sai's nature and behavior too.

I have said in the past too, Virat is much elder than Sai, he has taken her responsibility, he has got an upper hand which he takes many times unintentionally to correct her or her actions. He is being too conscious when it comes to what Sai does. It makes him act very harsh and strict with Sai compared to others.

He is responsible for Sai's deeds actually.

They are a team, even before he had developed feelings for her. In a team, if one of the members fail, the lead takes the responsibility for the failure, in this case Virat considers himself to be the lead.

He has brought her to his house, he has assured everyone in his family that Sai is a very nice girl and has been asking his family members to give a chance to the girl ever since their Grihapravesh. The family didn't even want to let the girl in, they had never accepted her and he does puts in a lot of efforts to make them accept her, and in the process, he also takes responsibility/ownership of Sai's actions.

Sai is very different from him and rest of the family members. He has been trying to maintain an equilibrium and fails time and again. Sai's actions are also not that of a normal one, she is very rebellious, she doesn't bend easily, not that I am blaming her, but as much as it is looking attractive or impressive when we see it, it is very difficult to deal with it as well. Especially for a person like Virat who needs to manage his reaction.

Virat takes stand for both Sai and his family, he sometimes fails to understand what would have happened that Sai was behaving in a particular way. The impression that he has on her, plays a part. He doesn't trust her in a few things, has no confidence in her. He has seen her to be impulsive always, seen her misbehaving, acting disrespectfully too, has seen her being very stubborn and also adamant.

Hence it looks he is judgemental about Sai. That is why he has called her immatured, nasamajh and all. This judgmental attitude is playing a part everytime he reacts to a situation when it involves Sai.

He believes that she is a girl good at heart, but that isn't enough. He also needs to learn to trust her, needs to give her a chance to explain, needs to learn to give her a benefit of doubt. He should learn not to jump to conclusions based on assumptions or under the influence of his family or based on her nature or some of her past behavior.

Virat should not let his emotions drive his reactions, not just with Sai, with anything. His nature to make compromises is also driven by his emotions. He does things which he is not sure of and faces a blow due to it. He has to stop thinking himself to be the lead of his and Sai's team. It is because of this, he finds things very pressurising, has emotional outbursts when he fails to manage situations. He can take responsibility of her actions irrespective of whether he is a lead or not. If he loves her, he should learn to respect her individuality. He can expect her to change in a few ways, but not expect her to change her individuality.

One most important thing is what does Sai and Virat want. Do they want one another?

Virat has some good impression on Pakhi, that doesn't mean he loves her. He loves Sai, but whatever I have mentioned above is the problem or hurdle in their relationship. He needs help, a friend, a therapist or his mom who should be able to communicate what is wrong, how he has been wrong and how he should correct it.

If Sai and Virat want/love each other, they have to correct themselves, understand each other, work on what is lacking in their relationship.

They both deserve a chance to work on their relationship.

I believe that if two individuals want to give their relationship a chance, they should. Not once but as many times as they think they want to-- the key word is "they" and "want". It needs equal efforts, redressal of grievance of both parties, remedy and sincerity. Virat and Sai, when they reach a point where they both want to give the relationship a chance should come together with the core condition that no other person can have the say between them. As you said yesterday, Meghna, she should return to the house for the "husband" if she has to. But even the "husband" has to bring back the "Wife" not the zimmedari.

For all practical purposes, his vaada to Kamal Joshi was broken the moment he ousted her from the house in the dead of the night. So, he cannot claim to be fulfilling the vaada again. It has to be a new slate and he has to write on it the words he wanted to say to her that day (the previous day as per their interstellar time).

Once he says it, Sai will know what it means and will try to see things from a new perspective.

Originally posted by: jankiraghav

I believe that if two individuals want to give their relationship a chance, they should. Not once but as many times as they think they want to-- the key word is "they" and "want". It needs equal efforts, redressal of grievance of both parties, remedy and sincerity. Virat and Sai, when they reach a point where they both want to give the relationship a chance should come together with the core condition that no other person can have the say between them. As you said yesterday, Meghna, she should return to the house for the "husband" if she has to. But even the "husband" has to bring back the "Wife" not the zimmedari.

For all practical purposes, his vaada to Kamal Joshi was broken the moment he ousted her from the house in the dead of the night. So, he cannot claim to be fulfilling the vaada again. It has to be a new slate and he has to write on it the words he wanted to say to her that day (the previous day as per their interstellar time).

Once he says it, Sai will know what it means and will try to see things from a new perspective.

Hi Janki,

Welcome back. Good to see you 😊.

I don't check the home page much these days. I mainly reply to tags or other's replies these days, so haven't noticed if you have posted your analysis today.

If Sai doesn't want Virat in her life then it's her wish. Despite everything Virat has done if he is considered selfish then I would prefer this selfishness over any selflessness.

Sai can find a different partner after completing her studies but she will not find a flawless man. There is no guarantee that her new partner will not have family issues and will be as understanding and supportive as Virat. Yes, I do consider him as an understanding and supportive partner and I have reasons to support my claim. The same applies to Virat, he can find a different partner where he doesn't have to deal with impulsiveness, brash behavior, rudeness, and “I know it all “attitude but there is no guarantee that he will find someone like Sai who is a pure soul .

For a successful marriage , both the partners have to work towards it . There is nothing like perfect marriage or partner .

I'm all in for Sai walking out, but I know that won't happen since this is an ITV show and the makers cannot let SaiRat go even though they want to *ahem*. But in real life terms, a girl like Sai should run at the first chance she gets because this is not "love" or any bs like that and I don't think Virat has ever done so "great" for her rather than basic things that was a part of his "duty" and "promise" and at times he has faltered on that too. The bar for Virat looks way too low.

Still I am here, shamelessly waiting for Sairat scenes since I have decided to throw my brain and logic out of the window and enjoy NeilSha's chemistry that makers gives us once in a blue moon. I have stopped taking the storyline seriously and now it does nothing but amuse me.

But does Virat really love Sai?

Love is a very strong emotion which takes time to form and sustain.

Agreed that people do fall in and out of love

But has Virat really fallen in love with Sai and vice- versa?

Because as much I understand in any relationship with honesty comes transparency and trust

And with trust respect

With respect eventually love.

But do we really see these traits in Virat?

He lies even on small things and we have seen that before as well.

Sai too wasn’t honest with Virat which is again not right.

Originally posted by: laksh

Hi Janki,

Welcome back. Good to see you 😊.

I don't check the home page much these days. I mainly reply to tags or other's replies these days, so haven't noticed if you have posted your analysis today.

Hi laksh. Thank you so much for your warm welcome 🤗No, I didn't make any post yesterday. I was caught up with work but I did make one today for both episodes put together...