Ladies, how would you react? - Page 3

Originally posted by: yyyy

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Virat is delusional if not a liar because he advises Sai that given a chance his family will come around. What happen to Ashwini then? She doesn't even get respected by her husband either forget the rest of the clan. In that mad-house, the treatment the throw at Ashwini and Sai either one could choose to become AShwini or Sai? Its a personal choice. Minding words and manners need to be displayed by elders in the family first.

Ashwini, Shivani get insulted left right and center. Sai gets the worst. Of course there are duties of DILs and they should be respectful, but FILs also should have manners in talking to women, especially his DIL. Ninad doesn't understand anything but insulting Sai, Shivani and Ashwini and doing Chaplusi of "MM" and "PP" and respect is a two way street.

We can have different opinions, but respect yours and thank you for adding another view point!

Originally posted by: AnjuRish

I know since I was in a situation like this in reality ..it was tough I was called stubborn , man in a woman's body and what not. They even took away all my edu and personal documents and money I had saved up when working. Finally I managed to record some evidence somehow emailed my bff and bro.

Long story short I managed to take charge and now I am remarried to a wonderful man and have a 3 year old.

But it took a big toll not only on me but my brother. He still has anxiety if u don't respond to calls. I also have some issues that I battle off and on.

Believe me if u have support walk out else build it and then walk out

Thank you for sharing yoru REAL-Story. This is why I think Sai is an amazing character on Indian television. I hope they don't turn her in to Gopi-Bahu.

Kudos to your inner strength, your brother's support and your husband now. 👏I wish you all the happiness and so glad to see that women can stand to bullies, walk out and live life happily own their own. Lots of love your way!!!❤️

Originally posted by: ..Peppermint..

I won't say anything yet about what Virat said because these segments can be misleading.

Coming to Sai, a lot of people mentioned about her tone and her language she uses, and rightly so. But, I mean I get her also. When I am very angry, my tone and language (not abusive btw😆) goes all over the place. Had I been in Sai's place, im pretty sure I would explode like her as well. When angry I also use lines like Sai used, "who are you to...." or "stay quiet". But these are for my family and closed friends, of course.

Had it been my in laws I would be mindful to a certain extent. Had my in laws been like Chavans i would definitely flip and leave no matter how much I loved the guy.

The problem is Sai has no one to fall back on - the remains of her family gift -wrapped her away as soon as they could plus there is attachment to Virat as well. When Shivani asked her the other day if she would be able to live without Virat, she didnt answer.

She would manage alright, she would survive, without him in a hostel. But despite all his flaws, he tries to find ways to keep her happy, to keep her warm. We all know how Precious KJ was for her, and KJ sacrificed his life for Virat, by default Virat is precious to her as well.

Exactly. Actually, Virat needs to un-complicate a lot of things for them to be arrive at a middle ground on this issue of 'pesh aana'

Originally posted by: methebest

Virat is delusional if not a liar because he advises Sai that given a chance his family will come around. What happen to Ashwini then? She doesn't even get respected by her husband either forget the rest of the clan. In that mad-house, the treatment the throw at Ashwini and Sai either one could choose to become AShwini or Sai? Its a personal choice. Minding words and manners need to be displayed by elders in the family first.

Ashwini, Shivani get insulted left right and center. Sai gets the worst. Of course there are duties of DILs and they should be respectful, but FILs also should have manners in talking to women, especially his DIL. Ninad doesn't understand anything but insulting Sai, Shivani and Ashwini and doing Chaplusi of "MM" and "PP" and respect is a two way street.

We can have different opinions, but respect yours and thank you for adding another view point!

Ashwini and Sai’s situations are different . Ashwini doesn’t have the support of her husband and gets insulted from her own husband. In laws home , if your husband disrespects you then others get free pass to say anything .

In Sai’s case , her husband supports her at every stage and he has found a mother in her MIL . Shivani lives her life on her terms . The Kaku and gang can only pass comments .

