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I so know how you feel, Swaps. Sending you a big hug. I go through these phases where I cry whenever I am alone, and can't see a way out of this thicket. Am grateful when they pass, but it's hard to keep on being upbeat all the time.
I had a cry when my BIL's son turned a year old, and we heard how much he enjoyed his cake and all the attention. My husband saw me sitting on the stairs and having a silent weep, and he sat next to me and held my hand till I felt better. Of course I am thrilled that the other kid had a great time, but one can't help feeling weary.
Also yesterday, my 2 year old niece came on the phone to sing Happy Birthday. She sang perfectly, and my son said Aaah--Aaaah back. At those times, I wish for a heart of stone so I wouldn't have any feelings.
All the best with telling Rish. Don't worry about the sibling thing at all, Swaps. There are days when I feel I do justice to neither child, and my Sisyphean burden is insane. My son has that self-centred trait which so many autistic kids have, and my daughter clings more to me because she wants me to give more time to her. We divide and conquer during the week, so that each child gets the attention they need. I think Rish is a very lucky guy, to have his mother by his side for everything, big and small, and you are probably the rock star in his world.
The little guy seems to have had a great birthday. He came home like a conquering hero. We had sent him to school in a nice kurta-pyjama, and he was admired enthusiastically by the teachers, who worked hard to keep him clean all day.😆 We sent treats for his friends, and mithai for the teachers, and they in turn gave him a very sweet birthday crown. He was really sleepy after all that, and fell asleep mid-prayers.
Keep us posted as to how things go for Rish. Swaps, though we have never met, I feel like we are friends. Take care, okay?
Mahika.
I had a cry when my BIL's son turned a year old, and we heard how much he enjoyed his cake and all the attention. My husband saw me sitting on the stairs and having a silent weep, and he sat next to me and held my hand till I felt better. Of course I am thrilled that the other kid had a great time, but one can't help feeling weary.
Also yesterday, my 2 year old niece came on the phone to sing Happy Birthday. She sang perfectly, and my son said Aaah--Aaaah back. At those times, I wish for a heart of stone so I wouldn't have any feelings.
All the best with telling Rish. Don't worry about the sibling thing at all, Swaps. There are days when I feel I do justice to neither child, and my Sisyphean burden is insane. My son has that self-centred trait which so many autistic kids have, and my daughter clings more to me because she wants me to give more time to her. We divide and conquer during the week, so that each child gets the attention they need. I think Rish is a very lucky guy, to have his mother by his side for everything, big and small, and you are probably the rock star in his world.
The little guy seems to have had a great birthday. He came home like a conquering hero. We had sent him to school in a nice kurta-pyjama, and he was admired enthusiastically by the teachers, who worked hard to keep him clean all day.😆 We sent treats for his friends, and mithai for the teachers, and they in turn gave him a very sweet birthday crown. He was really sleepy after all that, and fell asleep mid-prayers.
Keep us posted as to how things go for Rish. Swaps, though we have never met, I feel like we are friends. Take care, okay?
Mahika.
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