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Originally posted by: meen123

my prob is something else entirely...tum Kitna b Kar lo appreciation nai milega...ladki ko sab Kuch Karna padta hai

Hum sab to maa ke pet se seekh ke aate hai..what's with boys staying away from cleaning and cooking?

My mom never got accepted in the family because of difference in cultures...she suffered a lot, still does.....it's painful to watch...

Sorry i went offline. I agree with u meen on this. I hate this gender inequality. Even in my community i have seen only girls doing everything. All houhold chores,everything. And boys get free pass to do nothing at all. And if u do everything then its ur "Duty/responsibility" as a girl..tumhe kerna hi padega types. Sab kerte hai so will u

And intercaste marriages to abhi tak easily nahi hoti in my community. So i can understand diff.culture hone per kitna oppose milta hoga and uska anger nikalta hai fir person per for yrs.. Sara kiya karaya mitti me..No appreaciation, nothing

Originally posted by: meen123

my prob is something else entirely...tum Kitna b Kar lo appreciation nai milega...ladki ko sab Kuch Karna padta hai

Hum sab to maa ke pet se seekh ke aate hai..what's with boys staying away from cleaning and cooking?

My mom never got accepted in the family because of difference in cultures...she suffered a lot, still does.....it's painful to watch...

I agreee.......appreciation nahi milta for house jobs its ur duty.....😆My mom too.......

So I was kind of a feminist in my childhood. i had decided then and there I will never cook and serve anyone.......ab kuch karna hain toh saath milke karenge.....warna nahi.....

But then it all depends on ur husband too. Nowadays I dnt think even guys, whatever I have seen of my friends' husbands, do not have that thing....ki I am husband so u shld cook and serve for me.....

Parents' generation mein yeh sab chalta thaa....🤔

If some guy tries to boss me around .....phir dekhte hain kya hoga uska.....😆

Originally posted by: Mimzy

I agreee.......appreciation nahi milta for house jobs its ur duty.....😆My mom too.......

So I was kind of a feminist in my childhood. i had decided then and there I will never cook and serve anyone.......ab kuch karna hain toh saath milke karenge.....warna nahi.....

But then it all depends on ur husband too. Nowadays I dnt think even guys, whatever I have seen of my friends' husbands, do not have that thing....ki I am husband so u shld cook and serve for me.....

Parents' generation mein yeh sab chalta thaa....🤔

If some guy tries to boss me around .....phir dekhte hain kya hoga uska.....😆

Mini👍🏼 agree it depends on the guy.. I have seen my many frnds doing everything, they r working, handling house, and kid too nd their husband being male is considered superior to kaam to wo chota mota karenge bas.. If kids misbehave then girl is responsible it is only hers responsibility.. i means WTH.. fathers ka kuch nahi hai bas ladki ke sar per sara blame daalo

And then there r others too, whose husbands r always there for them. They help their them in everything..so for me it also depends on their family background too.. If their parents have taught them sharing the loads with their wives then girls wldnt have any fear in getting married... Khud to parents ne apne sons ko sar per chada diya,kaam kerna sikhaya nahi to aage jaker biwi ki help kerne me to unki naak kat jati hai..

Originally posted by: piyasingh

Mini👍🏼 agree it depends on the guy.. I have seen my many frnds doing everything, they r working, handling house, and kid too nd their husband being male is considered superior to kaam to wo chota mota karenge bas.. If kids misbehave then girl is responsible it is only hers responsibility.. i means WTH.. fathers ka kuch nahi hai bas ladki ke sar per sara blame daalo

And then there r others too, whose husbands r always there for them. They help their them in everything..so for me it also depends on their family background too.. If their parents have taught them sharing the loads with their wives then girls wldnt have any fear in getting married... Khud to parents ne apne sons ko sar per chada diya,kaam kerna sikhaya nahi to aage jaker biwi ki help kerne me to unki naak kat jati hai..

Piya.....it can depend on family bg and hpw long they have been away from their parents.

Even with cool husbands, some girls consider it their responsibility to do the household work. And guys have been taught from childhood that its not their responsibility. But I think after school most of kids are away from home and after that they live away from home for their careers or PG. This period can actually change your whole thought process. We develop our own opinions abt things. So some of the guys even with whole raja beta bg can actually help out in managing household chores. And wives too will demand equal share of responsibility.....