Originally posted by: AnjuRish

I know since I was in a situation like this in reality ..it was tough I was called stubborn , man in a woman's body and what not. They even took away all my edu and personal documents and money I had saved up when working. Finally I managed to record some evidence somehow emailed my bff and bro.

Long story short I managed to take charge and now I am remarried to a wonderful man and have a 3 year old.

But it took a big toll not only on me but my brother. He still has anxiety if u don't respond to calls. I also have some issues that I battle off and on.

Believe me if u have support walk out else build it and then walk out

More power to you dear 🤗❤️

stay blessed

It would have been such a headache, coming home from work to these unnecessary drama on a daily basis.

Kaam ka bhi stress lo aur ghar ka bhi xP

@ postmaker i agree with most of what you said ..... but let me tell you how i see it ...

This shaadi is a deal do not expect anything from me .... Virat chavan ke famous words

What he forgot to say was you should not expect anything but I will expect everything from you including your self respect .... even my family will they might never accept you but you have to win them over ...... when did he decide to change the equation ? Or was it the intention from the start 😬🙄

i will speak to you in the same language you do .... virat sir ko amnesia hain sai already said it “ jo jaisa mujhse bolega mein waise hi boloongi unke saath “..... he cannot change his family but she needs to so she can become what ? he cannot give her anything but she should give her everything ..... she is not the bahu but she has to do everything a bahu does under duress guilt tripping her or even for blackmail at times

He is very quick to judge her and question her intention like he is loaded already just needs Pp ki viraat or kk ki mast mast .... why is name calling ok ? Why does not it seem wrong ? What they do to her is wrong on so many counts but Thats permissible why ? He cannot say stop calling her names but its ok to say sai shut up and apologise Really for what ?? Respecting elders is different but bow ur head down to repetitive on loop verbal diarrhea is nerve wracking 😬😬..... gets to anyone if she reached her breaking point blame goes both ways

why the hell should she be the only one indebted to him ? Infact he owes his life to her dad and her in return ....he should stop and think before giving bhashan💆🏼‍♀️

May be this guy lost his mind while becoming an ACP .... abuse in the name of naam khoon khandaan false pride n prestige 😶..... domestic abuse case might bring him a new perspective on like man up n differentiate between right from wrong taunting is ok torture is not , non stop verbal abuse is harassment etc

Taking a stand and taking a non conventional tone is not wrong but being a hypocrite is .... Virat is an hypocrite preach what u follow and follow what u preach works both ways

Anyway there is nothing in this show that is unique when it comes to female abuse i guess him not even being aware of how his mom was / is treated in the household is selective deaf dumb and blind but PP ji ki izzat and maan rakhni hain unki insult nahin honi hain ..... he can see this but not that ... ab kya bolen isko

Who ever came up with such a thought of an ACP being a part of domestic abuse circle but even a proponent of it seemingly aware or unaware of it is an evil genius ..... i guess ITV will never grow up from this nonsense ever ....

Actually saw an real life crime where a cop says he is love with a rape victim wants to marry her then his family gets involved dahej scheme etcetc the demands never end and when questioned he says what can i say even my family has dreams hopes and aspirations about me they did not want me to marry her but i kind of loved her so dahej etc is mandatory .....

Virat chavan the way he is written does not fall far behind the above true life character i guess ..... pls change the character write up if possible from the way its being tuned .... change over night is not what is needed but a different perspective bcos lots of young girls watch the show

what ever stand or tone they take per their situation they need to learn to stand for themselves with or without a man in life .... sai per me is doing the right thing ..... adapting to what needs to be done in getting her point actoss .

phew that was a very long rant .... dont think will watch this show or any other show ever ..... watched just the precap after skipping for few days and it set me off pretty bad 🤯🤯

I would like to add a few more questions .

Any of our relative or friends were in a similar situation and she was submissive to her in laws and after years and years of respecting them , did things change for them? In short do people like chavans change ? I believe it's only in the tv dramas that they may change in the end ,in real life it seldom happens.

Originally posted by: Reeltoreal

@ postmaker i agree with most of what you said ..... but let me tell you how i see it ...

