Pakhi is a disappointment on so many levels.

I have given this a fair bit of thought and each time I've arrived at a different conclusion. Before I started watching GHKPM, I had watched some movies and shows that showed amazing female friendships and bonding. Maybe that is why the sheer garbage of pitting two women against each other hit me harder than it should have. Agreed, if they showed Sai and Pakhi as Betty and Veronica, there would be no show. The premise of the show is the love triangle and you can't deviate from that. But many times, I feel like a brilliant opportunity has been thrown away by the writers on two fronts by not developing the Sai-Pakhi equation more. Firstly, had this been better done, the very bland character of Pakhi would have an interesting layer. Secondly, it could also have shown that two females are not either best friends or the worst of enemies, they can be a lot of things in between.

I am not talking about Kaku, Sonali or Karishma because they are gone cases. But Pakhi was introduced as a smart and modern young woman and in my opinion, had they made her grey while retaining this core characteristic, it would have done absolute wonders. I can well understand why Pakhi and Sai hate each other but I wish Pakhi's hatred didn't stoop to the level of doing the easiest thing to humiliate a woman- question her character. When Virat held Sai's hand and Pakhi asked him to leave it, I was impressed for a nano second. I wish the scene was just that- Pakhi asking Virat to let go of Sai's hand because it is wrong. Period. I wish she didn't follow it up with the statement of "koi isko pasand nahin karta, pata nahin kyun ja rahi hai lunch pe," etc etc.

Don't you guys think it would have been supremely interesting if the Sai-Pakhi equation went a little beyond Virat? These two women who loathe each other but stand up for each other woman to woman, if the situation arises? I have no doubts in my mind that if Pakhi were in such a situation, Sai would definitely support her. Sometimes you have to look beyond your personal opinion of the person and just objectively evaluate what the person in front is going through. For example, when Sai stood up for Mohit, she'd never even had a proper conversation with him but as a human being, she assessed the absolute injustice of the situation and supported him. Even when Pakhi's hands burnt after the masala peesna, Sai's heart went out to her and she put aside her dislike for a moment. I wish Pakhi occasionally did that for Sai and saw her as a girl, a human being and not just somebody her "love" is married to. This would've been an actual portrayal of a 'grey' character but now, she is out and out vile and venomous.

Why I only mention Pakhi and not the other women except Aai is- it's repeatedly shoved down our throats that Pakhi is educated, samajhdar, mature (LOL) and instead of just telling, they can even show it sometimes.

The point I am trying to make is- you don't have to LIKE a woman or be FRIENDS with her for you to have to support her when she is being subjected to the worst sort of treatment. If Pakhi had ever done that- spoken for Sai DESPITE her hatred for her- maybe we could've accepted that she is a 'dignified' woman.

I understand your view point but expecting that kind of treatment for Pakhi character from itv is bit too much IMO. Grey shades with layers in a female character doesn’t get developed in itv dramas. Either she is mahan or vamp.

Even if it gets developed I have my serious doubts about the current actress playing Pakhi pulling it off. She can’t portray the nuances of the character. She can play the vamp to the T.

Sai helping tendency and standing up for justice/ righteousness is her
Inbuilt character. Which we have seen time and again.

Mokha pe thana marna is Pakhi’s character.

Interesting thing is we do get grey shades in ML in most of the itv dramas. Including this one. Virat is not all goody shoes IMO.

Nice post

Jis din pakhi ne ya baat accept kar li ki uski zindagi barbaad karne wali vo khud hain virat ya sai nhi, ussi din uski zindagi safal ho jayegi . If u don't like to move on with life & keep sticking at one place , life will not stop for u .

Uski zindagi mein problems isiliye coz she don't have guts to stand for d decision made by herself. She was d one who agreed for samrat's alliance shs should have stick to it , no matter virat ne kya kaha aur kiya , I m strict believer if virat had not given any vaada to het still d lady would had married samrat to be close to virat.

