Prerna had a choice, really? - Page 4

Originally posted by: lunagoodlove

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The marriage was sooo unnecessary really! There were 100 different ways B could have destroyed Anurag (for his yet to unfold revenge against Basus) and gotten Pre to care for his child, but they had to go with marriage. It all really came across as trapping Pre in a golden cage made of mangalsutra and sindoor. The whole marriage sequence left such a bad taste, that even though Pre Baj scenes are interesting, I cannot fully enjoy them. It's like somewhere my pity/anger for Pre to have gone through that marriage is overtaking any other positive impacts that Baj might have on her. I loved the small dialogue in Pre's breakdown (finally, after ages), where she says she wants to scream.

To be honest, the writers never really wrote with Pre in their mind. It was always either Anu or Sharma niwas or Basu Bari and now Bajaj. Rarely, do they show Pre's emotions. And it's frustrating to see her character being suffocated and stalled for the need of other's character development. It's true both Anu and Baj are here to stay in Pre's life. So can they focus on connecting the audience with Pre's feelings? I want to be able to support Pre without feeling she is a victim of Stockholm Syndrome.

I really disagree with Stockholm syndrome. I respect your opinion but I have worked with people like Stockholm syndrome and please they are far different symptoms then her.

I understand I cant force you but trust me its s big thing to say for her character please.

Originally posted by: euphoric

While thr r few things tht i will like to agree to disagree upon in ur post... But i loved ur words.

Women i wud say are the overall victims to the patriarchal system. Divorce is still a stigma and so no matter wht kind of situation a girl goes thru, parents always hv one advice, beta nibha lo. Prerna is trapped in this cage of expectations where her walls are more psychological. Many issues exists more in our thoughts than in reality. But we r so blinded by our circumstances that we are nt able to clear out tht haze. Prerna fell to such haze where her desperation and fears didnt allow her to explore options.

Ppl do manipulate situations and others to make them do their bidding. And i know these r characters. But the trp audience make them and their conduct a part of their lives. And they find the behavioural models in them, which is scary. And thts whr media needs to keep a watch. So whatever we may want to call this marriage, my issues with makers is domt normalize this. Coz it is not normal. Call a spade a spade. Even if it was essential to the plot, don't justify it.

Coming bck to topic, Prerna as per her character is no more than 21-22 considering she was in college when the show began. And since i teach at college levels, i come across many such house bound middle class girls who do get trapped in their own ideosynchronies. They r naive and still full of flowery pictures, thus easy targets to such ideas of love and sacrifice for love. I have seen them walking in deep pits and then not knowing wht to do... It takes yrs for them till they realize if at all they do tht they need professional help. U cant really blame them as they watch the world with coloured glasses and keep faith in goodness.

I got your point but dont you think by writing a character like her they are demonstrating women soo weak. I mean I have worked with women with soo many issues yet they come victorious be it from.. family issues, emotional abuse..physical abuse and list ho on. They litreally fight for their dignity and self respect by calling her character naive I just find it an excuse tbh.

Ok she might done a deal in heat of moment but you don't always make a rash decisions all the time. I mean she has done a mistake now she need to try to find a way to solve the issue then playing dumb...naive and confuse who dont say much and she is a mom but she dont act like it. I work with children too and I am not a mom but yet I know how it feel like to look after them and how emotional you get..but with her nothing. She is educated too.

And comeon 21 or 22 is not naive. If she knows how to become mom physically she should know lot of stuff too.

I dont want to be harsh but being a women..het character I find is soo badly written I find it hard to justify for her action at time. May be because I have always worked with empowering women so may be I have not come across person like her but it is upsetting to see character like her.

Originally posted by: najma123

I agreed with the TM on whatever she said. Whatever you say makes perfect sense too, but I guess that trust was lacking between them, that they could deal with it together. I don't believe Prerna with her moral uprightness could have walked out of the deal once Anurag had been released. So marriage was the done deal here. Why she did not tell Nivi, Anurag, Mohini about the matter is beyond me. The fake her death thing cracked me up. 😆

And it's pretty much self invited, even if it was induced by others coz that's in her nature. No, she won't walk out even if given an option coz she loves Kuki now. So either ways, Prerna is screwed. 😆

Exactly once said a yes, she wudnt hv backed out. And now she will be in a trap of her own emotions. Problem is the glorification of sacrifice. Its nt tht thrs no trust, its undermining the potential of ur partner to face the truth.

And the society expects this moral uprightness from woman more than that of a man. Prerna was done for the moment that proposal came forth.

Originally posted by: Dinahjane

Bajaj’s move was wrong, but his intentions weren’t. Kuki isn’t the only reason why he married Prerna. There’s more to it. His past with Basus is still not disclosed. That will answer all the questions we have. It’s something related to Moloy or/and Mohini for sure. Maybe Bajaj’s mother’s death or downfall or something like that is associated with them. That’s why he’s turned into who he is.

As a father if he was selfish, i wonder how he'll face his daughter once she grows up n face the truth.

And if prerna was targetted for moloy or anyone else's deeds, even worse.

Fab post 👏

I hate the way this whole Marriage is being Normalized ....hate it .

