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Originally posted by: MoronsKiMallika

Every suffering is different.

Every person's reaction to it is different.

Not all human-beings are made of steel. Not all human beings are candyfloss.

And to tell someone to 'Get Over It' is

INSENSITIVE.

PLAIN INSENSITIVE.

I am actually shocked at this thread. Since when did pain and suffering become topics of debates and OPINIONS? Its such a de-humanized thing to do.

To lose a parent to death is one thing, you know they have no control over it. It was God's will. Or some may call it destiny. But to lose a parent because they CHOSE to leave you, and then to face public humiliation, daily reminders from a hurting father and to have no support at all- that has got to be the most damaging experience of your life. And Rudra's life was changed forever after that . He never got support from anybody , not even his father, to help him move on. Instead, his morale was further downgraded by daily reminders of how he resembles his mother. Paro ,on the other hand, received love and care in a supportive environment, infinitely better than Rudra's.

Having said that, I do have a major complaint. Sure, show Rudra crying, I don't mind. Infact, it's refreshing to see a male lead in sync with his emotional damage, someone who realizes he is broken inside. But what about Paro? Her whole life changed within a matter of a day, and it's been less than a month since (actually, about 2 weeks). Why don't they give equal weight to her suffering? I want to see her remembering her previous life, when her life was as perfect as it could have been. That's my issue. Why do they sideline the woman's pain?

Oh my ghosh Sunara! I was thinking the same thing since morning !
Do we have some kind of telepathy going on here

I also feel that Paro's childhood has been much more traumatic if not the same. And to make it worse her current losses are more fresh and need to be focussed on

Indian soaps and even movies tend to over do the mom-son relationship to the extent that it spills over to real life in smaller measures (speaking from personal experience 😉

They cut off PAro's scene in the terrace and transitioned to Rudra's crying...for the first time I forwarded a scene in RR today. I was like..."no, I want to see Paro's emotions before going on to this"

It is not that they should not show Rudra's pain, but they need to balance it with Paro's pain (not just of her childhood, but also current)

The CVs have a a very lopsided view and portrayal of the two tragedies here. Not good.

I completely agree with this viewpoint. I really don't think anyone that young really remembers much to begin with and I seriously don't think they start hating womankind in entirety. There are a lot of people that have gone through harsher things in life and turn out just fine so this portrayal of a man crying and shouting his lungs out at every given opportunity at a harmless, weak, lonely woman is just not appealing. Come on Rudra, be a MAN.

Different people, different situations Di. Paro's parents case was clear .. Paro knew what happened to her parents and wny. Plus, she had her mami, thakurainsa , Bindi , nandu , rukmani etc to make up for the loss (not completely , but something at least). They handled Paro well and taught her how to live <3

I didn't want to jump in and say something but then I thought about myself. My parents are separated too and I don't get along with my mother. I am quite reasonable person atleast I think I am, I know why she left, I know she had a very good reason, I know she still loves me but yet I will never forgive her and a part of me will always hate her for doing what she did eventhough I understand her reasons. See it is very complicated the love hate thing it is not logical, you can't reason yourself out of hating someone and you can't make the pain go away. Ok that said I am not Rudra I am quite a happy person. My brother unfortunately is not the same he was very close to my mother. He has never been the same ever since family started falling apart sure he is not as damaged as Rudra but he is not happy either mabye he never will be. He didn't react the same way I did, maybe because he is a guy and I am a girl. So it would be cruel to say why can't my brother suck it up and be like me. Maybe that is why I sympathize with Rudra so much because I see my brother in him. He is very quite like Rudra and lonely too and he can have a volatile temper. So that is my personal story in understanding Rudra. Dilsher reminds me of my dad, my father too in his emotional moments will bad mouth my mother and that has always broke my heart and I wonder too do I hate my mother because of that. My father is an amazing man I am his girl and will always support him but for my brother it was probably traumatic. That is why I connect with Dilsher and Rudra because I see glimpses of my own family in them.

There's fundamental differences between Paro and Rudra in regards to their parents.

Originally posted by: loveanime

I didn't want to jump in and say something but then I thought about myself. My parents are separated too and I don't get along with my mother. I am quite reasonable person atleast I think I am, I know why she left, I know she had a very good reason, I know she still loves me but yet I will never forgive her and a part of me will always hate her for doing what she did eventhough I understand her reasons. See it is very complicated the love hate thing it is not logical, you can't reason yourself out of hating someone and you can't make the pain go away. Ok that said I am not Rudra I am quite a happy person. My brother unfortunately is not the same he was very close to my mother. He has never been the same ever since family started falling apart sure he is not as damaged as Rudra but he is not happy either mabye he never will be. He didn't react the same way I did, maybe because he is a guy and I am a girl. So it would be cruel to say why can't my brother suck it up and be like me. Maybe that is why I sympathize with Rudra so much because I see my brother in him. He is very quite like Rudra and lonely too and he can have a volatile temper. So that is my personal story in understanding Rudra. Dilsher reminds me of my dad, my father too in his emotional moments will bad mouth my mother and that has always broke my heart and I wonder too do I hate my mother because of that. My father is an amazing man I am his girl and will always support him but for my brother it was probably traumatic. That is why I connect with Dilsher and Rudra because I see glimpses of my own family in them.

Now coming to Paro I really think Rang Rasiya is Rudra's story. This is more his journey, story is from his point of view. It is not that Paro is not important or her feelings don't matter it is just that the writers have made a conscious decision of making this all about Rudra. He is the dominating force that sucks everyone into his life like the cyclone, Paro fate lies in Rudra's emotional turmoil, this point has been made very clear early on in the story she really has no control over her life or death he will write her fate as it is. I know this sounds dark and disturbing for a woman to be so taken over by a man that her very breath will be at his mercy, but that is the premise of this relationship, this love story, and their journey. He is the maker and breaker of this relationship, it will survive because Rudra wills it or it will crumble along with Rudra. It will always be about Rudra, Paro is the calming force but it will be his ups and downs that dictate the story. That is just the way I see this story and since Rudra is such a fascinating character I personally don't mind it being all about him.

I understand but I don't like the term 'broken family' because that isn't right the correct term is single parent family and it offends me when someone calls my family 'broken' when it isn't I live in a single parent family :/
Sorry it's abit irrelevant to your post but I thought of expressing my view!
Also I know you weren't calling my family broken it's just that someone has said that in the past :(