Sai se problems isiliye nhi hain sai answer back karti hai , sai ki presence usse reality ke darshan karati hain , usko virat or uske relationship ki limit dekhati. Trust me didi to sai ki photograph or dummy se bhi non stop fight kar sakti hain coz zindagi vo jeena chahti thi vo sai jee rahi hain virat ki wife hone ki vo bhi unhi ki aankhon ke samne. Unko lagta hain agar sai chali jayegi to virat unka ho jayega, lekin sach vo mana nhi chahti ki virat unka nhi ho sakta. Virat again rejected her still there is no improvement in her , subah reject night mein vapas khane ki plate ke saath .

Pakhi is herself in negative phrase & as CN is full of negativity is effecting her in worse way.

Pakhi stopping virat from holding Sai's hand was just a nataunki to show her greatness & critise sai for going to pulkit's house. See in evening she questioned Sai's character.

If she met sai outside CN then maybe she would had gel with sai but in CN never.

If Pakhi in any situation faces any wild allegations from the family, Sai will defn fight for Pakhi no doubt. But can't expect from Pakhi

But incase not like other versions if they myt turn Pakhi positive and stand up for Sai then may be Pakhi my support Sai in future,

But all ifs n buts

Regards

Aarthi

Originally posted by: I-Am-SherLOCKED

I have given this a fair bit of thought and each time I've arrived at a different conclusion. Before I started watching GHKPM, I had watched some movies and shows that showed amazing female friendships and bonding. Maybe that is why the sheer garbage of pitting two women against each other hit me harder than it should have. Agreed, if they showed Sai and Pakhi as Betty and Veronica, there would be no show. The premise of the show is the love triangle and you can't deviate from that. But many times, I feel like a brilliant opportunity has been thrown away by the writers on two fronts by not developing the Sai-Pakhi equation more. Firstly, had this been better done, the very bland character of Pakhi would have an interesting layer. Secondly, it could also have shown that two females are not either best friends or the worst of enemies, they can be a lot of things in between.

I am not talking about Kaku, Sonali or Karishma because they are gone cases. But Pakhi was introduced as a smart and modern young woman and in my opinion, had they made her grey while retaining this core characteristic, it would have done absolute wonders. I can well understand why Pakhi and Sai hate each other but I wish Pakhi's hatred didn't stoop to the level of doing the easiest thing to humiliate a woman- question her character. When Virat held Sai's hand and Pakhi asked him to leave it, I was impressed for a nano second. I wish the scene was just that- Pakhi asking Virat to let go of Sai's hand because it is wrong. Period. I wish she didn't follow it up with the statement of "koi isko pasand nahin karta, pata nahin kyun ja rahi hai lunch pe," etc etc.

Don't you guys think it would have been supremely interesting if the Sai-Pakhi equation went a little beyond Virat? These two women who loathe each other but stand up for each other woman to woman, if the situation arises? I have no doubts in my mind that if Pakhi were in such a situation, Sai would definitely support her. Sometimes you have to look beyond your personal opinion of the person and just objectively evaluate what the person in front is going through. For example, when Sai stood up for Mohit, she'd never even had a proper conversation with him but as a human being, she assessed the absolute injustice of the situation and supported him. Even when Pakhi's hands burnt after the masala peesna, Sai's heart went out to her and she put aside her dislike for a moment. I wish Pakhi occasionally did that for Sai and saw her as a girl, a human being and not just somebody her "love" is married to. This would've been an actual portrayal of a 'grey' character but now, she is out and out vile and venomous.

Why I only mention Pakhi and not the other women except Aai is- it's repeatedly shoved down our throats that Pakhi is educated, samajhdar, mature (LOL) and instead of just telling, they can even show it sometimes.

The point I am trying to make is- you don't have to LIKE a woman or be FRIENDS with her for you to have to support her when she is being subjected to the worst sort of treatment. If Pakhi had ever done that- spoken for Sai DESPITE her hatred for her- maybe we could've accepted that she is a 'dignified' woman.

