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About the Os series on wedded 1... my over imaginative brain is already on a roll😂😂 can’t wait for that one as well

Originally posted by: Fe-en-Dios

@bold- couldn't have said it better, Raji

This is so well depicted in the times that existed then and now.

Individual choice is what should take precedence over everything else.

Posing the same question to you, which I asked P and G, what is your opinion about the Arhi in the show, wrt the topic of discussion here

Khushi is aware of Arnav's past and she accepted him as is.

Even if Khushi had a past, I think Arnav would have accepted her as is.

Remember Khushi has decided to make someone else as her life partner before Arnav and when that relationship was broken, she felt hurt? She actually mentioned this to Arnav. Shyam's bad nature came out into open only after the engagement. Until then Khushi was OK (even though she was forced) with him.

Cheers......

Amazing as always N

Will be writing a full on comments soon

Originally posted by: Fe-en-Dios

Oh you make perfect sense and for once, we agree whole-heartedly.

Why should men be given a benefit of doubt? Yes, biologically women are different, but that doesnt mean that men have a license to try out different wines in different bottles.

But like P mentioned, I guess in some societies the stereotypical still exists. Women will always be the weaker sex, and men, the stronger one.

And wrt Withered, if instead of Arnav, Khushi had a colourful past, then readers may have had issues with it. Not that they dont have with Arnav, but men, mostly go scot free.

Btw, what do you think about Arnav and Khushi from the show? Imo, Khushi was far more accepting and open-minded than ASR. 'ducks'

What's being fed to society over centuries of years won't change overnight. I also come from the same society. I strongly believed in some of norms that were ingrained into me during my growing up years. I remember being hauled up in a room when there were any poojas or ceremonies at home, if I was on my periods. I was told I am "impure" during those days 🙄. And I believed my folks for a very long time thinking they know better. But as years passed and I started questioning the rationale behind this, I realized the shallowness of this practice. Maybe in olden days, the rule was introduced to give women some rest during her menstrual days. But over the years the rule was manipulated based on perception and convenience. Somehow people ended up shunning women during "those" days. There are many such examples. But the point I am trying to make is, "society" will always impose a bunch of rules, but it's upto us on which ones we decide to follow. Once I started challenging some of the beliefs (not saying everything that was taught to me was wrong), I realized a lot of it doesn't hold any ground. Virginity is just another example.

I cringe everytime someone refers to women as the "weaker sex". We may be not be physically strong as men (in general), but we are much stronger than them in other departments. We are different from men, not weak. Men have written the rules, and women have followed. Quite happily, at that. It's surprising how many "women" blame a rape victim because she was wearing short clothes when it happened. Sorry, I digress. But bottomline is, I think we should question some of the rules imposed in the name of culture and society instead of blindly following them.

Now coming to your question about Arnav & Khushi from the show - Initially Khushi was flabbergasted when she came to know about Arnav & Lavanya's live in situation. But eventually she accepted it. And it was long before she even realized her love for Arnav. So yes, Khushi was definitely open minded to accept Arnav & La's relation. She didn't approve of it, but she didn't judge either of them based on their relationship. And later Khushi accepted Arnav, flaws and everything. But that doesn't mean she wasn't hurt by it. During Shital track when Arnav lists his girlfriends names, she is crestfallen knowing he had so many "saheli"s. As for Arnav, I don't think he would have any issues if Khushi wasn't a virgin. In the whole Shyam fiasco, he blamed Khushi because he thought she was going behind the Raizada's back to have an affair with a married man. His feelings for her made the matter worse. His issue was with infidelity. Especially, because of his father's history. So when it came to virginity, I feel both were equally receptive of the other's past.

But in other departments, contrary to popular belief, I feel ASR changed himself a lot more than Khushi. That was evident in the Jashn series. Khushi may have changed her outward appearance and dressing style after marrying Arnav, but she was still the same old bubbly girl she always was. Whereas Arnav mellowed down quite a lot and started doing things he would have never done otherwise.

Damn! That was long.

This chapters only saving grace was Anjali and her father's relationship. At least for me! It was a really sweet supportive one. Ofcourse, until Vidur's image stepped in. She's trying to say No to something that's already part of her. Let's see how far she gets succesful!

Now, for the rest of the story. I pity Arnav. The guy is a lost cause. After this chapter, I have zero confidence in him. He's completely lost and only a burn that is too hard will teach him the truth. Everyone around him including himself is waiting to dig deeper. (The ditch he himself created in the first place) also, I'm not counting Khushi and Kapoor clan as people around him here.

Khushi, now she's like treading waters. Poor soul God knows where she'll fall.

Cheers

Originally posted by: Ecrivain

Oh N

I have always been vocal about the fact that I loved Arnav in Wedded and the story will always be close to my heart.

And it will remain so, even after decades and decades, when Wedded becomes an old is gold. 😆

But that doesnt mean I love other stories any less. Arnav here is winning my heart ❤️

I admire your honesty, EC.

Tbh, Wedded will always be my personal fave. I have tried to reason out many a times, but havent been able to zero down on one. However, Arnav there, is a top fave. 😊

Originally posted by: Ecrivain

We will do with the Prologue.

I know, but I am not satisfied if I leave it at that. 🥺

Originally posted by: Ecrivain

I do.. 'looks around'

But I want Wedded II also 'gulps' 😆

You are so much like my lil girl when she is given a choice between Pizza and Chicken fritters 😆A greedy lil pig 😳But an adorable one at that.

Originally posted by: Ecrivain

Alright 'rubs hands in glee'

I dont know about the West, but in the east, most societies are patriarchal in nature. For the simple reason that men are considered to be physically stronger and hence, are deduced as bread winners.

Women, are perceived as emotional saps, who need protection, nt just biologically, but also mentally.

You maybe surprised to know that Indian Penal Code, doesnt consider 'rape' to be associated with men. And herewith, lies your answer to why women are considered as weaker, or why they maybe virgins.

However, with time and financial independence, the status and respect of women has changed and so has the notion of virginity and sex.

As for the show, well, as much as I love Arnav, I will have to give it to Khushi that even with her insecurities she was able to love Arnav, far deeply than he loved her, given that he didnt give her a benefit of doubt in Shyam fiasco.

Also, Arnav wasnt shallow to not accept Khushi with her past, if there was one, but he wanted complete loyalty and love. At the end of the day, he was an Indian bred man, who believed in coming home to a woman who was his, mind body and soul. 😉

And the makers had very deliberately portrayed it with La vs Khushi scenario.

Enough said !!

Whoa !!

Now this is what I call a comment. 👏

And its not just the enlightenment that you have brought forth with your comment on the show and the characters, the point about rape being abominable only for women, says a lot.

Thank you, EC

This was a good one !!

Originally posted by: Ecrivain

Arre kahaan P Ji

Barring the high class, the middle class and low class in india is still regressive as it can be.

Girls are a burden and men are the name bearers. Look at the skewed sex ratio in the country and the rate of female foeticide 😒

Oh yes, apart from the population, the skewed sex ratio is often talked about too.