A life has been ruined here , dreams shattered and a potential forever loss of Prerna Sharma's innocence ....

Originally posted by: Salutethearmy

If the focus is only on Prerna by default other characters also come in.

Obligations, responsibility and lack of communication go side by side in case of Prerna Sharks

When you r type of person who will jump from the pan into the fire, burns are inevitable.

If choices are to be placed, why did she take the responsibility of getting married to Naveen Babu, yes Anurag became close to her bcoz of Mr. Pervert Uncle but really Sharma Niwas is only her headache. What would have happened in dire cases, sell the house and property !!

When Anurag became her soulmate through the daga marriage and he got hitched to komo, Pre exercised her choices well.

Again its senseless to conclude that Bajaj was on the verge of destroying Basu Publications bcos Prerna had the magic wand to treat Kuki. The past has not been revealed.

Yes when it came to Bajaj, Pre once again took it on herself. This is why its a catch 22 situation, when her loved ones are at stake financially, she tries to rescue them on her own. When it comes to claiming her rights, Prerna can put up a fight.

Who sent her to Bajaj, Mohini Basu ? Pre had a choice to pass the responsibility to Nivi. A business woman like her is more capable of striking a deal with Prerna. No she doesn't do it, goes to the lions den herself.

When she reached Bajaj's den, yes she really did not have a choice. Being Prerna Sharma it was not her persona to say no and the lady is pretty naive in front of a business shark like Bajaj

Conditions put forward were only in RBs favour if she refused, Bajaj was on the verge of taking over everything that belonged to the Basus. They would have come to the road which was not her intention.

If we consider past, present and future situations. Some could have been avoided with a straight no. Others Circumstances were not in Prernas favour

Cant agree more.

Originally posted by: Bhagya65

I got your point but dont you think by writing a character like her they are demonstrating women soo weak. I mean I have worked with women with soo many issues yet they come victorious be it from.. family issues, emotional abuse..physical abuse and list ho on. They litreally fight for their dignity and self respect by calling her character naive I just find it an excuse tbh.

Ok she might done a deal in heat of moment but you don't always make a rash decisions all the time. I mean she has done a mistake now she need to try to find a way to solve the issue then playing dumb...naive and confuse who dont say much and she is a mom but she dont act like it. I work with children too and I am not a mom but yet I know how it feel like to look after them and how emotional you get..but with her nothing. She is educated too.

And comeon 21 or 22 is not naive. If she knows how to become mom physically she should know lot of stuff too.

I dont want to be harsh but being a women..het character I find is soo badly written I find it hard to justify for her action at time. May be because I have always worked with empowering women so may be I have not come across person like her but it is upsetting to see character like her.

I agree to tht. I said earlier i do hv an issue with how she is portrayed n wht she is doing now. But at one point she is wronged. She is nt realizing tht she is creating more damage now, thts different.

N everyone is nt the same. I see these college girls everyday. While some r extra smart, some r dumb, some r naive n some like to see the world thru tinted glasses. Its sad i hv seen thm walking straight into trouble n even if u warn thm, thy dont listen. U feel sorry for them but u know thy just went by their heart and ended up paying dearly.

Originally posted by: RollingStones

Fab post 👏

I hate the way this whole Marriage is being Normalized ....hate it .

A life has been ruined here , dreams shattered and a potential forever loss of Prerna Sharma's innocence ....

RS, nt one but 3 lives r ruined. The unborn has already been snatched his right of being with his father.

And prerna is condemned to a life of guilt.

Yes or no is a choice!

She had all the reasons to say No but she was pressurised into saying yes. Pressurised by basus putting all there hopes in prerna than finding way out, her love giving up even before the battle started and yes her relation which only saw the bad days.

She was so burdened with every hopes pinned upon her that pushed her into depth of guilt to even look for an other way out. Her saying yes was purely her survival mechanism . She always gave herself for her loved ones either for family or anurag. She has some demented notion of love in her mind where self destruction is immense love

Originally posted by: euphoric

Exactly once said a yes, she wudnt hv backed out. And now she will be in a trap of her own emotions. Problem is the glorification of sacrifice. Its nt tht thrs no trust, its undermining the potential of ur partner to face the truth.

And the society expects this moral uprightness from woman more than that of a man. Prerna was done for the moment that proposal came forth.

And no, society expects this moral uprightness from both men and women, just differently. A slapping P was slammed by everyone, coz it's not morally upright for a man to do that.

If Bajaj were to start doubting Prerna when he sees her with Anurag, some may call that not morally upright. No one expects him to do that.

Love and physical intimacy need not be combined, but do they show men trying to seduce women when not in love with them withOUT being bad or evil (and that's not wrong, really), here? No, neither do women do it. Firstly, ITV is too conservative for such bold shit. But, it's perceived to be NOT morally right. And that's why we have this couch and bed crap show after show, year after year. It's 2019 and we still get to see this.

Two people can sleep on the same bed and not have sex. 😆

My post isn't to rile anyone up, but just that her situation however saddening is coz of herself and the people around her but thankfully the makers haven't given too much emphasis on the Mahanta of her sacrifice and glorified her like she's mother India or something, but have given more importance to her crushed and battered feelings because of the sacrifice.