Thats a very noble thought of yours👍🏼but in ITV specially in SP's show third angles are a reason for more drama which can only be created by portraying them negatively😕 but here I am still happy as Pakhi has not yet started intentionally planning n plotting against Sai and doesn't hide her true emotions for Virat in front of her or Virat to gain more sympathy...yeah, I also agree that she is always ready with her toxic taunts and has zero sympathy for her but she doesn't get more worse than that...I can just hope she stays like this if not better...also expecting something better from makers, I think is a far cry... we can only dream about the Pakhi that you are talking about... actually theirs an SS from one of our great forum-writers...there you will fall in love with Pakhi's character...the portrayal of her character there is just top-notch....try it out...I am sure you will love her..

Here it is...it is something much more than your expectations

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/ghum-hai-kisikey-pyaar-meiin/5206636/sampatra-sairat-ff-najwa-heartburn-chapter-11-updated-on-page-18

I don’t think it can happen.. right now pakhi is still in love with virat .. she wants him back.. and there is no way she can like sayi who is attractive, smart and sharing a room with virat ..

she had pretended to like her and be big in the first 3-4 days of marriage but after sayi threw her off the the bedroom and close the door ..her dislike started .. then after seeing sayi ka lipstick on his shirt it started triggering her more n more ..

If she was his ex .. moved on from the relationship still it would have been difficult..

For sayi pakhi is her husband’s love interest.. try as she might she has not kept virat away from her heart ..

She had acknowledged pakhi the first time she had heard her name from virat during GC days .. it registered..

Now she is his wife ... she’s trying to pretend to her husband it does not matter... but every thing pakhi does gets noted .. and in moments of her anger it comes out .. all the intimacy pakhi has tried to do with virat ... sayi can’t stand it at all

so how can they be friends..

All this women women bonding is global talk .. they are both humans .. and they both desire a common mate for themselves

Pakhi a character who is guess is herself responsible for her state. I read one of the post here where it was written she wanted love marriage but instead had to opt for arrange marriage. Probably she would have moved forward if Virat was not in the same family she got married into.

The problem here is if she had issues with marriage she should have told samrat she dint, when she met Virat she expected a lot more stuff where she fantasied Virat marrying her. Agreed things were not easy to accept, especially when Samrat her husband is still a unknow guy for her,

But how does this makes a difference isnt Virat also unknown man to her, how much will u understand a guy u meet in a camp for two days. And moreover this goes to an extent that u dream of getting married to him. When Virat promised her he would not give her space to anyone, did he meant he will not love anyone else. Everyone has their own space in ones life, Virat said he will not give her space to someone else, so did she thought he will never marry someone, let alone Sai,

Her problem with Sai is Virat gave her that position which she wanted, when she expected Virat to confess his feelings in front of his family and marry her all she got was Virat requesting her to marry samrat. She married Samrat her own wish, yet she behaved like she have every right on Virat, instead of giving marriage a chance she conveniently spoke to Virat and was more interested knowing about the person Virat talking about her,

Her behavior with Sai changed coz she cannot accept that Sai and Virat are married, that Virat married someone else, that Virat is moving forward, where she is struck, She is delusional, she thinks Virat loves her, sometimes I feel she is taking a revenge from Virat by hurting Sai, she wants Virat to feel guilty for getting her married to Samrat. She is cunning, she wanst taking Sai's side rather she was insulting Sai by stating that no one can call her for lunch or befriends with her.

Pakhi can very well observe the admiration Virat have for Sai, she can feel Virat is drawing towards Sai, and she have no means to stop that, Very cunning she blamed Sai for ruining her image yet when Virat told her what Sai feels she again got a hope that may be she can get Virat, but alas when Virat said he doesnt feel anything for her, she panicked and insecure of being alone,

I feel her problem is that she is all alone, and if Sai and Virat would not have married, she would still be okay of Virat being alone, is this love, where you want a person to alone all life since she is alone,