*Discussion Of The Week #5 Cousin Marriages In Pakistani Dramas* - Page 7

Originally posted by: awida

Yes I enjoy watching rakhi scenes in Indian dramas. 😃 I like it when girls feel safe in the village coz they know guys will treat them as sisters. But my romantic heart still craves for village romance.😳

It is always good to know about different cultures. 😊 this helps in understanding and accepting the differences between ppl. Coming from a country which has one religion and one culture I couldn't understand how can ppl who live in countries with different cultures deal with the differences between them.🤓 Now I knew that with good understanding nothing is impossible.

Oh the rule applies only to certain villages, so the rest still have love marriages there don't worry 😆

@bold: awareness is extremely important. I have friends from all faiths, and being around each other, discussing festivities, even asking any doubts to each other helps in immense understanding. Also its interesting to read whenever I am free. 😊

Originally posted by: awida

In our society there are many women who live alone. Many men go to Arabian Gulf countries for work.. leaving their families and wives . So they learn how to depend on their own selves.

InshaAllah will make a new thread when the discussion here ends. 😳

These are all man made rules...what is the purpose of such a marriage where the husband and life are living in two different countries and dont even see each other?

Originally posted by: Unique.Sheep

These are all man made rules...what is the purpose of such a marriage where the husband and life are living in two different countries and dont even see each other?

These situations mostly occur when either the person can’t get a job in their home country and need to go to a foreign country to make a living. The other case is when person goes abroad to make sure his family can live a more comfortable life. A lot of these countries have laws regarding calling the family. It is tough on the kids especially, not having a father in the house most of the time.

Originally posted by: Unique.Sheep

These are all man made rules...what is the purpose of such a marriage where the husband and life are living in two different countries and dont even see each other?

I bet majority of them don't do it out of choice. Most people choose that route in order to get a good job or good money. They will slog alone in a foreign country and send money back home for family to have good life.

Originally posted by: awida

In our society there are many women who live alone. Many men go to Arabian Gulf countries for work.. leaving their families and wives . So they learn how to depend on their own selves.

InshaAllah will make a new thread when the discussion here ends. 😳

I think what she meant when she said 'womam being alone' is a unmarried, divorced or widowed woman.. Basically woh aurat jiske sir pe namesake bhi kisi mard ka haath na ho. *cringes and rolls eyes*

Not all cousin marriages lead to deformities or abnormalities. But if there is genetic problem in a one person of the family, with every subsequent generation of cousin marriages, the probability of amplifying and passing on the genetic irregularity keeps increasing.

Someone posted that Adoptions are not allowed in Islam.. Is that true????? 😳

Doesn't make sense. For a religion that preaches a man to keep multiple wives as a way to support a widowed woman, why would it not let adoption of orphan kids? Hmmm.. 🤔

Originally posted by: Unique.Sheep

These are all man made rules...what is the purpose of such a marriage where the husband and life are living in two different countries and dont even see each other?

Originally posted by: awida

In our society there are many women who live alone. Many men go to Arabian Gulf countries for work.. leaving their families and wives . So they learn how to depend on their own selves.

InshaAllah will make a new thread when the discussion here ends. 😳

Originally posted by: Gobi13

These situations mostly occur when either the person can’t get a job in their home country and need to go to a foreign country to make a living. The other case is when person goes abroad to make sure his family can live a more comfortable life. A lot of these countries have laws regarding calling the family. It is tough on the kids especially, not having a father in the house most of the time.

Not just the kids but it affects the couple the most. I feel they drift apart and get used to living without each other.

Originally posted by: stardust2011

I bet majority of them don't do it out of choice. Most people choose that route in order to get a good job or good money. They will slog alone in a foreign country and send money back home for family to have good life.

There are many men who would be earning enough to support their family but would still jump at the chance of getting visa to go abroad alone even if the new job pays less lol. My cousin had the opportunity to go abroad but refused because he didnt want to leave his family. I feel if youre going for a few months and then planning to call your family there when you get settled then that is fine but not if you are planning to stay there for years and keep your partner back in Pakistan just sending money to them and visitng them once a year or so that is wrong.

My friends sister in law had a love marriage, she sold all her jewelry to send her husband abroad so he could get a decent job there and support their kids. What did he do in return? He went to Africa and did a second marriage 3 months later and forgot all about his first wife and kids.