Alia changed her ‘loud tone’ to put me at ease, says Ranbir Kapoor - Page 3

Oh, it looks like selective feminism is back today.

Alia “changing” for her partner is very concerning and has underlying misogyny. When you TRULY love someone, you don’t “change” them. You accept the person as they are.

If Ranbir can’t tolerate loud people, he should get therapy…. Not make his wife “change” herself to cater to his own trauma.

It’s okay to be a fan, but I think sometimes we take that too far. This is a serious red flag that should not be downplayed. It also sends the wrong message but given that we talking to the group that enjoys films like Animal, what else can we expect from such sections of the population.

At least he’s being honest

Originally posted by: Shaitan-Haiwan

Oh, it looks like selective feminism is back today.

Alia “changing” for her partner is very concerning and has underlying misogyny. When you TRULY love someone, you don’t “change” them. You accept the person as they are.

If Ranbir can’t tolerate loud people, he should get therapy…. Not make his wife “change” herself to cater to his own trauma.

It’s okay to be a fan, but I think sometimes we take that too far. This is a serious red flag that should not be downplayed. It also sends the wrong message but given that we talking to the group that enjoys films like Animal, what else can we expect from such sections of the population.

Ranbir did not ask her to change......she did it on her own.....there is a difference.....the problem is that since you don't like Bira....and you want to bash him....you are interpreting that statement....the way it suits you....not the way it was said.......

When 2 people get married....people change....out of care and love.....unless it is not forced...it is nice to be caring...

But u can carry on with interpreting things that were not even said and drawing a conclusion...

Like you said Ranbir fans call him a devta....when no body ever said.....its your habit....to imagine things that don't exist...

So much to unpack here.

I do believe that Rishi’s abusive ways has affected Ranbir in very negative ways. To what extent? We don’t know nor do we need to know. Ranbir is sharing all this as part of his image make over PR campaign, so there’s no sincerity in this interview or this segment. He got a lot of bashing last year or year and a half ago when Alia said that her husband tells her to not be so loud. This is also a much more savvy way of saying things compared to a south media interview where he said he likes Alia because she’s molded herself to his likings. He’s basically saying the same thing here but in a nicer way and by presenting himself as a victim of his childhood circumstances.

It is telling that he can’t think of anything he’s done to make things better for Alia. It’s within reason to assume a lot of his habits and personality traits bother or disturb Alia too. Yet he hasn’t made any efforts to change for her. It shows that their relationship is very one sided.

He needs to stop worrying about his public image and start therapy and focus on fixing his real self. The burden of making things OK for him cannot fall on Alia. She’s his wife not his therapist or life coach or caretaker. This situation as Ranbir described it in this interview is setting Alia up for a life time of stress and resentment. He needs to fix himself through therapy and professional help. It’s not Alia’s job to fix him.

Originally posted by: Purple5

At least he’s being honest

When he shows his love for Raha....carries her.....these same people say....that Ranbir is doing it for camera.......now he is not tooting his trumpet....they are saying he is a bad husband......Bira ko bash karenge he.....chahe kuchh bhi ho.....aise nahi toh waise...

Originally posted by: IAmLuvBolly

So much to unpack here.

I do believe that Rishi’s abusive ways has affected Ranbir in very negative ways. To what extent? We don’t know nor do we need to know. Ranbir is sharing all this as part of his image make over PR campaign, so there’s no sincerity in this interview or this segment. He got a lot of bashing last year or year and a half ago when Alia said that her husband tells her to not be so loud. This is also a much more savvy way of saying things compared to a south media interview where he said he likes Alia because she’s molded herself to his likings. He’s basically saying the same thing here but in a nicer way and by presenting himself as a victim of his childhood circumstances.

It is telling that he can’t think of anything he’s done to make things better for Alia. It’s within reason to assume a lot of his habits and personality traits bother or disturb Alia too. Yet he hasn’t made any efforts to change for her. It shows that their relationship is very one sided.

He needs to stop worrying about his public image and start therapy and focus on fixing his real self. The burden of making things OK for him cannot fall on Alia. She’s his wife not his therapist or life coach or caretaker. This situation as Ranbir described it in this interview is setting Alia up for a life time of stress and resentment. He needs to fix himself through therapy and professional help. It’s not Alia’s job to fix him.

Of course.......who will know it better than some of you....who dislike him....so much....

Originally posted by: blue-ice.1

Of course.......who will know it better than some of you....who dislike him....so much....

And who will whitewash him and make excuses for him better than some of you who adore him so much?

Originally posted by: Purple5

At least he’s being honest

Originally posted by: IAmLuvBolly

And who will whitewash him and make excuses for him better than some of you who adore him so much?

Feminism is non-existent in RK fans world, but everywhere else it’s the first they will bring up.

Everything is Rishi Kapor’s fault, Neetu’s fault, childhoods fault, Deepika’s fault, Katrina’s fault, Alia’s fault etc….. he doesn’t have a brain of his own?

Loud voice can be an issue (saw rrkpk clip posted few hours back and Alia shut-up was last scene and it is still ringing in my ears.

So if Alia has tried to lower it overall in real life then kudos to her. To change lifetime habit takes conscious efforts.

Ranbir said her reaction to say Raha falling affects him. Understand it bothers him but here feel he should understand where Alia is coming from. On this point am siding with Alia as her reaction will be coming from fear for her daughter may get hurt and it is very much natural reaction. If she has tried to control even that then truly hats off to Alia as it is not easy in those situations. Her love for RK but be special to crub natural reactions.