Originally posted by: Mimzy

Piya.....it can depend on family bg and hpw long they have been away from their parents.

Even with cool husbands, some girls consider it their responsibility to do the household work. And guys have been taught from childhood that its not their responsibility. But I think after school most of kids are away from home and after that they live away from home for their careers or PG. This period can actually change your whole thought process. We develop our own opinions abt things. So some of the guys even with whole raja beta bg can actually help out in managing household chores. And wives too will demand equal share of responsibility.....

Yupp mini.. My schl frnd never wanted to work even though she was in "Top 5 highest scorers students list" in D.U. Imagine she was soo intelligent. She only wanted to get married and have kids. Coz that's the ultimate truth of any girl.. marriage and kids.. Even today she always advices me to leave my job after marriage coz i wont be able to handle my in laws,husband nd kids with my work.. Nd i m like *rolling eyes*.. We will see then And she is married with kids and now she is all the time only and only bsy with kids..Now sometimes she says we girls dont have any life after marriage.. Bas kids husband and kaam, kaam and kaam hi reh jata hai..

In my community, my cousins who r in 12th or college r now living separately, their thinking have been changed now. They dont feel any shame in doing household work.. But those who r married, have kids n live with their parents r still like raja beta types.. and i told jayu once, in my community, most of the guys still live with their parents. New generation is going in different cities/countries for studies but our gen is still with their parents.. So ladke ke sath parents ko b ache se dekhna padta hai coz we have to live with them also.. Nd some mothers cant see their sons doing/helping in household chores.🤔🤔

Originally posted by: Mimzy

I agreee.......appreciation nahi milta for house jobs its ur duty.....😆My mom too.......

So I was kind of a feminist in my childhood. i had decided then and there I will never cook and serve anyone.......ab kuch karna hain toh saath milke karenge.....warna nahi.....

But then it all depends on ur husband too. Nowadays I dnt think even guys, whatever I have seen of my friends' husbands, do not have that thing....ki I am husband so u shld cook and serve for me.....

Parents' generation mein yeh sab chalta thaa....🤔

If some guy tries to boss me around .....phir dekhte hain kya hoga uska.....😆

My cousins have been really sweet to my bhabhis ..I get so jealous sometimes....There is still a prominent section who won't cook or clean..or feel they should participate...

Prob is some guys actually don't know....they depend upon dhabhas or local restaurants....I actually begged one of my friend to learn at least Dal chawal.....Mai Pak jaun Roz bahar Ka kha k

Originally posted by: piyasingh

Yupp mini.. My schl frnd never wanted to work even though she was in "Top 5 highest scorers students list" in D.U. Imagine she was soo intelligent. She only wanted to get married and have kids. Coz that's the ultimate truth of any girl.. marriage and kids.. Even today she always advices me to leave my job after marriage coz i wont be able to handle my in laws,husband nd kids with my work.. Nd i m like *rolling eyes*.. We will see then And she is married with kids and now she is all the time only and only bsy with kids..Now sometimes she says we girls dont have any life after marriage.. Bas kids husband and kaam, kaam and kaam hi reh jata hai..

In my community, my cousins who r in 12th or college r now living separately, their thinking have bee changed now. But those who r married, have kids n live with their parents r still like raja beta types.. and i told jayu also once, in my community, most of the guys still live with their parents. New generation is going in different cities/countries for studies but our gen is still with their parents.. So ladke ke sath parents ko b ache se dekhna padta hai😕 coz we have to live with them also..

Depends I have met some girls...they really bond well with sasuma.....some can't tolerate😆

MERI to ulti demand hai...mere saath mere parents Saath aayenge....as In I want to keep them close....😆 Uske or mere parents sab as Pas....sarabhai Vs Sara hai types.....

Originally posted by: piyasingh

Yupp mini.. My schl frnd never wanted to work even though she was in "Top 5 highest scorers students list" in D.U. Imagine she was soo intelligent. She only wanted to get married and have kids. Coz that's the ultimate truth of any girl.. marriage and kids.. Even today she always advices me to leave my job after marriage coz i wont be able to handle my in laws,husband nd kids with my work.. Nd i m like *rolling eyes*.. We will see then And she is married with kids and now she is all the time only and only bsy with kids..Now sometimes she says we girls dont have any life after marriage.. Bas kids husband and kaam, kaam and kaam hi reh jata hai..

