Originally posted by: EtherealRati
Prerna has all the rights to talk to anurag, to listen to him out,to share her feelings with him......its all okay because its a women right that who she wants to talk to or not talk to ......no kind of marriage can stop a women from doing that. She is right until and unless she go physical with him which she will never go. She know her limits and is well within them. I dont feel she was guilty for being with anurag in kitchen, she just asked bajaj that if that is what is making him feel troubled but bajaj reassured her that it's not the case and thus she choosed not to talk about it, else she would have put her point of view in front. I dont feel she feels guilty of meeting anurag...that's no where wrong. And making tea or roti for somebody you are sharing a house with doesnt make you disloyal to your husband, especially when she hasn't asked her husband to shift to basu wadi in my opinion.
Regarding the expectation thing............yes bajaj had his expectations high when he thought she would let him hold her like that for a photograph......because its normal. Nothing is normal in this marriage for bajaj to expect that from prerna....she has always resisted the touch and he clearly knows that. He should have been careful, instead he got angry with her because he coudnt understand her. Prerna wasn't wrong. Though there has not been a contract shown this season, but hasn't prerna clearly told that she doesn't wishes to have physical intimacy in this marriage. She felt uncomfortable, so she removed his hand from her waist and she was right. Uncomfortable hain toh hain........this isnt a marriage where she is dying in love with bajaj.........on the contrary, she loves someone else and to an extent that she has sacrificed herself for him. She will obviously take time to be comfortable around him.......she is also a human afterall. I liked how she was not sorry for removing his hand but still understood his perspective and explained herself to him. Though it wasnt needed but she still clarified that she wasnt really disgusted with the touch and was not trying to save herself, was not doubting his intentions either but she is not wrong if she is uncomfortable and she will take her time to be comfortable around him.
First thing I never said in my post Prerna can't talk to Anurag. So please read it once bfr saying all this.Why only Anurag she can talk to anyone she wish. It's right of every humanbeing irrespective of gender or marital status.
I think u should read my post again or you just didn't understand what I meant. It's good if she can talk to Anurag and put some sense into him or make him understand or even if she talks casually.here the issue is not abt talking with her ex. The issue is not being strong enough to let not anyone take advantage of you. Here Prerna doesn't mean it's only abt her shez even carrying someone's name, pride and their family reputation. Shez putting that at stake not by talking to her ex but by letting her ex influence her, taking advantage of her, literally giving into her emotions.
If she can handle herself, her emotions and keep her ex in line she can even befriend him. But what shez doing is getting carried away, allowing him to show his right on her, allowing him to talk dirty(doesn't mean sexual but like ur mine, u belong to me etc) aren't all these cheap talks atleast for a married women to hear from other man whether ex or stranger or any. Her ex is twisting words and taking advantage of her situation and shez allowing him instead of putting a full stop for his nonsense.
As a friend she can make tea, coffee, cook food all is ok. When he even respects her and treats her like a friend. He is constantly reminding their past, their love relationship, saying he wants to be her lover, asking her to come to him leaving her husband and she allows him to do all this nonsense talk and still serve him what is the impression shez making to the guy here. That it's ok for her to hear and bare all it and shez not feeling all those words and conversation as cheap which any married women would feel.
I could see that expression on her face of getting caught when Bajaj came into kitchen. May be u didn't feel it it's ur perspective. Acc to me at that moment and even after that in bedroom I could see and sense gulit in her body language this is my perspective.
If Anurag didn't acquire BM would Bajaj have acquired BB? If Bajaj wanted he could have thrown them out. This is the second time he let them go, first one bcz of marriage with Prerna and even now just for sake of Prerna.
Bajaj was and is still ok if Prerna loves Anurag. He never objected or felt bad abt prerna's love for Anurag. He never even stopped or asked to stop to talking to Anu. Bcz he knows what he had signed for. Just bcz someone is giving us freedom whether parents, family or husband its not ok to misuse it or break their trust. So Bajaj never had any physical expectations from her not even emotional expectations. He just wanted her to not think abt him as some lusty or pervert guy. He felt bad that she must have thought he touched her with wrong intentions. This is even mentioned in Swiss track where he clarified her that time he didn't have any soft corner or feelings for her. Still he clarified why bcz he didn't want to be treated or looked by Prerna as a pervert or lusty guy. That is what he felt when she moved his hand. Hope I cleared it. Other thing Prerna was touching him even bfr dance. She challenged or instigated him for that dance. She flirted with him may be unintentionally. He thought she started trusting him and doesn't feel uncomfortable if he treats her like rest eg like Tanvi. So as a casual gesture he placed his hand on her but he got hurt thinking she still doubts his intentions.
So Bajaj's concern or interest was never about physical intimacy. He felt offended that she is thinking him as some pervert. Which was cleared from Prerna side. Even after that still hez avoiding to coming near Prerna when she unknowingly is getting near to him physically.
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