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Originally posted by: tantal

The point of difference is that HS was NOT restless about Minnie's whereabouts. He just casually shrugged his shoulders and said she is old enough and will come back when she wants. It was only when Babita asked him what kind of father he was that he got indignant and decided to take the bull by the horns. I would have been okay with HS scolding Minnie if it was shown that he was sick with worry and he was taking out his pent up feelings on Minne. But here it was all about him showing his character as a dad to babita.. Minnie was secondary. Concern and care can be the underpinning of an outburst like HS's one but when it was shown that he was doing it to show who is the boss to Babita, it was unpalatable

That is the whole point of his scolding, to make a statement to them both, not to prove his worth as a dad or a husband.

His approach to parenting Minnie was to trust that she would be fine with her friends and that she needed her space. He knows how Babita can get to her and how she needed to stay away for a bit, which is why he wasn't worried. Not worrying doesn't mean not caring.

His scolding was about her behavior towards her mother and we all know why. But the way he scolded her was to say: you expected a father who parents in the way you want, here you go.

Ugh... I can't believe the writers are bringing about conflicts in such an ugly way. What happened to all the subtlety they were masters at? It's getting cringeworthy with the non-stop drama.

The very thing HS didn't want to see is being repeated in his haveli.

Originally posted by: najma123

To be honest, they don't have to bring the roof down that the daughter is gone. 😆 ITV shows it, but parents don't blow the roof when this happens. From personal experience. 😆 Babita is 🤢

Exactly.

Originally posted by: zehreeli.kheer

Parents do bring the house down when kids do not respond, especially teenage ones who have left the house in a jiffy after a fight irrespective of the gender.. that is quite nornal

Yes, it is.

HS was not talking about who's right or who's wrong in terms of the subject that caused the fight. His point was about repercussions. Irony of ironies.

Originally posted by: porankisrilata

He knows that Minni is with Mickey and preet Babita said it to him ...ane he said that she is upset and she will be back once she is OK... Was that not trust he gave on her....

But do you really think any father will tolerate that irresponsible behavior....

Yes he said that during the day. She got back home late, and that's not a couple of hours, it was the entire day out.

Originally posted by: shazam1

HS is the last one to do that. First Babita cheapened Minnie by comparing her to Meeta, then Minnie cheapened Babita by accusing her of not having any “control”. HS was actually the most sensitive- he didn’t cheapen anybody and a threat by a parent is never serious. Parents have been threatening kids since beginning of time sometimes for them not finishing their food, homework etc. I didn’t even find that to be such a big deal compared to what Babita and Minnie said to each other.

Most of the teenagers have heard the threat of being kicked out of the house when they answer back to their parents.

I've had the same experience. My dad is a very patient man but he has zero tolerance for bad behavior. Now that I'm older I'm so glad he was that way with me, otherwise I would have learned no manners. A lot of what HS said today reminded me of my dad.

Originally posted by: tantal

I definitely a GOOD father will not prod a sore point in his child's psyche to prove a point. He knows Ashok is a festering wound in her soul.. he has seen it multiple times how deeply affected she was by Ashok's behavior and role in her life. To so callously say that Ashok had thrown you out of his house and I was generous enough to offer you a roof over your head? Terrible. Will he ever dare to say that to Babita that your old husband abandoned you and I was kind enough to marry you?

we have been talking a lot about boundaries lately.. this was one boundary HS should not have crossed.

@bold he did not say that or mean that.

Originally posted by: najma123

Btw, I had fun discussing different view points about the show here. 🤗 It's got great writing (For someone who's forever stuck watching EK Shows - Yeah judge me 😆), my tolerance for shoddy writing is super high. And despite a lot of goof ups I think this show is great and this Forum is too! It's relatable. The show I mean, I can relate a lot of things to my own life. A lot of things aren't relatable though. However, it's fine. Thanks a lot! 😳

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Originally posted by: porankisrilata

I agree Hannie need to have talk...bjt again we wanted him to behave like a father and when he is doing it we only labelling him as step Dad.... Lol... Minni needs to understand that being a dad doesn't means that he will love her always but will also scold her and will say harsh words...

Baby did mistake of getting meets in here that too comparing Minni with her and this needs to be acknowledged... Hope the door it... HS should know it...

@bold totally agree with you. He behaved this way because he doesn't feel she's a step daughter.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

I completely understand that but I don't know if his approach was correct.

As for one on one conversations, I don't know if either of the women are in the correct head space for that. Kya baat karna chahiye ga aur yeh kya samjenge. Even between maa-beti, they won't understand each other as they're too caught up in their own heads right now.

Given the upcoming segments, I think it was effective to some point but I dunno for how long. Considering how they haven't addressed so many issues still, there's bound to be another fight between them all.

I don't know either if his approach is correct. I know why he did it, but I am on the fence about him doing it to prove a point to Babita, who will still not get the point anyway.

You remember the episode where Babita was angry with Minnie for eating Meeta's cooking or something and then Minnie went to HS to help pacify Babita? He had refused because he didn't want to get caught in the middle.

Right now I feel as if he's still caught in the middle and that's something he should either handle properly or stay away from completely. He cannot be the intermediary here. Babita and Minnie have to sort their own equation out before things worsen. Otherwise, it really does look like HS came between them.

Originally posted by: najma123

Who's we? Babita wanted, HS did it huh? Your wish my command. Mini is sad about HS not being a father I guess. And she'd take scoldings. But timing was horrible. Coz she knows he doesn't think of her as a daughter. And that wasn't the first step to being a Dad at all. And he is a step dad. It's not labelling. He is one. It's not offensive. For him to move from there, it would take time.

I have a feeling HS now wants to be free of this label and just be, just figure out his own dynamics with Minnie and not be a slave to titles or roles. If that's the way things are doing, good luck, because neither Babita nor Minnie will understand.