Originally posted by: Uma2010
They use her and she is fine being used knowing it. For example, yesterday, she had a whim to use the dining table for Sid bargain and she got all to agree on it, even Rashmi, to expose the hypocrisy of the other group. Do you think Sid or Aarti or Jariwala would allow fun like that? It had objective and entertainment value for us that plot. There is no real Alpha in that team. And thanks to WKV, that team has temporarily turned relationship coaches for Sana 😆 and Asim and Sana has developed a bond over time. Same with Sana and Vishal and now Sana and Madhu too is developing. That is what I mean. Sana knows how to manage Rashmi too. She doesn’t have to be on flight/fight mode with that group. She is comfortable talking nonsense with them.
In the other group, except for Aarti and Sid, she is constantly judged and she knows that. Paras is a heartless gamer (unlike Asim who shows some heart in non-Sid situations), Mahira is the real jealousy ka bhandaar, Jariwala is another Sidnaaz hater, and she has just Aarti and Sid. She can’t ever sit in the group there and breathe with ease. Sid breaks into English too with Jariwala or Aarti. Now Sid’s doing the same with Madhurima- using English with her 😐 I hope and pray Sana plays this well since she knows Madhu loves Vishal.
She is never saying she is playing independently. But she is doing self-preservation. Would you want her to have another breakdown with all the sweet taunts Paras or Mahira shoot at her? At the nomination too today Mahira brought in the word flip to trigger her. Sana can never survive there. She is not staying by the other group for the game. But to be able to speak and be acknowledged and to breathe freely. Survival for its own sake and not for the game.
I am sure she has had therapy for anxiety earlier too. She has spoken of not wanting to keep grudges and not wanting to take people too seriously. That is the 101 of therapy- keep yourself out of stressful situations and environments. The BB house is a hazard zone for people even minus mental health issues. So, Sana and Aarti are barely coping and Sid too is having it hard. Unless Sana’s group really hurt her like Paras and Mahira did or does, she will try to stay on with them for the sake of her mental health. I think she is trying to spend more time with Aarti of late. It might be good perhaps if she can do that. Aarti may not be fun like Vishal or Asim. Aarti laughs less- Sana needs noise and laughter and fooling around. That is why Sana gelled with Jay Bhanushali. Yet, if she can do this for Sid, it’ll be a huge sacrifice and I would be proud of her, as much as I don’t know how good it would be for her mental health in the larger picture of an entire month plus ahead.
Everybody needs a healthy ego, Ashwini. Do you want her to be a burden on Sid? We don’t need a doormat! As it is she is obsessed! Sid thought she would look psychotic if she acted like yesterday. That is zero self preservation. No human must ever not have an appreciation of the self unless they are yogis! Or else they will turn a lifeless burden on others. I am sure Sid fell in love with a full blooded charming charismatic bubbly and loud, laughing, socializing Sana and not the version of herself she is right now.
As for bezzatti karwana, as I wrote here earlier, she is hurt he doesn’t reciprocate in love. She doesn’t understand it’s part her own fault. So, but for his active presence in her life, she is lost and hence she fees she is useless for the game and not doing justice for the money earned and BB. She feels Sid understands that and since he doesn’t want to be with her, that means he doesn’t want her anywhere in his vicinity coz of you listen to his words at night before sleep yesterday in the garden area, they were pretty harsh. Yes, he almost had tears in his eyes, but his words were like no more you and me. So she feels, he doesn’t want her in the house either, especially since he still hasn’t clarified the WKV entertainment/ fun/ timepass position.
I am not justifying anybody, but just explaining things as I see it.
Uma no one is asking her to be a doormat and by giving in to your partner doesn’t make you doormat, when he has been hurt by you for reasons if you have to keep your likes or dislikes aside for a while, I lose nothing, Infact I will gain my partner back, his trust and his love. You will get plenty of opportunity later to make him realise where and how he hurt you or you can make him hear you out and even make him feel sorry for it! But right now what’s important? I m ok if she is playing game, no issues but she says she cannot stay without Sid. So I would say prove it!
I would like to ask couple of things here, if you think of what Vishal said, last time when Sid was upset post cat and mouse task, she tried to talk to him in the morning, but was normal during the task, didn’t feel any pain, she did what she wanted to do and made Asim captain? Didn’t she? And again after the task she went to him saying I cannot stay without you. Why didn’t you do it during the task, if you wanted only Sid and had no intention to hurt him??
Again yesterday, in the morning she was upset and even was seen discussing with Arti, and suddenly during the task you did what you wanted, irrespective of you were talking about Sid the whole time with wrong people, you should have supported Sid and showed your support irrespective of you not liking his friends, you don’t like Mahira fine, but why not Arti? You go to her everytime, even in the morning she was with you, previous evening she stood by you. She has been your support irrespective of your dislike, why did u not save Arti??
And I don’t buy that she convinced others for saving Sid, even Sana knows or even others even if he gets nominated or saved, especially by Rashami it won’t matter to him Infact he wouldn’t like Sana to ask Rashami to favour him in any matter
And immdtly after the task, again you go to him and want him to to be normal? Are you serious?
i m not saying that what Vishal said about Sana was right, but everytime people don’t read between lines, they understand it as it’s portrayed to you.
her outburst, love, support all to Sid never questioned, she loves him period! I have no doubts here, but when she is wrong, she is and she was completely wrong
Trust me even after all that Arti came to get in a jiffy as soon as she called her! Why didn’t she call Vishal, Asim or Rashami who you played games with during the day? She might have clearly told that only Sid matters here, then in that case your vote shouldn’t have been Vishal, Arti or anyone, she should have said I prefer not to save anyone, even then she could have convinced other 4 for it! Couldn’t she?
She cannot expect him to accept her sorry or her love when she feels like and I feel by saving Arti she could have proved Sid that even though I m hurt, I still don’t want to put you down and even there she wouldn’t have lost any respect.
And like I said if it was her game, then I still appreciate it, but she added a line to Vishal that if Sid comes and talks to me, I will do as he says, so I said in that case she had to chose what she wanted then!
As far as Mahira and Paras they are what they are and if Sana keeps the same attitude post Mahira’s exit was well then probably it shows different view points
Anupamaa
