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Bappa kasam, if this word maturity is said again for the next one year, I will physically tear the page containing the word from every dictionary I can lay my hands on, exactly how my Dukhiyaari Didi tore the print out of the e-ticket which didn't have Sai's name and threw the pieces at Sai's face. I will also tear the pages into pieces and throw it at the screen when Chakram niwasis beam from it. Of course, I will also completely ignore the existence of e-dictionaries that can't be torn. 😖🙊😳😐
So Maturity ki moorthi cracked and the immaturity hiding inside was out even as far-from-mature retired army man questioned the maturity of his IPS officer son in hiding the truth that his wife was going to join him on the honeymoon otherwise planned for him and his vahini by the immensely mature and purane khayalato wale acche dil Ke Ghar ke bade. The maturity of the most-mature person -- Sai -- was dragged into the debate in words like nasamajh and akhad and even though she still showed why she was the most matured by licensing the honeymoon of the Vahini-gone-vedi with her mere-kuch-nahi-lagte husband, the honeymoon flight never took off for the lack of maturity by Mrs MIA (in absence of clarity on her surname), who threw the packed suitcase right in front of the blessed photo of her MIA husband to shed tears of her loss of maturity mask in front of her biggest immature enemy. 🤯🤯 Okay, I just detoxified my brain from the maturity assault. Oh wait, in the end, it was Ashwini who taught Godu the definition of maturity.. I hope the subject of maturity has finally been completed after 113 episodes. In between this, Sonali also called Patralekha as 'Pakhi' today? 😮
Vahini ka meltdown complete hua... Thankfully they showed intelligence by not making it out as if by tearing the printouts ott ticket she had closed doors to board the flight. Virat still went to fetch her bag but well, 'Main Sai ko bada kaise ban ne deti' wo bhi after she has already made a place in his heart? But Sai toh hamesha hi badi rahegi because despite all the hurt she was still the one who genuinely understood the woman's angst and conceded to her need to want to go alone with 'imaginary husband'. What a moment that was when Sai placed her hand on Patralekha's shoulder to still try to console her. In that moment not only did Sai free herself of the charge of being 'mauka-parasth' (whatever it means in the context of husband wife outing) but also reinforced the trust that she has in Virat without even saying it -- she was genuinely okay with only the two of them going right from the beginning because she never doubted Virat's intentions and has always considered herself the third ticket anyway. Despite being called names, being at the receiving end of the rant of the 'cheated imaginary wife', she was the one to gather composure and also her compassion that she's made of -- it was good that she made it clear that she did not want to go on the journey to begin with. She never wanted to ruin this journey for Patralekha, no matter how much it would have hurt her if her husband had actually gone without her. Will it shake vahini out of her delusions? It might push her deeper into the feeling of being 'deceived'.
Okay, so now: Virat trying to make it sound like "you both are at loggerheads and I am sandwiched" is problematic... It was said in a moment of frustration and not as much to Sai as to the Mallika-e-Maturity and he was in a hurry to still attempt to make the trip happen against the time running out but blaming both of them for the unpleasant situation between them was still misplaced at this moment. He knew it was far from the truth. Sai had only barely reacted to the honeymoon taunt made by the "cheated imaginary wife" and so did Ashwini... it didn't deserve the chastising retort at all. He has this extremely urgent need to just shut up Aai and Sai when he knows the argument of the opposition is hollow.
He only needs to hand over one talwaar to the 'best friend' and one to his 'acche Dil Ke' Ghar wale. They are the ones baying for his blood and also Sai's. Waise bhi, Sai doesn't need any talwaar because she can simply say, "Aap mere Kuch Nahi Lagte" and kill him as it is 😏😛
Jokes apart, yes he called out his family's need to escalate drama and add fuel to the fire instead of being the samajhdaar bade of the house who can diffuse situations -- what a tragedy that there's not even one elder member in that house who can diffuse a situation. Ashwini tries but fails we know. And Mansi - she doesn't even want to come out of her room to say bye to her susheel bahu who's going to her missing son's base station without having anything to do with him? Aisi Kaunsi samadhi lekar baithi hai?
