Originally posted by: Bhatakti_atma
I still feel that the shoe taking scene was a mistake on the part of the creative heads. They should have chosen something else to show this love/care aspect.
Those who are bashing Abdullah/Bilal are wrong. It's not his fault. Their intentions might not have been wrong but they did make a blunder out of the scene.
It was wrong of Mahjabeen too to do all this but that's what society has ingrained in her. I blame the society and the creative heads for the flawed aspects.
In humsafar, Asher thinks about how khirad would stay awake and give him a head massage when he had a headache not she opening his shoes right. Just bcz here they r two bawla characters doesn't make the scene right. I am sure we all would be infuriated if Asher remembered her for all this.
For the same reason I find the novel ZINDAGI gulzar hai very problematic bcz in that Kashaf does become that joote polish karne wali biwi. Of course it can be a choice but that relationship in the novel was toxic unlike the drama where Kashaf makes him fall in love with him deeper by doing little things like cooking the food he likes. But that's also problematic bcz these dramas never really show how men would do such gestures. They have divided gestures also into two kinds- men spending money and buying gifts while women doing the chores. I think it's high time we get past that.
As for feminism, each of us may have different views. But I never accept it's demonization. Feminism accepts within its fold women who engage in domestic labour. It never ridicules it. Infact it argues for its due recognition and appreciation. Without the emotional and domestic labour that our mothers engage in, the entire capitalist structure would begin crumbling.
Anupamaa