This shaadi is a deal do not expect anything from me .... Virat chavan ke famous words

What he forgot to say was you should not expect anything but I will expect everything from you including your self respect .... even my family will they might never accept you but you have to win them over ...... when did he decide to change the equation ? Or was it the intention from the start 😬🙄

i will speak to you in the same language you do .... virat sir ko amnesia hain sai already said it “ jo jaisa mujhse bolega mein waise hi boloongi unke saath “..... he cannot change his family but she needs to so she can become what ? he cannot give her anything but she should give her everything ..... she is not the bahu but she has to do everything a bahu does under duress guilt tripping her or even for blackmail at times

He is very quick to judge her and question her intention like he is loaded already just needs Pp ki viraat or kk ki mast mast .... why is name calling ok ? Why does not it seem wrong ? What they do to her is wrong on so many counts but Thats permissible why ? He cannot say stop calling her names but its ok to say sai shut up and apologise Really for what ?? Respecting elders is different but bow ur head down to repetitive on loop verbal diarrhea is nerve wracking 😬😬..... gets to anyone if she reached her breaking point blame goes both ways

why the hell should she be the only one indebted to him ? Infact he owes his life to her dad and her in return ....he should stop and think before giving bhashan💆🏼‍♀️

May be this guy lost his mind while becoming an ACP .... abuse in the name of naam khoon khandaan false pride n prestige 😶..... domestic abuse case might bring him a new perspective on like man up n differentiate between right from wrong taunting is ok torture is not , non stop verbal abuse is harassment etc

Taking a stand and taking a non conventional tone is not wrong but being a hypocrite is .... Virat is an hypocrite preach what u follow and follow what u preach works both ways

Anyway there is nothing in this show that is unique when it comes to female abuse i guess him not even being aware of how his mom was / is treated in the household is selective deaf dumb and blind but PP ji ki izzat and maan rakhni hain unki insult nahin honi hain ..... he can see this but not that ... ab kya bolen isko

Who ever came up with such a thought of an ACP being a part of domestic abuse circle but even a proponent of it seemingly aware or unaware of it is an evil genius ..... i guess ITV will never grow up from this nonsense ever ....

Actually saw an real life crime where a cop says he is love with a rape victim wants to marry her then his family gets involved dahej scheme etcetc the demands never end and when questioned he says what can i say even my family has dreams hopes and aspirations about me they did not want me to marry her but i kind of loved her so dahej etc is mandatory .....

Virat chavan the way he is written does not fall far behind the above true life character i guess ..... pls change the character write up if possible from the way its being tuned .... change over night is not what is needed but a different perspective bcos lots of young girls watch the show

what ever stand or tone they take per their situation they need to learn to stand for themselves with or without a man in life .... sai per me is doing the right thing ..... adapting to what needs to be done in getting her point actoss .

phew that was a very long rant .... dont think will watch this show or any other show ever ..... watched just the precap after skipping for few days and it set me off pretty bad 🤯🤯

Yupp........! EVery world is so reasonable! No nonsense of may be this will happen that will happen, but pure analysis of facts.👏 Even I am super 😡 watching the precap and drawing parallel with regional shows. Hope girls know that its not okay for their in-laws to call them names and its not respect to tolerate it under sanskar of respecting the elders. Why don't they show FL family treating the ML with the same?

Originally posted by: yyyy

Lakshmi , i guess we have different views this time 😀. Virat is doing his best to support her but you cannot change someone’s mentality in a day . It takes times and Sai has enough support from her husband and MIL to voice her opinion . Sai should learn to avoid confrontation with them .

I really expect Virat to understand the mindset of a girl who was thrown into this situation and fighting with all the odds to survive! Yes she is immature and still young but not at fault for raising her voice on a man( Ninad) who always shunned her and called her names. He may be his father but he already crossed the line with his nasty behaviour towards his daughter in law ,a teenager,a medical student and a girl who need to be taken care of by him as the father in law!

Yes we seem to differ in perspective or in the way we look at the charecters and happenings.

I get teary eyed when Sai suffers so much in the hands of such Vily family. Can’t help it.