Coming back to the talwaar rant-- Why does he even think of it as both women having a problem with each other? It is more than evident now if there was any doubt even after he himself acknowledged during the Mohit meal incident that it is PP who taunts and Sai retorts and so she shouldn't begin if she can't handle the replies. Now, again, by equating their actions-reactions at the same level, he's diluted the whole point he was trying to make or seeming to make in taking a stand for Sai. He expressed his displeasure to remarks and objected at the right places throughout -- from his father to the Kakus and of course the ved lagleli vahini. But, ultimately, if Sai is "equally" culpable in his eyes as Venomous Vahini for picking fights because it's a given that she's 'immature, akhad and nasamajh', then I think this guy really deserves to be sandwiched 😖 More importantly, but, why does he have to feel sandwiched?! He hasn't even spared a thought for his own culpability. One is his wife and another is his cousin's wife-- there should be no scope for feeling sandwiched or getting affected by their animosity if he doesn't think that he's the cause of it. It is convenient for him to blame both the women for having a problem without even introspecting over the mess he has created between them. So, if he's clear in his mind that he has moved on then it is time for him to regard his 'missed opportunity at love' as his vahini and restrict it to that. Not every failed lover can be a 'friend'. And, if he still feels he hasn't reached the point where he can call her 'vahini', then he needs to release Sai of his spousal expectations and let her breathe without having to worry about his hangry-for-attention/affection outbursts. It will probably allow both women to think of themselves rather than keeping him at the center of their existence and actions.
And if he thinks he is not the cause of their friction and they have a problem with one another where he doesn't even exist, then he should just leave it at that and continue to believe he doesn't exist. What's the need to want to get them together on a trip to 'patch up'? That too, when he's giving his "meri samajhdaari par shakh mat kijiye" gyaan because 'main Jaanta hoon kaun Kaisa hai'. It's definitely not Sai's need to patch up with this venomous snake. Virat can keep all of her poison for his own consumption if he's confused even a bit about her intentions and motivations from here on. Does he really not know her intentions? Now, I find it hard to believe he doesn't.
It was his grand plan to keep Sai's presence on the trip a secret and it was entirely his motivation to take Sai along. Of course, she would have wanted to go but she knew the repercussions better than him -- it is because for majority of the taunts that she's had to bear, he has been absent and by the virtue of being involved in the affairs at home, she's more tuned to predicting the outcomes.
It is true even in real life when we see family conflicts and wonder why the men think so lightly of some really nasty things their families do -- even Virat. It is because whether we like it or not, the fact is that it is the woman who spends more time in the toxic environment of the house than the man and so, the brunt of it is borne by the woman directly, more than the man can imagine. One scene or two occuring in front of a man seems "trivial" and they find it easier to pass it off. Yet, Virat has freshly acquired knowledge about "yakeen Nahi ho Raha hai" moments of his house -- denying members meals as per the whim of the egoistic matriarch; people turning against the purest soul who stood up to injustice just to pull her down; the maid-servant like treatment to the wife -- he had not liked Sai calling it 'naukaron wale kaam' but that's exactly how she's treated here; absolute lack of empathy for her loss and grief despite being 'acche Dil Ke' according to him and even utmost contempt at her mere existence.
For a change, it was her father, who gave Patralekha the practical advice. I had been wondering whether the parents knew about this trip and they did... Obviously, they were okay with the imaginary son-in-law going with the daughter because they have raised her to get whatever she pleases and must have not questioned her to begin with on this matter. But today, after her 'dhokha' rant, the father did show her the mirror -- it was pleasantly surprising because Mohite-Patil senior has been pretty unabahsed in the past -- and he asked the right question: "What is wrong with his wife accompanying him? It is natural and shouldn't be a problem..." But of course, Rani bitiya did not want to hear "what I don't want to hear", which is the truth. Although, it is difficult to continue conversations at such times over the phone, this has been the inherent pattern for the Mohite-Patil parents here-- to stop the correction or showing the mirror midway the moment they find the daughter in a state of denial. The next step is to allow her to live in her delusions or take decisions the are self-destructive but blamed on someone else.
It's clear that Patralekha does suffer from some kind of delusional disorder experiences -- not just as a joke we crack but from the very fact that she actually believes in situations that are nonexistent in real life -- her biggest delusion is ther of 'being deceived in the love from a distance'. She does not actually plan the manipulation but it occurs so naturally to her because it comes from her delusionary misinterpretation of perceptions of experiences. She knows the 'trump cards' and 'triggers' that she can use and in that sense, she is aware.
