AB Sr's precondition:‘Definitely don’t want a wife who will work 9-5’

For all those who claim Amitabh never stopped Jaya from working https://indianexpress.com/article/entertainment/bollywood/amitabh-bachchan-had-a-condition-before-marrying-jaya-bachchan-navya-naveli-nanda-podcast-8236426/

This is in addition to Jaya's own past interview where she shared Amitabh told her he would like to see her around or serve him meals whenever he comes home.

It was not like only Jaya quit working due to kids.

Amitabh is very much a male chauvinist who made Jaya quit at peak of her career, insisted on marrying her though her dad was not keen that she marry him. While he himself casually spoke how he was so busy working that he never knew what class his kids studied in.

They are such a mismatched couple

I didn't want a husband with 9 to 5 job either

There r men today also who want homemaker. If he told her before marriage ths it was her choice to marry or not.

Its true that family life gets disturbed when both r working n also leads to fight between couple.

She should have left him after his multiple affairs n restart her career like Dimple Kapadia did.

Sorry. Disagree. My both parents were working. So were my uncle and aunt, grandparents and they managed fine.

They had no issues.

It is untrue that both partners working causes problems or fights or family life gets disturbed if both work.

With due respect most men who want wife to not work or not be too educated are nothing morr than misogynists who take women for granted, feel entitled to her time, body, want her to remain dependent on them and at their mercy and see her as someone with no dreams, identity or ambitions or ideas of her own and hope she totally loses herself and her identity to live as per their whims.

Anyway, Jaya'a dad wanted her to work and be independent and was not keen she gets married. It seems she fell hard for AB Sr and was hopelessly attached to him so she agreed to give up her career for him and also kept tolerating his affairs and never left him no matter how he treated her. I agree with you though. That she should have left him ala Dimple and restarted own career.

But then I wonder if Image conscious Amitabh would ever let her leave him? He is fanatical about his perfect image. I doubt if he or his parents would have allowed her to divorce him. His parents also did not let him dump Jaya for Rekha.

Originally posted by: atominis

Sorry. Disagree. My both parents were working. So were my uncle and aunt, grandparents and they managed fine.

They had no issues.

It is untrue that both partners working causes problems or fights or family life gets disturbed if both work.

With due respect most men who want wife to not work or not be too educated are nothing morr than misogynists who take women for granted, feel entitled to her time, body, want her to remain dependent on them and at their mercy and see her as someone with no dreams, identity or ambitions or ideas of her own and hope she totally loses herself and her identity to live as per their whims.

Anyway, Jaya'a dad wanted her to work and be independent and was not keen she gets married. It seems she fell hard for AB Sr and was hopelessly attached to him so she agreed to give up her career for him and also kept tolerating his affairs and never left him no matter how he treated her. I agree with you though. That she should have left him ala Dimple and restarted own career.

But then I wonder if Image conscious Amitabh would ever let her leave him? He is fanatical about his perfect image. I doubt if he or his parents would have allowed her to divorce him. His parents also did not let him dump Jaya for Rekha.

Every girl want such a husband who would support her in her career but in real world it's very hard to get n we have to compromise because men dont take part in home duties n both home n office responsibilities comes on women.

I have seen women too leaving job because they can't handle both work n home at same time because husband gets busy in his job n doesn't care.

Even narayana Murthy asked his wife that either she or he can work at Infosys n one has to manage family n she backed out. But difference is he appreciates her for her sacrifices n accepts he build his career by stepping on her's. In today's world it's even hard to find such men who acknowledges how many sacrifices their wife so they can succeed.

It is misogyny and sexism and putting undue pressure on women by egoistic men that forces women to stay home and leave work or quit studies and job.

I know women are even discouraged by parents and society to not study or have own dreams or career lest it becomes difficult for her to find a match. It only destroys life of girls and they remain frustrated or sad. Like Shweta Bachchan Nanda said she now realises one should be financially independent.

IMO women yielding to such diktats of men is reason why men feel so entitled and think they can dictate her or not bother about her or her dreams and crush her spirit and take her for granted.

I am proud of women like Dimple who managed to leave abusive RK and restarted career and also launched her own candle making business or likes of Madhuri, Sharmila, Hema etc working actively despite marriage and kids and even Waheeda Rehman who launched her own brand of cereals and became wildlife photographer and later also did character roles in films despite marriage.

Far better than likes of Jaya who become frustrated and bitter later and a shadow of their own past self and lose own potential.

Rather men need to be taught to do own chores and balance home and work from young age. Nowadays many men do contribute at home too, which is good. It should be encouraged. Mothers, grannies, aunts should stop pampering men to be entitled brats who expect women to wait upon them and themselves do nothing. If women can balance home and work and do housework despite their careers then why not men also balance home and work?

I wonder if this is the reason she is always so bitter. Always angry at paparazi, and all

Ander ki karwahat
Shweta is not in industry but abhishek is and us not successful

On the other hand aish is doing better than abhishek

Originally posted by: naaznin

There r men today also who want homemaker. If he told her before marriage ths it was her choice to marry or not.

Its true that family life gets disturbed when both r working n also leads to fight between couple.

She should have left him after his multiple affairs n restart her career like Dimple Kapadia did.

Easier said than done. Back in the day, it was rare for women to be willing to deny marriage. Indian society has typically expected women to adjust and sacrifice to meet their husband's and inlaws' demands.

It is the same with leaving cheating husbands. Patriarchal society put the onus on women to preserve the marriage and save the marriage even if the husband strays. A woman's self-worth was tied to her marital status.

Good for women who take a stand and leave bad marriages. But we also owe support to women who may not find the courage to seek their own freedom.

Here’s the full quote:

But he had told me, ‘I definitely don’t want a wife who will be 9 to 5. Please work, but not every day. You choose your projects and work with the right people’,” Jaya recalled.

Based on this he didn’t forbid her from working. He just didn’t want her being as busy as he was. It also sounds like he was weary of some people of Bollywood. Still wrong on his part though as it should have been entirely 100% her decision. But he was upfront with her and she went into this fully of her own free will. Given that her father wasn’t happy about her marrying Bachchan at all (Big B’s father had even written about this in his biography) Jaya definitely had the option to say no. She fell in love and accepted his conditions.

I’m not arguing that Amitabh Bachchan does not have misogynistic tendencies, although he probably hides them under the guise of being traditionalist. But if we want to criticize him for his treatment of Jaya then his alleged affairs are a much bigger problem than Jaya cutting back on her work. There’s also marrying Shweta off at 23, Navya not being allowed to become an actress although her own mother probably played a role there as well.