Sharing Responsibility..... Isn't it a team effort?? - Page 3

Originally posted by: Lady_Macbeth

Personal haven for Sona in Dixit mansion ?? 😆 no chance at all. If she asks for her own private space , thousand and one criticism and issues will arrive and thousand and one taunts thrown at her face.Dixit house is not exactly a welcoming understanding and accomodating place for this most unfortunate newly married girl , I think this much has been established already.

So her option is pretty much limited to their bed room , which , from Dev's attitude , it's clear is only his bedroom with Sona being his bed shared with little space .

Coming to Sona being too pushy and rushing Dev into getting habituated too fast, well, for a guy who makes lots of tall claims about growing up faster than other kids of his age , shouldering lots of responsibilities from a very young age , she was not wrong to believe that he'd learn quickly , after all , all she's asking him is to find his own clothes from his own closet . 🥱 Children who grow up in great adversities among poverty and lost one half of parents at a very young age are usually extremely self-sufficient when it comes to self care. Here we're supposed to believe this guy built up a business empire from scratch ?? 😲 The way he was clueless and helpless to find his clothes yesterday , it made it hard to believe he could built a sand castle ! 😆

Originally posted by: fanktlk

Oh the Dev that we saw this week, I wonder how he survived all the adversities.

Successful Businessmen/ Professionals are intuitive, they have to think on their feet, have instincts, decisive , independent, they don't get influenced very easily, logical, have foresight and take steps to mitigate risks.

Does Dev have any single quality? Going by the character before us, I don't know if he would have been successful at a job, forget about running his own business.

Originally posted by: pkbdas61

Then was then and now is now! If we are watching the same show, Sona has learnt so much, including rituals that she never kept before... she now cooks, works, keeps relationship commitments, mingles with her sisters-in-law, in spite of taunts, keeps her cool, never bitches about anyone at home, takes GKB's taunts lightly, including the 'bangalan' topped savors, puts up with Ishwari's tantrums, Dev's tantrums. Yes, she has her share of drawbacks too because she is human...

Finally, I am a man supporting womanhood in general... Sona in particular...

Originally posted by: fanktlk

I am a woman supporting a woman. I limited the discussion to responsibility only as if I looked at the bigger picture I only wanted to smash Dev's head... and still do.

I still think this idea was good... but you cannot go my way or the highway, it is a process that will need time. The first step should be to keep Ishwari out of her room. The getting Dev to share her load would be a more logical approach.

Expecting people to change and to change overnight is a sure shot recipe for disaster it is doomed.

The same thing happened when she accepted Ishwari's proposal.

Why she puts up with the nonsense of GKB's taunts is beyond me and I am waiting when she just asks GKB to shut up. one "BAS "is all that is required.

But expecting a mumma's boy to change and change overnight... it is going to backfire and nothing is achieved. Sona has good expectations but it is important to know who these expectations are from.

If she is still disappointed is it a surprise.

This was sona's mistake. she should help him in doing it first. if he has never learnt he will need help. He went running to ishwari not to sona.

Originally posted by: fanktlk

I am a woman supporting a woman. I limited the discussion to responsibility only as if I looked at the bigger picture I only wanted to smash Dev's head... and still do.

I still think this idea was good... but you cannot go my way or the highway, it is a process that will need time. The first step should be to keep Ishwari out of her room. The getting Dev to share her load would be a more logical approach.

Expecting people to change and to change overnight is a sure shot recipe for disaster it is doomed.

The same thing happened when she accepted Ishwari's proposal.

Why she puts up with the nonsense of GKB's taunts is beyond me and I am waiting when she just asks GKB to shut up. one "BAS "is all that is required.

But expecting a mumma's boy to change and change overnight... it is going to backfire and nothing is achieved. Sona has good expectations but it is important to know who these expectations are from.

If she is still disappointed is it a surprise.

I do not think that Sona is expecting Dev to change overnight.. it is now closing in on 190 episodes and it is surely a long time.. almost 60 episodes since they got back to gether.. and Dev still behaves like an 8 year old.

i think the perspectives from which we are seeing it may be different.. I for one am convinced that Sona is not doing any wrong.. it is only natural.. also she is not trying to even disrupt the Ishwari-Dev relationship, at least not till now. If she really does, then both Ishwari and Dev will have it in full measure..

And Acc. To me if u love someone,u really want to take all his responsibility happily.
Why is she is training him for??
What is the bold part suppose to mean?
Take responsibility to fold his clothes, iron them and keep them in the cupboard? She can shave his beard and tie his shoe laces too! That will be true love Wink




Nope...u took it in a completely wrong way..
I wanted to say, a person who never did his own work, u cant make him do everything overnight..it won't work! Coz my husband was just like Dev n I was shocked to see as I came from a completely different BG where man does e'yhing yo help her woman.
Trust me it took me few yrs to make my husband understand this n now he does e'thing coz I gave him time,helped him in between n asked for his help too wenever needed.
So,if u love someone,u take his responsibilities n if u want some changes ; u've to give that person some time otherwise same thing will happen which happened with Sonakshi i.e lies,frustration,clashes.
I hope I made myself clear here.

Originally posted by: fanktlk

While I will never ever forgive Dev for the Asha Maa Aunty issue, I have a slightly different opinion with all the clothes drama.

While independence is important and each person should try and do his/her chores themselves, a little outside help won't hurt.

If Dev is bad at housekeeping skills then Sona is bad in cooking. So much so that when Dev visited her home she couldn't even serve him anything when they were locked inside.

Forget that she couldn't whip up a meal for herself. Dev came and made sandwiches... How making sandwiches is cooking is beyond me.. But Sona couldn't even do that.

One doesn't have to make a 7 course meal but basic survival skills should be present irrespective of gender.

We have seen Dev even cook for his mom as per Sona's chart. But he has never commented on her independence or dependence on her mother/ his mother / kichu bhaiyya.

Before marriage Sona never cooked, didn't she think of sharing her mother's load with a house full of 6 people.

During Neha's wedding Sona felt bad that she cannot cook, we had Dev say I will help you.

People will be ready to call Dev a chauvinist if Dev starts insisting that Sona should take care of cooking.

So now if Dev is not able to manage his clothes why can't Sona come up and say let me help you and slowly you will be able to do it yourself.

I was thinking the same thing and was looking if anyone else think the same... I mean, it's good sona wants dev to be independent but no harm in helping in the process to get there right? especially you how such a baby dev is... plus whatever the reason you should not let your husband wear different colour socks to his office. that is totally wrong. as for dev, it is totally double wrong he discuss this issue with his ma... grow up man..! how much lovely this devakshi are... that much they have issues to settle... and that too soon...