In my community, my cousins who r in 12th or college r now living separately, their thinking have bee changed now. But those who r married, have kids n live with their parents r still like raja beta types.. and i told jayu also once, in my community, most of the guys still live with their parents. New generation is going in different cities/countries for studies but our gen is still with their parents.. So ladke ke sath parents ko b ache se dekhna padta hai😕 coz we have to live with them also..

I dnt knw piyaaa......most of my gen ppl are not living with their parents. They all kind of live aprt for job and all. Even one of my frnds left job to take care of kids, but it was her choice nobody asked her to. She wanted to spent time with her kids. She has this plan to get back on to job after the kids go to school or become a lil big.

And the my friend who is living with her inlaws has the coolest MIL ever.😆 We spent more tym there than her own house....we all got freedom there than our own house.😆

It not my community, most of the ppl in my state are kind of like that, they live apart from parents. There are certain districts in which certain communities are very conservative. Otherwise the normal ppl like us the middle class and upper middle class and even lower class are normally chill. But, there are some uber rich families which are conservative. Old money ppl. I mean they dress up very modern and all but when it comes to family and job or freedom to go somewhere, there are always restrictions.

But then this mentality of old gen ppl that girls should take care of house hold chores will die with my parents gen I think, becoz honestly our generation has evolved and they would treat their kids equally.

Our generation still most of the girls feel its their responsibility. Patah nah mujhe kabhi aisa feel nahi hua...😆.....LOL.....my last TL pitied my future husband because I vehemantly opposed to be a nanny to my future husband.....😆

Originally posted by: meen123

that is a personal choice and it should be respected....job Karna b asaan nai hai.....one of my other friend also left her job to take care of her son....she was in infy....she didn't want to of course but her mother in law said she took care of her son, so she should do the same.....

Depends I have met some girls...they really bond well with sasuma.....some can't tolerate😆

MERI to ulti demand hai...mere saath mere parents Saath aayenge....as In I want to keep them close....😆 Uske or mere parents sab as Pas....sarabhai Vs Sara hai types.....

Meen its not abt their choice. Even after my marriage i wld also leave my job for sometime and spend time with my family.. I m not too ambitious so job kerna ya na kerna is completely my choice but The way she thinks na.. tu puch mat.. In her words "girls ka kaam hi hota hai ghar kids sambhalna, job kerke bahar jaker time pas kerna nahi... She used to say "bas ghar me ladki ko rehna chahiye wali" line. When i used to talk abt self independence or earning for myself. She used to feel her husband hai na kamane ke liye.. Her husband is damn rich. Its ok she wants to enjoy her life on her husbands money but dont criticise girls who r working. In her words jiske paas paise nahi hote wo job kerte hain. I used to feel like 🤔 nd there r so many things.. We frnds never liked her thinking. But now she understood the importance of everything. Nd she regrets not completing her studies. She wld have been a lecturer in DU earning in lakhs p.m. Now we r encouragong her to atleast try something else for her self.

How i wish meen i can also say this in future.. We are 2 sis, my sis is in colleg. i also want my parents to live with me.. Not too close but atleast thoda bahut paas to. So unhe jab kuch chahiye hoga i can run and come to them..😊

Originally posted by: meen123

saare ek Jaise nai hai I know, thank god😆

My cousins have been really sweet to my bhabhis ..I get so jealous sometimes....There is still a prominent section who won't cook or clean..or feel they should participate...

Prob is some guys actually don't know....they depend upon dhabhas or local restaurants....I actually begged one of my friend to learn at least Dal chawal.....Mai Pak jaun Roz bahar Ka kha k

Cuzns ki baat chodo.....as far I have seen of mine, they are not helping their wives. They all have such sweet wives. 😆Its my assumption, becoz their wives are all perfect bahu types, with good jobs, knws how to cook, look pretty , put together, knw how to socialiaze. Oh btw most of them did love marriage. I dnt knw.....looking at how men want their wives to be , I myt never get married.😆 I am a confused, awkward, messy, back answering person if triggered or keep quiet and ignoring person , doesn't knw how to cook or host or socilaize. 😆I spent most of my time in a corner with my thoughts at family gatherings avoiding the crowd.....😆

Arey in my state most of them knw how to cook, most of the grls dnt knw how. But after marriage the grls learn how to cook and feed their husbands and the husbands dnt even pick up a pin from the floor.😆