Diyaar-e-Dil AT # 9 [Agar mujhe Bulaate To Kya Main Nahi Aati?] - Page 76

Originally posted by: twerping

@OriginalBarbie

Excellently put!

Poor Farah really has got the wrong end of the stick here, I feel. It is true that Suhaib and Behroz's deaths meant that Wali had to give up his dreams and take on the responsibility of the family business but he had the love and support of his family, who always had his best interests at heart.

Farah on the other hand, was actually orphaned in a metaphorical sense when Behroz died since her mother (who is quite cold in her dealings with her daughter in general) distanced her from those who would have protected her and placed her amidst those who would deliberately mislead her.

Since Behroz's death, it has been Farah who has had to deal with her life completely alone. And Behroz had not made it any easy for her--forcing her into a marriage (however, well intentioned it might have been) or by never telling her about his life at the haveli (telling her everything before her marriage is hardly preparing her for the future).

One of the things I am loving the most about this stage of the story is the fact that suddenly Farah is realising that she doesn't have to deal with all her problems on her own or that she can trust these people who will never betray her. After all, Ruhi's inclusion of the clause related to the property in the divorce settlement was nothing short of betrayal in Farah's eyes! I mean, these long scenes of her pouring her heart out before Wali (setting aside the free-flowing waterworks!) is actually showing how she has now fought her inner battle and something has changed within her.

Farah has always instinctively disliked her mother's side of the family and she has felt the love for her in Agha Jaan's behaviour towards her. But she had been told that Agha Jaan and Wali's concerns for her were fake. So she was fighting against her own instincts-- a painful battle. And finally that inner struggle has ended and she has found peace.

All that remains now is for her to find love! 😳

Originally posted by: twerping

@OriginalBarbie

Excellently put!

Poor Farah really has got the wrong end of the stick here, I feel. It is true that Suhaib and Behroz's deaths meant thatWali had to give up his dreams and take on the responsibility of the family business but he had the love and support of his family, who always had his best interests at heart.

Farah on the other hand, was actually orphaned in a metaphorical sense when Behroz died since her mother (who is quite cold in herdealings with her daughter in general)distanced her from those who would have protected her and placed her amidst those who would deliberately mislead her.

Since Behroz's death, it has been Farah who has had to deal with her life completely alone. And Behroz had not made it any easy for her--forcing her into a marriage (however, well intentioned it might have been) or bynever telling her about his life at the haveli (telling her everything before her marriage is hardly preparing her for the future).

One of the things I am loving the most about this stage of the story is the fact that suddenly Farah is realising that she doesn't have to deal with all her problems on her own or that she can trust these people who will never betray her. After all, Ruhi's inclusion of the clause related to the property in the divorce settlement was nothing short of betrayal in Farah's eyes! I mean, these long scenes of her pouring her heart out before Wali (setting aside the free-flowing waterworks!) is actually showing how she has now fought her inner battle and something has changed within her.

Farah has always instinctively disliked her mother's side of the family and she hasfelt thelove for her in Agha Jaan's behaviour towards her. But she had been told that Agha Jaan and Wali's concerns for her were fake. So she was
fighting against her own instincts-- a painful battle. And finally that inner struggle has ended and she has found peace.

All that remains nowis for her to find love! 😳

Originally posted by: Neurotic

@OriginalBarbie

Yep Farra definitely crossed the line when she took the ring! That was just so so wrong! She should have not! I think she thought this will make her mother happy after overhearing the conversation between her mom and mama! But still wrong! She was rude to Wali but I think she was initially civilized before the marriage but then came the manipulation! But then she was young and who would you trust people who you have known all your life or you just met! For Ruhi it was not just the haveli incident! There was also 18 years in-between where AgaJaan never ever tried to reach out to them. Be the birth of their daughter or anything! As parents is it not your duty to reach out! The difference is that Aga Jaan realized her mistakes after he lost two sons where as Ruhi decided not to learn anything from these events! And was just in the me me me world and ignoring her child completely.!

Originally posted by: twerping

@Neurotic

EXACTLY!!!!!

Ruhi's insecurities and ill will are quite expected. I really wanted to thump Behroz on his head when he was shouting at Ruhi and expecting her to go along with his wishes unquestioningly when he had not shared his conflicted feelings for his family even once with her during their married life after their humiliation at the hands of Agha Jaan. I mean, for any mother, it is not easy to give away her daughter and here she was being forced into it against her wishes!

And of course there was Ruhi's bhaiya and bhabi to constantly mislead her and guide her further away from any possibility of resolving the misunderstandings with her in-laws. Ruhi does appear to be a person who has a constant need to please her brother and his wife. Perhaps this is a clue to the kind of childhood she might have spent. Her bhabi herself is quite a cold fish when it comes to emotions so Ruhi herself wouldn't have received much love and affection as a child. But instead of seeing this as a lack, she thinks of it as the norm. So when she faces the warmth of Agha Jaan and his family, she thinks they are pretending.