I don't think HS will be grey or negative , I understand your POV but Babita had not given him that right yet or confessed yet for her to take control over his life like this ..as he said kiraydaarni k Haq se how can she ask him to stop.. Hanuman has acted like this before too..when he was scared to go to haveli because of her.. I get that Babita's intention were right but the way she was trying to do it was unlike her ..she was forcing him to stop it .. may be triggered by Naem bi suggestion that if it was Imarti she wud have broken bottle..so she was trying to imitate her in that regard and then finally she triggered his deep hidden feelings for his late wife with the name and also specifying intention.. ki Meri jagah agar Imarti Ji hoti toh
Yeah Babita was actually provoked by Naembeeđ... She was wondering how to stop this habit, and when the elderly woman mentioned that Imarti would have made him stop, she kinda took it on herself!
The problem here is both are in a maybe but yet not definitely stage. And they need to come out of it before they can start expecting the other to acknowledge their rights on each other like this. A confession might help , like Minnie is been saying. But I doubt that happening anytime soon.