Ghum Hain kisikey Pyaar Mein WU and Daily discussion thread no 13. - Page 23

Originally posted by: laksh

U know our worst case scenario 🤣

It was so possible that I believed. 😛

It was Virat who was all dancing and doing cute things so whatever pakhi if she says the dialogue , would not be believable

Originally posted by: DeePiku

I don’t think he will because 1) in KD he didn’t and 2) he will probably think that Sai doesn’t love him anyway if I remember in KD when Rono tells RK she basically goes crazy and says how Imon won’t respect his love etc.

I don’t think he’ll want to push things either given that it’ll take him getting shot for her to come back

Haan in KD, they had that because they introduced this confession part, I am confused how they will take it forward. He wont confess for sure but what will make him not to confess especially when he is so desperate to confess now, we have to see 😒

Originally posted by: DeePiku

Love will turn into anger turn into 5 minutes hatred turn into guilt turn into sadness turn back into love 😆

If Virat's love is true, it won't just vanish after all this kand is over and he finds out the truth. It should become stronger and more mature.

The last line reminded me of an article I read a few years ago.. I dug it up and am sharing it with you

Discovering a partner’s affair can be devastating because it strikes at so many aspects of one’s identity. It can cause the betrayed person to doubt their own attractiveness or judgment in people, and it can raise fundamental questions about the inherent goodness of the world.

This is because our relationships are built upon the fragile agreement that those about whom we care most deeply will behave, in large part, as they have always behaved. A betrayal can shatter that trust and open the door to the possibility that things in one’s small, intimate world may not be as they appear.

The roots of these feelings stretch back to childhood, when we need predictability in the care we receive. A great deal of research suggests that when a baby’s need for predictability is not met, that baby can grow into an anxious and distrusting adult. As children, we will even irrationally blame problems on ourselves instead of our parents as a way to make the world feel more orderly and predictable.

And to a degree, trust always entails the suspension of disbelief. This is, in part, why betrayals can be so psychologically traumatizing. It’s as if one’s entire view of the world has been proven false. In fact, studies show that psychological traumas like discovering an affair have the capacity to affect brain functioning long after the event occurs. One of these changes is the development of a hyper-vigilance to further assaults. This makes sense from an evolutionary perspective, in that the hyper-vigilance may protect us from haplessly wandering into another psychological injury.

Unfortunately, hyper-vigilance is not a great discriminating device. It exists primarily to put the individual on global red alert that danger is afoot. It creates a suspicion of future betrayals and tempts us to look for lies elsewhere—in other family members, co-workers, or spiritual leaders. Indeed, studies reveal that going through a divorce reduces trust in other people as well as institutions.

Yet this distrust is often misplaced. What’s more, it limits the strength and the number of our social connections, often leaving us isolated from the rest of the world. This is why it is urgent for us to learn how to trust again, even if one’s relationship is destroyed. Trust isn’t just essential to relationships; it’s necessary for a happy, meaningful life.

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/surviving_betrayal

even though the article talks about cheating in relationship and betrayal through that, it hold true to any kind of betrayal by your partner....

I’ve just added a few paras of the article but the article makes a good read if you’re interested in knowing what the psychologist says about rebuilding trust post a betrayal

What happened in today's episode?

Originally posted by: sadiltl

i still want him to knock some sense into sai after knowing the truth. All Said and done, sai has to realize no promise made to aai or pulkit can come in front of virat . May be she will also learn this. Both should learn to trust

Originally posted by: laksh

I would have agreed with u if they weren't following KD.

There will.be more beizzati of love

Of break of trust in the near future

This track was initially.for Virat to realise his love

But due to Neil's absence they changed it all

People will then ask how did.he not realise when he was in amravati why only after Sai.left the house

They also wanted to show close moments between the couple and that will happen only if Virat realises his.love

see he has already realized his love and ofcourse this being an ITV show we will have more trust breaking and rebuilding

Virat has already realised his love but it’ll be anger overpowering that feeling which happens so often with many of us... I’ve hurt my loved ones and those who I love deeply in anger by spewing hateful words and that is exactly what will happen here

Originally posted by: Andy3456

What happened in today's episode?

Originally posted by: sadiltl

i still want him to knock some sense into sai after knowing the truth. All Said and done, sai has to realize no promise made to aai or pulkit can come in front of virat . May be she will also learn this. Both should learn to trust

Sai already knows she’s making a mistake... see the whole situation will be a clash of betrayal and stemming into anger.

When an individual is angry they say the most hurtful things to the other...

only alter will both even Sai realise she made a mistake.. somewhere she knows the consequences aren’t going to be happy... she knows what’s coming that is why she feels guilty but to what extent is what she doesn’t know...

she hopes Virat will try and listen and understand her point of view...

see the better scenario would be for Virat to not throw her out calm down and listen to her point of view and explain why her impulsive decision was wrong.... but he will be instigated by a few people which will take over his ability to think rationally in that situation

Originally posted by: Svt611

I disagree with you...

I can see the love pulkit has for tai. I agree he is spineless but we have to put ourselves in his place and think...

both have been wronged so much... he has lived in the thought that devyani had moved on.. tai living in the thought of fear of something happening to her child and husband and being driven to insanity

the entire marriage that he set up is to fulfill her wishes to make her happy... I don’t see him to be selfish because he genuinely loves tai..

this is an unpopular opinion and I respect all your views but I’m putting myself in his shoes and thinking what would I have done....

I don’t think he’s selfish...

As I mentioned chavans are Devi’s family and she has been wronged the most so it should be her decision in what is to be done with them... for that she needs to get fine and the only way is by her drying with pulkit... bhavani will never let her recover and live a normal life

she has a chance to do that with pulkit

I don’t doubt his love but he is selfish to not think Bout the repercussions Sai has to face after this ,

Originally posted by: Saichintalli

I hate to agree and support that spineless man... But yes he did marriage arrangements only for Tai.... He remembers each and every wish of hers... And actually he suffered alot and finally getting his happiness, so he is completely into it... My only problem is for whom he is doing it... He even didn't tried himself to get her

@bold absolutely with you on this one... we cannot deny the fact that he is spineless and stupid...

If he were smart enough he would have gone to Virat himself and told him the entire truth rather than putting everything on sais shoulders but without doing that this wouldn’t be an ITV show... so we will have to ignore his idiotic behavior.. ITV has and will always lack logic