Originally posted by: return_to_hades
I think you are making some broad generalizations here. Things vary all across India. Single people have it tougher in certain regions. However, ever since Sushmita Sen adopted to become a single parent, urban areas have become somewhat more accepting of single people adopting. There are many urban youth who are also choosing the no marriage or no children lifestyles as well. It is far from perfect. There are still dirty glares and societal pressure. But it is easier than less urban areas where somethings are just not possible.
You hear about the Shani Shingnapur controversy because it hits a raw nerve. It challenges centuries old religious norms. The backlash makes it a big deal. However, there are many feminists fighting smaller, not so glamorous battles that reap rich gains. For example Maharashtra recently passed new laws allowing children to use mother's name, while women can use father's or husband's name. Ideally, someday women will not have to use fathers or husbands name and retain their own identity. But small steps at a time.
who is Sushmita Sen?a Miss universe.she has the celebrity status to shut people's tongue
wagging out.besides she has adopted.neither of her children are biological.
u see the girl or boy next door to u.
if they do the same as Tushar any day the next day the society will nt only gossip
bt as the child will grow they will tell other children to nt mix with that child who is
the offspring of single parent.giving birth is the easiest thing a parent can do.
bt ensuring that the child u have got in this stupid world of hypocrites does nt
bear the burnt of ur decision to become a single parent is what u must first
address.forget society ur uncle aunts relatives all will have a say.
as the child will grow he or she will hear the ridicules of weaklings who when will have nothing
to win over like their parents will tell that child ur born of a donor's egg or sperm no proper father
or mother..imagine the impact it will cause the child.the child will grow bitter unless his her
maturity is such to understand the intention of the zest he or she is subjected to.
as children like amir or srk or Tushar's may nt have much mud slinging on their face
bt a common man woh bhi middle class is nt so lucky..better to remain childless than
to bring such a child n ruin his/her life too...
n for the other broader things i have said..
there is too many a slip between the cup n the lips..
what is passed as an order if nt implemented or is prevented from practice
due to social mindset is as useless as uselessness is.
Edited by JustMySelf - 8 years ago
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