Kudos to you for coming out in the open and staying firm on your convictions...its never easy!!
I am sitting on the fence regarding this post. I agree with some points you have stated and am uneasy with some.
When this track started, I had misgivings, as its a very sensitive issue and needs to be dealt with care. The basic crux here should have been teenage, single mom, no support pregnancies..how to avoid such a horrendous situation, the repercussions, the ways to deal with it, emotionally, physically, societally, support, understanding, regrets..there are a zillion questions and no answers here...hell the issues related to this are so multiple and layered that it is literally like opening Pandora's box. So, yes, this should have been the main focus, which seems to have gone totally awry. Keeping my fingers crossed for now in the hopes that we do come round to discussing this in details and providing some kind of closure to this track...really looking forward to how they deal with this humongous issue. From there we seemed to have jumped tracks to pre marital sex and its acceptance and open discussion..it is sort of related yet not where we started from.
Somehow the impression that this track gives out is that pre marital sex is pretty common and its the in thing among teenagers. Is it..really?? In a country like India, where rigid morals are spoon fed since the time of a girl's birth...and which has less urban and more rural population, where girls even struggle for their basic human rights...is pre marital sex so regular and so widely practiced?? I doubt it !! Not only is this not giving a true picture, it is also misguiding, in a way sending out the message that its a norm, its common, its acceptable and that's how teenagers are behaving right now..its a cool thing to do, nothing wrong with it...this impression does not sit right with me. Sex should not be introduced just for shock value, but it should add some value to the story. Lets not forget that we are dealing with young impressionable minds here. Just wondering about the true statistics here...
The whole principal Nandini, conversation and deal seems unreal. Don't see any principal of a prestigious college having such a conversation and agreeing to such a ballot being taken in a college. Also this is regards a students expulsion, not about how many students indulge in premarital sex and are doing it. Frankly what has that got to do with Navya's expulsion. Just cause a majority are having pre marital sex, Navya cannot be expelled??? Err...logic?? Where is this headed??
Now, don't get me wrong. Its not wrong nor right...its a personal, individual choice. If two people are fine with it, aware of the consequences and responsibilities and practice safe sex..thats all that matters. It's not a morality, or societal or religious or country issue. Its an individual's right, its personal freedom and lets not be hypocritical about it. Sex, marital or otherwise, should not be taboo, and no we should not be shying away from it, or its intelligent discussion. On the contrary, countries like India, need sex education desperately, we need to overhaul our whole system of dealing with physical intimacies and remove the shame or embarrassment attached to such vital and natural topics.
sorry for the long post..once again, appreciate your stand..# the freedom to make a choice!!
Edited by eveline - 11 years ago
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