Originally posted by: Shristhi2002
Absolutely loved your post.
Cuz here we are not justifying or bashing anyone,but simply we are trying to look at the situation like Sai.
Right, exactly, trying to understand her
Because that is what even we would do, have been in this kind of situation not just with spouse but with others too.
Agreed your view and loved it as well.
And let's speak using Sai's personality over here ,and her emotional turmoils.
1. To always speak truth
Sai's this ability also reflects in the phone call. Why am I stating this and how it is related over here? Look,a person who is used to speak truth always ,that person will also have difficulty to hide truth. Even a normal person undergoes this,and Sai is a strong supporter of truth so,for her hiding truth is equivalent to telling lies for such people. And wouldn't it have crossed her mind once ,that she could somehow speak out,not act,not lie, as in not the entire truth,but atleast devi tai's condition. So,she was struggling ,to hold herself back,cuz speaking of experience here,but most of emotional breakdowns leads to blurting out everything, here she cant,one she is restricted to and other is she shouldn't over here. So,how to avoid words slipping out in such circumstances?Obviously avoid as much as you can; restrict your actions, interactions and words.
👏👏👏exactly, why she is avoiding to call him.
This was the very first thought that came to my mind, I think I haven't stated it explicitly, thanks to have pointed this out. Very well put ❤❤❤
Awesome Shristhi.
Even a person who speaks lies will find it very difficult to hold back their emotions while on phone and Sai is one who wouldn't.
2. Agreed point,too much burden
Emotional burdens. Not this one,as in from beginning lets see a graph. Grief fron her fathers death,confusion and struggle with the present scenario,which includes almost all sorts of unwanyed emotions,which most of the time a person wants to escape. But,in a span of three to four days,she endured a lot.
Exactly, it took me back to the time when she never got time to grieve on her father's death too. But someone like Virat was there with her and it wasn't anything like this.
The day she met him at his house in GC too, she was heartbroken. She even tells him after wedding that I have lost my Dad, what else could be worse than that.
Not coming out as a joke,but this fits right here,my father always says a scenario of how words and emotions can be seen through actions. This is what my father says,he tells that once if a husband comes home and calmly speaks with a wife,than see the food of the day. And then he said that ,if a husband comes and vents out frustration on his wife,than you can see her frustration in that food easily even if the dishes are of yesterday . And shockingly this theory still works in my home.
I am sorry, I didn't get this.
Even Sai was subjected to a lot,first Sai ,even though was somehow guilty of her action with a tad bit at some point,but she never stopped or questioned herself or her decision making ability. But this time all of this were at stake,and even her confidence and self respect too. Then she also lost her major support system over here,as you said guilt trips ,these are worst cases, so this is all quite harsh on any human being, and so was on Sai and she was reflecting them as she had got the time to comtemplate them only today while with Virat. Usse aaj hi fursat mili,because maybe she went on a flashback on how and what are happening in his absense. And she needed him at that moment.
@bold exactly 👏👏👏
Won't it? She was overwhelmed as soon as she saw him. There was some kind of relief, I would also say that she had got some confidence and strength too. Won't we? You know not all are good at showing out their emotions. I am usually a very emotional person but I keep a very straight face when I am highly emotional and also when I know my emotions are going to affect the person in front of me. As much as I want them or I feel relieved when I just get to hear their voice or see their face, I sink in that moment, I register it but also do not let the other person know the state that I am in.
Sai doesn't want to let him see it and even when she herself doesn't want to do it, she is also constantly warned not to share.
Do you know that sometimes even though it is our decision to not tell anything to the other person, when someone else puts pressure on you with the exact same decision, the it becomes difficult to stick to the decision, one would struggle even more.
When it is done voluntarily, we become strong and determined to follow it but when pressure is applied, the determination tends to get faltered. She was trying as hard as she can to not breakdown, not only was he in video call, Aai was also in the same room.
She needs time,but she is not getting it unfortunately. Waqt toh do,to get a grip.
Yup and though we are watching it as weeks and weeks, must be only 2 days since Virat left I think. And she had to endure all this in just 2 days of time, how difficult it must be for her.
Ghum ka calendar humeh gumraah kar raha hai 😂😂😂
Now ,I even feel worried for Virat,cuz Sai discovered these truth and Sai's case is different . But for Virat,atleast a part of truth will be known one day or the other, and for him it will not be a hurdle race as it is for Sai,it will be a slap to him,a tight one,painful ,unexpected, sudden and leaves a volume to deal with in the ears.
😭Sadly
Nice post.❤❤