"Main tumhe Samrat ke har kaam se aazad Karti hoon" was a trump used at the moment to manipulate the emotion -- to be able to cover up the show that she had just put up, which had nothing to do with Samrat to begin with. The statement left everyone surprised -- Virat and Sai surprised for real because they are the only ones who know how interested she really is in Samrat or his work to begin with, and the rest of the family surprised-sad, sympathising with the 'lonely wajoodless wife' 😐🙄 Waise, why didn't she really go with her Baba? 🤔 Ab jis Sawaal Ka jawab pata ho wo poochna hi Kyun? But does she really think she has the 'right' to free Virat from Samrat's work? How conveniently can she meet his eyes and lie, blatantly using the brother as a card to guilt trip her imaginary husband?
Her other tools for manipulation -- unplanned but spontaneously coming out from her awareness - "Mujhe Tumhari help ki zaroorat Nahi hai, ye kaam main akele bhi Kar Sakti hoon"... "Mujhe akele rehne ki aadat ho gayi hai"... were all used in the right place and did also make the sympathisers believe in the genuineness of her hurt. But four other people apart from her own self knew that in her moment of meltdown, she had completely exposed herself 'wife feeling cheated' and cut a sorry figure -- Virat, Sai, Ashwini and Bhavani. And Sai was the bigger person of the two -- she always was and will be.
We may think Bhavani is unaware but she isn't. Right from her 'babool ke ped par aam' comment to herforeboding statement about the 'mistake' Sai will eventually make due to her 'taur tareeka' was her way of consoling the angst of the delusional 'cheated wife'. There is no "vahini" here and although Bhavani's intentions have not been clearly stated behind choosing and pushing Patralekha to drive the wedge between Sai and Virat "tum hi ho jo Kar Sakti ho", she is definitely using Patralekha's absolute contempt for Sai to reclaim the chaheeta beta. I am still not sure if Bhavani means to push Patralekha into a relationship with Virat because it doesn't come across as a plan although she uses words to suggest so to boost Patralekha's ego as the 'wife' she clearly seems to be.
Sonali and Karishma are officially the two typically caricaturish vamps actually. The can only instigate where they are being heard. They know where they will be heard and where they won't so they pass comments to add insult to injury and derive pleasure in seeing the wounds lacerate. Such characters don't deserve sympathy and can't have redemption.
The very short scene in the bedroom where Sai displayed her hurt while taking off her bangles was touching-- she was hurt and upset. And it came across as being upset with her own decision to agree to join the trip. She shouldn't have because in the end, she was the one accused convicted of a crime she never even committed. Glad that Virat saw how it affects Sai and how silently she has been absorbing the pain that remains even after trying to defend her during the attack. He stood up for her during the entire fiasco, no doubt. He asked the right questions and he called out the disparity in the compassion being shown to one bahu in pain and being denied to the other. He owned her as his 'wife' and despite digressing to the talwaar suggestion, he knew she wasn't at fault all along -- I hope he's making mental notes of how her tiny dreams are shattered in the house on every day basis -- and this is a girl who lives her life finding happiness in those very tiny moments, her education is a joke for the family and she works as a maid and is even treated like one. It is such a poignant replay of what his mother must have gone through-- only if he can see what it would mean to Sai if he were to follow the footsteps of his father.
The consolation is that the husband wife didn't appear mad at each other yet. But it is going to bring back some distance and silence between them for a bit it seems. Virat looks really 'hangry' for her attention in the Precap with tears in his eyes. Let's see how the roller coaster is going to turn from here.
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When someone we love, leaves -- in death or desertion -- the memories should remind us that it is life offering a second chance. One needn't be bound to the past or how it felt living those moments that are gone. The future may not bring the same journey with the same people but one can unfailingly and unapologetically restart without justifying one's raw feelings during difficult times. One can and must distance from insecure people who want you to fail. Those who walk with you, won’t need you to explain the beauty of your heart. They already understand that you're also on a roller coaster ride that will go up slowly and suddenly drop in ways that will make you screech but in the end, it will halt and let you be.
Do people change? Or is it only the masks that change (Covid wale Nahi 😅)
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